22/09/2025
Totally agreed
I understand the responsibilities that African parents often place on their children, especially, those who are successful. One common expectation is that you must help raise your siblings, as if itβs automatically your duty.
Now, donβt get me wrongβhelping is good. Itβs honorable. But there comes a point where enough is enough, especially when that help turns into entitlement. When youβre constantly working hard, sacrificing your own comfort to support others, and the same people youβre helping donβt show appreciation; itβs only natural to start questioning things.
At that point, you have to ask yourself:
Am I being incredibly wise for stepping up?
Or am I being taken for granted and maybe even played for a fool?
Support should come with respect. When itβs no longer appreciated and instead expected, the line has been crossed. Love and generosity should not be mistaken for obligation or weakness. Thereβs nothing wrong with helping your family, but you also have a right to draw boundaries especially when your own growth and peace are at stake. Iseeeeeh!!!!