20/06/2025
BelĂȘfore I trave|ed to the Netherlands đłđ± back in 2020, my plan was to come back to Nigeria after 4 years and get married, then bring my wife abroad alongside my kid/kids. But guess what, this is my 5th year in the Netherlands and my plans absolutely changed with so many experiences and lessons I have learnt from other peopleâs stories.
Within the duration of 4 years, I have witnessed about 12 divorces and separations between Nigerian couples (especially Igbos) here in the Netherlands. Last month, an Igbo man from Anambra state who have lived here in the Netherlands for 15 years was crying profusely while narrating his divorce story to me at the front of a shopping mall đ.
Whatâs his crime? He went back home and brought his wife abroad alongside their kids, made sure he provided for them, gave them a good life,, I am talking about a man who owns a mansion and other valuable assets in the Netherlands.
Unknown to the man, his wifeâs ex boyfriend is also here in the Netherlands but he was in prison when his wife and kids arrived Netherlands.
3 years after his wife and kids arrival in the Netherlands, his wifeâs ex boyfriend was released from prison. Now guess what happened, his wife started seeing and sleeepping with her ex boyfriend who was just released from prison. Meanwhile, her ex boyfriend is married to Oyibo lady with 3 kids. And from the moment she began to sleeep with her ex boyfriend, the Anambra manâs marriage became shaky. disrespect, lies and betrayal took over his home. His wife filed for a divorce last year December and the procedure was completed last month, of which she took over the manâs mansion and other valuable assets, leaving the man homeless, frustrated and depressed .
I incessantly asked this man, were you in anyway abusing, maltreating, be@ting, or tre@ting your wife b@d? He swore by every single thing in him that he never tried such. And to solidify his answer, his wifeâs elder brother who also lives in the Netherlands was also standing and having a conversation with with him at the front of the shopping mall before I met them, his Inlaw confirmed his story coz heâs against his sisterâs atrocious and shameful acts. I cried deep down my heart coz I had to put myself in the Anambra manâs shoes, 15 years of suffering gone in a twinkle of an eye (Chukwu ekwekwana ihe ĂČjĂČĂČ).
If a man is treating you wrong or maltreating you in a relationship or marriage, then itâs absolutely okay to walk away. But when a man is treating you right, doesnât abuse you, why betray his love and trust for you?
To worsen things, Facebook has become a dwelling place for some toxic Igbo vvomen (not all though) with bad character, behaviour, shameful attitude.
Wherever thereâs a story of broke-shaming, body-shaming or shameful related behaviour, child or house help molesting/maltreatment on Facebook, itâs 90% likely to be an Igbo vvomĂąn. Whenever thereâs a story on social media about women maltreating their husbands abroad, it likely to be an Igbo vvoman. Then you see some other yeye ones in the comments section applauding their fuulishness. Some nuisance without shame!
When I make a post about such, you see comments like, âyou have mother and sisters and theyâre women tooâ. Yes I have mother and sisters and non of them is here on Facebook constituting nuisance or rubbing mud on my familyâs name.
As a matter of fact, Iâm training my younger sister in the university, providing all her needs. Sheâll never come here on social media to behave like a f@, not even in real life. Any day she suddenly change and becomes toxic like some f@ on this social media, I go comot my hands for her matter kpata kpata, I wonât even let her come anywhere close to me. I have vvomen in my life including my 3 girlfriends & 1 side chick, some female friends back in Nigeria and they behave like vvomen, not f@.
Non of my friends here in abroad is talking about going back to Nigeria to get a wife, all of them are looking for wife abroad, wanting to explore Europe in search of wife, because of âfear of the unknownâ.
After years of suffering, youâll travel back home, meet a lady in Nigeria (especially some Igbo vvomen) with no skills or tangible thing going on in her life (a lady who acts like âholier than thouâ), a lady her father and non of her brothers could not afford to send abroad, give her an unconditional love and try to change her life. The moment sheâs upgraded or arrive abroad, sheâll turn to a tigeress and vĂȘminist overnight, she begins to feel like she has arrived. then you begin to hear things like âmy eyes have opened and Iâm now wokeâ. Was her eyes closed before, no. She has a bad character, behaviour, attitude, lack of home training, a sh@mĂȘless akwuna and has been hiding them in pretence, thatâs the message sheâs trying to pass to you.
Itâs shĂŁmeful! Absolutely shĂŁmeful!! ShĂŁmeful!!! Thatâs not love, thatâs a shrine to atr0city. And I will not subject myself to such nĂłnsĂȘnsĂȘ.
Greetings from the Netherlands đłđ±
©ïžPerry Izuu Iwuoha
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