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2 Gray Doves baby loss support Safe space to share for moms grieving their babies.

Mother and child are connected in the deepest way forever. Science has proven the DNA cells of our babies live in our bl...
16/01/2025

Mother and child are connected in the deepest way forever. Science has proven the DNA cells of our babies live in our bloodstream for years after birth and in our brains for our entire life.

Do you still think it is possible for a mom to forget about her Angel baby and move on like they were a thing of the past?

Our bodies remember them, our minds carry them for as long as we live. The best anyone of us can do is to keep on living life as best we can.

Dear family and friends, our little babies lost, are always a part of us, our subconscious remembers them. Sometimes we try not to talk about them because it makes you uncomfortable so when we do talk about them, please note that we are not being overly sensitive or holding on to what makes us sad, we are holding on to a part of us that CAN'T EVER leave us.

Dear Angel mom, if you ever want to talk about your baby and it feels like no one wants to listen or say their names along with you, please remember that here on 2 Gray Doves baby loss support we will always say their names.

Photo credit: not mine.

08/01/2025

A few days back I was just peacefully arranging my room and my mind was roaming. It roamed to the fact that Gray would have been 2 years in March this year, oh boy, I felt pain 😢.

Yesterday, I was coming out of the bathroom and out of nowhere, I mean, literally nowhere I got slammed with his death, oh wait! I know where it came from. I was thinking next week will be Skye's 14 weeks immunization and I remembered that was the last one Gray took, he died 6 days before he turned 6 months so he didn't get to take the 6 months immunization. The pain that slammed into my chest at the thought of that had me staggering and I'm not joking at all, I staggered from the impact, it was like I was hit with something, I had to steady myself.

A few minutes ago, after gisting with hubby, talking about goals for this year, again, like what seems like out of nowhere I was slammed with Gray's death, not just his death but the very day he died (this has always been the hardest of all memories to deal with). My mind quickly browsed through all that happened, from how we waited to be seen in the hospital, to how the doctor looked at my like I was a joker when I complained that he wasn't adding weight and that left me worried, to how her voice changed when she finally saw him, the urgency with which she said “this baby is anaemic and very dehydrated. He needs to be put on drip immediately but we don't have bed”.
My eye watered 😢 and in trying to wave it off, I just got menthol in my eyes 😢😂. (You see, I have a swelling in my hand, don't know how it happened, hubby had just massaged it with menthol and I completely forgot, I tried to wipe my eyes on my hand to stop the tears and ended up here 😂🤣, it's funny but Not)

God! Just one little thing could trigger a whole trip down memory lane.

For someone who hasn't been here, they wouldn't understand it if I was to say this happened, they may innocently think that I am the one who is letting my mind sway to places like this, this is why they say things like “don't think about it, it's all in the past”. If only we could, if only we could actually control our thoughts and decide what we want to think about but we don't and we can't. The memories are buried deep within our souls but also so close to the skin that almost nothing can pull it up.

Dear Mama, it might be difficult for others to understand you, it might be difficult for you even to understand you as you might blame yourself too for allowing yourself to hurt this much but I understand you, I know it isn't a choice you make and I'm here if you need to talk.

Dear friend who doesn't understand us, be grateful you don't (I'm glad you don't) but please try to be accommodating. Don't tell a mom she's been grieving her baby for too long and she should move on already. Don't tell her to shut out the bad memories and hold on to the good, I honestly don't think we can, we can only control (slightly) our reactions to it and we are doing our absolute best. On the days we need to break down, just be kind to us and give us a hug if you can and if you can't, you definitely can absolutely say or do nothing.

🫂🫂🫂🫂 Always.

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06/01/2025

Hello Mamas, our rainbow 🌈 baby is here.

I've been so occupied with his care but I'm working on freeing my hands up a little bit so I can do more here.

Let me answer some questions you may have for me as regards to having a rainbow 🌈 baby so close to an Angel.

Yes, having my son has helped me deal with the pain of losing his brother. I have a beautiful son to love up on and create so many memories with and nurse and take care of, so I have less breakdowns than I used to.

Having my Clear Blue Skye has strengthened my belief that indeed life can be beautiful again after the darkest storms.

However, this is the tricky part, having my son hasn't completely taken away the pain of losing his brother (I'm not sure that pain can completely be taken away, ever). I still breakdown (on the inside) whenever I think about losing him. I still wish he was here, then I would have had 3 beautiful babies to love up on. I still feel a pain like none I've ever known, when I think about all the memories I wouldn't get to make with Gray.

In summary, yes, my Rainbow 🌈 baby has been totally worth everything I went through to have him here.

This is just my experience though, I know a mom who experienced the exact opposite. She couldn't bond with her newborn, she couldn't experience the Joy that came with being a Mom after losing so much, it took her a while to accept her rainbow 🌈 baby and in the hard times she almost wished to give her up in exchange for her Angel.

