07/09/2024
WHATS YOUR TAKE ON THIS?
Nine years ago, I got pregnant while dating my now-husband, and the topic of marriage naturally came up. At the time, I wasn't working. He told my family and me that he didnโt want a court marriage, without providing any reason.
My parents tried to persuade him, and I cried and begged him repeatedly to legalize our marriage, but he was firm in his decision. I even involved his family members to help convince him, but they said he was old enough to make his own choices.
He also refused to have a white wedding because my church required a court certificate, so we ended up having only a traditional marriage.
Eventually, I grew tired and gave up on the matter. I was deeply hurt and broken, but I decided to marry him anyway to avoid the shame of having a child out of wedlock.
My father was angry and disappointed in him, but he didnโt care. Because of this, my father vowed to help me become a successful and independent woman, with or without my husband.
After I gave birth, my dad helped me secure a job with a multinational company, and things began to improve for me. I was able to take care of myself and plan for the future.
Despite the fact that I married my spouse, I was never able to fully forgive him, which is why I made sure all of my assets were not in his name. We now have three children, but all my properties are in their names. I also did not identify him as my next of kin.
Just last month, my company decided to transfer me to a branch in Texas and offered to cover the costs for my entire family to relocate with me. My husbandโs business isnโt doing well, and heโs willing to move too, but we have no legal certificate to prove our marriage.
Now he wants us to legalize our marriage in court, but Iโve said โNo.โ My father has threatened to disown me if I ever go through with it.
My husband has been publicly labeling me as a bad wife who isnโt loyal, and itโs causing tension in my family. His family members have been calling me, trying to persuade me, but I told them Iโm old enough to make my own choice ๐
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