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14/05/2025

THREE KEY ELEMENTS FOR BUILDING STRONG RELATIONSHIPS WITH GOD AND PEOPLE

3. LETTING GO OF BITTERNESS (ii)

Jesus said,

“He who believes in Me, as the Scripture has said, out of his heart will flow rivers of living water” (John 7:38 NKJV).

Your heart cannot possibly release dead, bitter water and sweet living water at the same time. For the rivers of healing to flow out of you, they must flow into all compartments of your heart and administer healing to you first before they flow out of you to bless others. You cannot be a blessing if you are not first blessed. I’d like to let you know that these rivers from God’s throne in heaven have God as their origin/source and so are the trees along their banks. The leaves on these trees are for the healing of the nations (Rev. 22:1-2). Let them heal you my friend.

Finally on this subject, the writer of Hebrews warns thus:

“Looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God: lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled” (Heb. 12:15, NKJV).

Falling short of God’s grace is like running out of fuel in the middle of the highway with no house or human soul to come to one’s aid. Don’t you want to experience that grace? God’s grace can be enjoyed and can be lost. One of the quickest ways of losing God’s grace is by harbouring bitterness. The root of a plant is its life support without which the plant dies. Dealing with bitterness is not only done by positive confessions and positive thinking but by yielding to the Holy Spirit and opening your heart to His healing by forgiving past hurt and equally yielding to Him as well as presenting fresh ones as they shall never cease coming at us. Forgiving hurt is a badge of honour.

Let Him work on your hurt today; for indeed to err is human and to forgive is divine.

To be continued…

Culled from my book, BIRTHING HIS EXCELLENCE

With love from your brother,

Arome Osayi

09/05/2025

How do we measure the impact of a ministry?

The quality of lives that are transformed by the ministry’s labors. Evidence of change in character and thinking to reflect more of kingdom life as believers do hunger and thirst more for righteousness. This should be so visible to the community in which the ministry is domiciled that the believers connected to it can be called Christians indeed. When people love Jesus more, look like Him more and depend on Him more than they do the minister.

What is your take on ministers who negotiate their honorariums before responding to an invitation?

Such are hirelings who are in service of themselves, not Jesus Christ. Their reward is confined to the earth. They would be materially wealthy but spiritually wretched, pitiful, poor, blind and naked, like the folks at the Laodicean church (Revelation 3:14-17). Mammon is their Lord and they are building with wood, hay, and straw. Nothing of their labors would matter on that Day.

Culled my book, A TREATISE ON CHRISTIAN MINISTRY

With love from your brother,

Arome Osayi.

08/05/2025

THREE KEY ELEMENTS FOR BUILDING STRONG RELATIONSHIPS WITH GOD AND PEOPLE:

2. DEALING WITH HUMAN FAULTS (ii)

“With all lowliness and gentleness, with long suffering, bearing with one another in love” (Ephesians. 4:2, NKJV).

Bearing one another in love in practical terms means creating space in our heart to endure and tolerate people’s weakness. The more often we do this, the larger our hearts become. So, no matter how bad people hurt us, though we feel the pain, the love of God which is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Spirit wells up within us like a monsoon and neutralizes the power of the hurt; thus enabling us to forgive. In a nut shell, we feel good when we forgive.

I’m saying we feel God’s peace flood our hearts when we forgive. The moment we forgive, we open the doors of our hearts for healing to flow. That is why the unforgiving heart is like the Dead Sea having no outlet but keeps accumulating toxic chemicals. An unforgiving heart cannot bear God’s excellence – it is too toxic. Just like the Dead Sea has no form of life in it, so can an unforgiving heart not bear any trace of God’s beautiful virtues. That is what makes non-forgiveness a terminal spiritual disease.

Some people find it difficult to let past hurt go not because they do not want to, but because the hurt is like fresh wound etched in their memories.

God’s wings overflow with healing, yet they cannot bear closed, bitter hearts. The Holy Spirit descended upon Jesus because His heart was large enough to forgive the sins of the world. That is why in giving Him the Spirit, God did not hold back – God gave Him all of the Spirit (John 3:34).