None of this is right or wrong. I keep saying, in grief there is no right and wrong, white and black, there is no clear line and there is definitely no one approved, right way to cope, especially when you lose a child.

Whatever you are feeling now is okay, don't judge it, don't compare it to someone else's feelings, grieving is unique and peculiar to each individual.
Whether you want a baby to fill you up and cope with the loneliness of an empty crib or whether you do not even want to entertain the thought of having another baby, you do you, let it flow.

In all, always remember that I love you and you are always in my heart and never ALONE 🫂🫂🫂🫂.

P.S; my DM is always open 👐.

As we celebrate the last day of another year, we're humbled by all that we've seen and achieved this year.We are saddene...
31/12/2024

As we celebrate the last day of another year, we're humbled by all that we've seen and achieved this year.

We are saddened as we acknowledge all the pain in this world 🌍 as a result of baby loss, at the same time we are humbled by the little bit of comfort and companionship we have been able to provide to grieving moms.

When we set out to do this, we really didn't know we could do it but we have been able to reach out to and be there for almost 50 angel moms this year and to let them know they are not alone in their pains.

It hasn't been an easy ride, sometimes I would be so deep in my own grief and I'll get a DM and I'd have to be there for them. While I was with my rainbow 🌈 baby and dealing with all that came with pregnancy, I still tried to show up and even as a newborn mom with all of it's challenges.

It hasn't been easy as some mom's stories cut almost too deep, sometimes after speaking with some moms I become shattered but in all, I kept going because I knew I was filling a Gap that needed filling.

I wish, come 2025, no parent, no mom will have to lose their babies but the world hasn't suddenly become perfect. This is why 2 Gray Doves baby loss support is still going to be here, to let you know that you are NOT ALONE 🚫

May 2025 be better and lighter for us all.

I love you all so much and I'm always praying for you 🙏💞🫂🫂🫂

24/12/2024

Someone somewhere this very minute is gearing up to have a really miserable 😖 Christmas, not by choice of course. She/he is trying their best, giving it all they've got to make sure they can have a happy Christmas but no matter what, they are going to fail because this is their first Christmas without their baby and no matter how hard they try they just can't seem adjust to it.

Someone somewhere this very minute is gearing up to bury their baby or to go deliver their baby who has already passed while in the womb, or to leave the hospital without their baby who passed shortly after delivery.

Someone somewhere this very minute is well aware that it will be Christmas soon but doesn't have the least energy it requires to be jolly.

I see you all, I know the pain, I've been there this is why I can so boldly say so.

Last year, I was the someone in scenario 1. I did all I could, made sure my daughter had a dress, her hair was made, there was food. I even tried getting in the holiday spirit by going to Christmas carol and drama, constantly playing music and singing along at the top of my voice, but nothing worked. I had the most miserable Christmas, I cried almost all day and ended the day alone.
This is why I know this happens.

Whoever you are, in whatever stage or scenario you fall in, I just wish you know and remember in the thick of it that you are not alone and you are loved. Someone somewhere (me) knows how it feels and I'm always here for you.
If it gets too hard at this period and you need to talk to someone you can always send me a DM, I promise, I will reply as soon as I see it.

If you were a Christmas lover like me and feel it's all ruined and you would never enjoy Christmas again, permit me to say that yes, your Christmases will never be the same again, there will also be an emptiness, a loneliness and a wistfulness at Christmas but it's not going to always be miserable 😖😖😖😖.

I love you all and I'm praying for us all this Christmas 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂.

I've been unstable on this space but this little cutie brought me out today.Until you have a baby and get to take pictur...
12/09/2024

I've been unstable on this space but this little cutie brought me out today.

Until you have a baby and get to take pictures of his first day on earth and his last day, then you don't really understand what it means for your heart to be broken 💔💔💔😭

Today, I want to take the time to celebrate ALEXANDER EBRUVWIYO CHIDI ESEGINE. We know you are in a better place but we would have loved to have you here with us.

We wake up every morning and wonder about you, how you would have been. We go to bed every night wondering what the day would have been like if you were here amongst your siblings. Everyday we feel your absence and wish this could all be a really really bad dream we get to wake up from.

Dear Alex, today I hope you have a blast with all your new Angel friends up in heaven, I'm sure Gray must have woken you up with a happy birthday song (he takes after me after all). Down here, we remember you today with mixed feelings, we are so heartbroken we can't throw you a cool party and watch you make a mess of the cake 🎂, we are heartbroken we won't get to complain that the celebrant just wants to be carried, we wish more than anything we could take pictures of you as you clock 1 today, however, we are grateful for the time we had with you.

Dear Alex, your time on earth 🌎 might have been short but your life time isn't because for as long as we live, you will too, you will always leave in our hearts, in our thoughts, in our memories.

Dear Alex, today is a tough day for your Mom and loved ones, please send her a sign, maybe like a rainbow 🌈 or something but just send her a sign she can feel your love and comfort through.

