18/05/2024
Dear Kings,
When it comes to marriage, do not break the bank, or go to extremes of getting loans or selling your assets, just so you can pay bride price.
There's nothing noble about that, infact it is stupidity of the highest order.
Nothing a woman, to be more specific the modern woman has, is worth hurting your pockets.
Yes, you're most likely getting a second hand woman. One who has given whatever she will give you to other men before you and she gave them for free.
So what exactly are you paying for that those other men didn't deem worth paying for?
Go with whatever you have, just for formality, it's not even a token of appreciation anymore.
What exactly are you appreciating about a woman who gave her virginity to someone else, who did countless sleepovers with someone else, who cohabitated with someone else, who even got pregnant for someone, who aborted for someone.
Once she is not a virgin, do not give in to her family's silly demands saying it is tradition. Tradition is marrying their daughter off as Virgin. They didn't keep to that, why should you keep to their tradition at all cost? If they can't accept that, they can keep their daughter.
Sometimes the families use a higher bride price to drive you away, they just don’t want you to marry their daughter knowing fully well that she does not deserve a good man like you. Take the hint and walk away from the proposed marriage.
Keep enjoying all the benefits of marriage for free with her.
If you must pay, don't even pay for all the items on the list at once. Pay in installments.
That is how you will actually get her to behave properly. Her parents will always remind her to behave well so they can get the rest of their bride price and their uniforms.
No amount is too small for bride price. Do what you can afford.
Learn or perish.
Ebikebuna Augustine Aluzu