To be continued…

Culled from my book, BIRTHING HIS EXCELLENCE

With love from your brother,

Arome Osayi

07/05/2025

THREE KEY ELEMENTS FOR BUILDING STRONG RELATIONSHIPS WITH GOD AND PEOPLE:

2. DEALING WITH HUMAN FAULTS (i)

In human relationships mistakes abound, and sometimes people get hurt. If it is not the husband cheating on the wife, it is the wife refusing to submit to the man’s authority; if it is not a brother feeling bad about being talked down at, it is a sister whose heart has been broken after putting time and energy into a five-year long relationship that suddenly hits the rocks.

If it is not the pastor using people’s confidences as raw materials to preach, it is the members making life difficult for the pastor by leaving him to do everything himself; if it is not the church failing to be there for the people in their most lonely moments of despair, it is a church leader stealing from the purse of the church. I could go on and on because in our world of over seven billion souls, there are over seven billion unique problems with the church taking more than to one billion of those problems.

No human life placed under the microscope of scrutiny is without faults. Our differences should remind us that we are humans after all. God’s divinity within us as members of His body unites us regardless of our differences. However, whenever two or more people relate, friction is naturally bound to occur. Paul presents a solution to this ever-lingering problem:

“With all lowliness and gentleness, with long suffering, bearing with one another in love” (Ephesians. 4:2, NKJV).

If we allow the Holy Spirit to teach us to tolerate and bear with one another in love, our perspective of human differences will change. We soon learn to see our differences not as a curse but a blessing. We will then begin to celebrate our differences.

To be continued…

Culled from my book, BIRTHING HIS EXCELLENCE

With love from your brother,

Arome Osayi.

06/05/2025

THREE KEY ELEMENTS FOR BUILDING STRONG RELATIONSHIPS WITH GOD AND PEOPLE:

1. THE AWESOME POWER OF FORGIVENESS (iv)

It is natural to get angry. Jesus Himself got angry a few times in the days of His earthly ministry, but it is totally deadly to hold on to anger. That is why Scripture enjoins us not to let the sun go down on our anger (Ephesians 4:26). This is because given time; anger is like a freshly tapped palm wine –it ferments. When anger ferments, it gives rise to bitterness.

Bitterness is the by-product of fermented anger. If you have ever experienced heartburn before, you will agree with me that it is like fire put in the middle of your chest. Medical experts say most heartburns result from food not properly taken care of in the stomach. In the lay man’s explanation, these food substances “ferment” and produce unpleasant substances that set the chest on fire.

In this journey of faith, offence will always come from those who hate us and those who love us, those we do not know and those we trust. Sometimes in anger, we feel like strangling someone or breaking their bones. It is okay to feel that way. It is, however, not okay to continue feeling that way.

To be continued… Culled from my book, BIRTHING HIS EXCELLENCE

With love from your brother,

Arome Osayi

05/05/2025

THREE KEY ELEMENTS FOR BUILDING STRONG RELATIONSHIPS WITH GOD AND PEOPLE:

1. THE AWESOME POWER OF FORGIVENESS (iii)

The sun scorched mercilessly on the blood-drenched wooden cross where Jesus hung between two criminals. His hand and feet hurt greatly from nails refusing to let them go. His nostrils managed to scoop oxygen from the air filled with taunting rage from onlookers.

His lung felt like over inflated balloons at the verge of exploding. High fever from partial respiration made His head pound like the feet of ten thousand troops marching. As if that was not misfortune enough, someone handed Him vinegar to drink. His body could hardly house His spirit.

On this summit of pain; very unlikely and most unexpected, He said these golden words:

“Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do” (Luke23:34, NKJV).

Jesus did not only preach forgiveness, He led a life of forgiveness. It was from the abundance of His life that all His sermons came. He did all He taught setting precedents for all those who will follow in His footsteps.

Forgiveness is a major prerequisite to living a life of excellence. It is a mechanism set by God to take care of all roots of bitterness so that the devil does not take advantage of unpleasant experiences to make us self-destruct.