You will always be missed but most importantly, you will always be remembered.

Happy 1st posthumous birthday little Man, we love you always.

Sending hugs to you sweet Mama Elizabeth Nwosu Esegine

Never knew this was a thing until now. The first Sunday of May is International Day of bereaved moms. To every bereaved ...
05/05/2024

Never knew this was a thing until now. The first Sunday of May is International Day of bereaved moms. To every bereaved Mom on my timeline I want to say again that you are all the strongest people. Losing a child is a pain that cannot be compared to any other, you lose a part of you and sometimes it is a real struggle to see the light in the World. Keep going, keep your head up when you talk about your babies, never let anyone make you feel like you are grieving too much, never let anyone make you feel you have to give up the memories of your babies. I love you all and I'm always rooting for you 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂

01/05/2024

It's been a while.

Happy New Month Mamas 💐💐

Women are naturally strong, maybe not so much physically (although I can and I do argue this because I think it takes th...
08/03/2024

Women are naturally strong, maybe not so much physically (although I can and I do argue this because I think it takes the most strength to carry and birth another human 🤔 but that's a topic for another day).

Women are stronger 💪💪 than we are given credit for, however it takes another level and form of strength to go through child loss.

So on this day, as the whole world 🌍 celebrates the amazingly strong and beautiful species called women, I want to specially celebrate every Angel Mom on my space 🌌🌌.
You don't know how you do it but you show up everyday and you take care of others. You don't know how you do it but you breathe and put one foot 🦶 in front of the other.
You don't know how you do but even in your toughest time you still hold on.
Y'all are some real inspiration and I have a lot of you on here. I see you going through the worst nightmare a person could go through and somehow there is still a light 🕯️ shining 🌟 through you, there is still some glow 🌟 to you. Y'all are amazing 🤩, I love you all and I'm sincerely truly rooting for you.

This is so true and so sad 😢.Sure, we are all gonna die someday. I don't know about you but I would like to be missed an...
06/03/2024

This is so true and so sad 😢.

Sure, we are all gonna die someday. I don't know about you but I would like to be missed and spoken of as often as possible when I die. I would love to be remembered and not just put in the 'or well, that's done, nothing we can do about it now!' box.

We forget that grief is Love, you can't grieve someone or something you never loved 😍🥰 and you can't Love someone or something and not grieve their loss.

Now am I saying don't move on with your life? Don't ever be happy again? Absolutely not, just don't leave me behind when I'm gone.

So, I believe my son feels this way too and it's my duty to honor him and his wish. Don't tell me my son would want me to "move and forget him", don't tell me my "tears 😭 make him sad and he won't rest in peace 🕊️", do you really believe that? If you do you need a reset (in my honest opinion) but who am I to say?
What I do know for sure is that I can grieve my son_ and I will_ while living my life to the fullest and the best way I can.
What I know for sure is that my son will always be a part of my life and whatever I do here does not affect his state of rest, he is at rest already and he will always be but I'm sure he would be happy to know he is so loved and so greatly missed.
Unless of course y'all are saying he can't see what's going on down here, if that's the case what does it matter what I do or don't do and why do you all say some of these things.

I get it, sometimes you think you are helping but trust me you are NOT. You are making me feel guilty for grieving and it shouldn't be, I shouldn't feel guilty for grieving my baby, I should grieve my baby whenever, wherever and however I need to.

And this applies to everyone grieving, nobody else should tell you how to grieve, definitely not.

If you are someone who loves a person who is grieving and wants to help there are a lot of ways to. If you feel the person is not grieving the right way or the safe way how about you put the person in prayers if you believe in it.

Okay, so I saw this picture and it resonated so much and rant mode activated but I'm done now.

Have a beautiful day.

Last quick one, if anyone on my TL will love to help me celebrate my son's first heavenly birthday I would be sooooooooo glad and appreciative. I know this isn't conventional and all but if you could just post this "Happy Heavenly Birthday" or sometime along the lines for my sweet boy and tag me on his birthday which is on the 25th of this month then just send me a DM or comment and I will send you a picture. Thank you so much guys.

I couldn't wish anyone a happy new month yesterday, I mean how could I? March is supposed to be one of my favorite month...
02/03/2024

I couldn't wish anyone a happy new month yesterday, I mean how could I? March is supposed to be one of my favorite months but with it comes a lot of heartache because it is one heavy milestone I wouldn't have wanted to miss but then this morning I realized that regardless of the fact that my March Miracle couldn't be here today, it doesn't change the fact that I received an incredible blessing in March.
So, I'm going to try, hard as it may be, to celebrate this month and celebrate my 4ps (Precious, Perfect, Priceless Prince).

Happy Birthday 🎂 in advance my Prince, even though you are celebrating it in Heaven 😭 I will keep the party going on down here too 🎉💃💃.

Always and forever my baby, you will remain my 4Ps.




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