To be continued… Culled from my book, BIRTHING HIS EXCELLENCE

With love from your brother,

Arome Osayi

04/05/2025

THREE KEY ELEMENTS FOR BUILDING STRONG RELATIONSHIPS WITH GOD AND PEOPLE:

1. THE AWESOME POWER OF FORGIVENESS (ii)

“Sir, I’d like to thank you for the concern and love. The word you shared today was touching and I must confess a little disturbing”. He swallowed spit, took a deep breath and continued,

“The disturbing part of your sermon sir, was when you said that Jesus demands that we forgive those who hurt us and bless those who hate us. Do you mean every kind of hurt?

“Yes”, replied the evangelist calmly.

“No matter the gravity of devastation the hurt caused us? Do you mean we just let it go? Just like that?” The man insisted with tension building in his voice.

“Yes Sir”, answered the evangelist calmly, with unshaken composure. The man then lost his cool and decided to bare his mind.

“Man of God, how do you expect me to forgive the men who dragged my pregnant wife before my eyes and took turns in rapi*g her until she lost consciousness, then went ahead to tear open her abdomen to bring out the baby and hacked it to pieces and looked into my eyes with impunity and cheered like they had just won a medal? How do you want me to bless those who starved me for three straight weeks by giving me fresh urine and faeces everyday and asking me to eat, and leaving me to die under the rubble of my own house? Today, I’m homeless without a family because of them. I do not even know where my siblings are as I talk to you”.

The man tried to choke back soft sobs, but couldn’t push back the warm lines of tears that streamed down his cheeks. The evangelist was heart-broken, he knew the answer to the man’s question, but also knew that what the man needed at that point was more than a textbook answer from the Bible. The man needed to be healed from his hurt.

To be continued… Culled from my book, BIRTHING HIS EXCELLENCE

With love from your brother,

Arome Osayi

04/05/2025

THREE KEY ELEMENTS FOR BUILDING STRONG RELATIONSHIPS WITH GOD AND PEOPLE:

1. THE AWESOME POWER OF FORGIVENESS (i)

“And forgive our debts as we forgive our debtors” (Matt. 6:12, NKJV)

A Nigerian soldier who had just rededicated his life to Christ had his name shortlisted for the United Nation’s peace keeping mission in the war-torn nation of Sierra Leone. He was quite excited to not only serve his nation, but serve God on a foreign soil. By the time the plane he boarded touched down, he knew God was giving him a once-in-a-life-time opportunity to preach the gospel. He quickly settled down to a local church and soon began the work of evangelism.

Sierra Leone was in many ways different from Nigeria. This soldier tried as much as he could to learn the new ways of life of the people to whom he was sent. He had to learn to enjoy new delicacies and speak tongue-twisting slangs. The few dollars that got into his pockets from the coffers of the United Nations was hardly used on himself. He walked on foot, rode in trucks, and boarded ferries in a bid to traverse Sierra Leone with the gospel of Jesus Christ. He recorded tremendous success as people opened their hearts to his ministry. Many wondered how a soldier – a Nigerian soldier would rather go around sharing tracts, witnessing and praying with people who had different needs than join his friends in clubs, bars and brothels.

One day, he went out as usual with the title of his message being “forgiveness”. He hopped around the subject the best way he could and every word that came from his mouth was bathed in evangelistic passion, especially, from the gospels where Jesus Himself taught on the same subject. His voice thundered at his quiet and attentive audience. When he was done, he asked if anyone had a question. A man quickly stuck his right hand in the sky as if he had been waiting for such a time to let out the pressure in his heart. Then, the man asked the soldier evangelist the following questions:

To be continued… Culled from my book, BIRTHING HIS EXCELLENCE

With love from your brother,

Arome Osayi

01/05/2025

Are the wives of preachers automatically preachers and can women lead public ministries within the body of Christ?

i. No, the wives of preachers do not automatically become preachers because of marriage. They too need to receive a call directly from Jesus as their husbands did and willingly accept it. However, their being joined by the covenant of matrimony to their preacher husbands automatically obligates them to build robust support systems for their husbands’ ministries at the home front.

ii. In Christ, there are no males or females, there are only believers (Galatians 3:28). The Christian ministry is not gender-based, it is grace-based. So, yes, women can lead public ministries in the body of Christ.

Culled from my book, A TREATISE ON CHRISTIAN MINISTRY

With love from your brother,

Arome Osayi.

01/05/2025

HAPPY NEW MONTH, HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WORKERS’ DAY: REMEMBER, WORK IS SPIRITUAL!

Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might; for there is no work or device or knowledge or wisdom in the grave where you are going. (Ecclesiastes 9:10, NKJV)

Work is spiritual. There's no such thing as secular work for the believer because secular means without God (atheos in the Greek). And those that are without God cannot do His work because they are estranged from Christ, alienated from the covenants of promise and the commonwealth of Israel, and utterly hopeless (Ephesians 2:12). The work God gave Adam in the Garden of Eden was quotidian – it was far from spectacular. This is because he was required to manage and defend it, and in doing so, he would fulfil God’s plan on earth.

You see, being an apostle of God in the marketplace means God has given you another kind of pulpit and audience. Your microphone and public address system would rather be the work of your hands. Your life, principles, and values would be your sermons, and the impact you make would be based on the effective exercise of your measure in Christ.

Are you an entrepreneur, employee or employer, athlete, artisan, trader, entertainer etc.? Do you have to wake up and show up at work or your place of business daily, weekly, fortnightly, and monthly etc.? Wherever you are stationed in the marketplace, know that your number one instruction from the Lord is to serve those within the confines of your portion of the marketplace as though you were serving the Lord Himself. Always strike a balance between Caesar and God. (Ephesians 6:5-8,Colossians 3:22-25).

Culled from my book, AN EPISTLE TO THE APOSTLES IN THE MARKETPLACE

May the increase of the Lord flood the work of your hands in Jesus’ name!

With love from The Omoge & I

28/04/2025

IS THE MINISTRY HEREDITARY AND TRANSFERABLE AMONG FAMILY MEMBERS?

In order to answer this question, permit me to quote a passage of Scripture,

Yet to all who did receive him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God— children born not of natural descent, nor of human decision or a husband’s will, but born of God. (John 1:12-13, NIV)

The group of people described here are those qualified to do God’s work. In the work of the ministry, divinity overrides biology. Natural descent as perpetuated through bloodlines, human decision and the will of man are all useless in a matter like the Christian ministry, which is entirely handled by divine ordination.

I love my wife and biological children, but none of them is getting involved in the ministry because they are my biological family members. They will only be involved with the ministry like every other believer working with us, as they respond to the call of Jesus and pay the requisite price to fulfil it.

As a matter of fact, my wife did not immediately assume the role of the mother of the ministry. She had to deal with the Lord on her own for years and make a full proof of her ministry. She did not sit with the ministers in the first few years of our marriage. I also deliberately did not goad her to be 'serious with the ministry'. I let her grow at her own God-designed pace. She developed her own hunger and thirst for God and followed it through while yielding tremendous fruit in the process. Until it became incontestably clear to everyone around that the Lord’s hand is mightily upon her and she has been set apart for the work of the ministry.

Similarly, my kids will not join the ministry because they're from my loins. If I pull strings and bring them in to take over from me by all means because of the position the Lord has given me, it would be me calling them and not the Lord Jesus, who is the exclusive source and dispenser of all ministry. The ministry would effectively cease to be thrust by God’s will. It would rather be pushed by human decision and the will of man.

Culled from my book, A TREATISE ON CHRISTIAN MINISTRY

With love from your brother,

Arome Osayi.

27/04/2025

CAN A MAN CALL ANOTHER MAN INTO MINISTRY?

No, a man cannot call another man into ministry (Galatians 1:11-12).

All ministries, whether pulpit or non-pulpit, must come directly from Jesus. (1 Corinthians 12: 4-11)

However, there are certain ministries in the non-pulpit cadre that are complementary. Typically, other ministries incorporate such complementary ministries within their framework. An example is the ministry of helps such as personal assistants, secretaries, personal intercessors, scribes, media and sound personnel, etc.

Culled from my book, A TREATISE ON CHRISTIAN MINISTRY

With love from your brother,

Arome Osayi.

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