16/04/2025
Offences, Silence, and Resentment: A Delicate Chain of Emotions
Offences are inevitable in human interaction. Jesus Himself said, “It is impossible but that offences will come” (Luke 17:1, KJV). Whether through words, actions, or unintended gestures, people hurt one another. But the real danger is not always in the offence itself, it lies in what follows.
Silence often steps in as the first response. Sometimes it is noble, a mark of wisdom. “Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent” (Proverbs 17:28). Yet, silence can also be a mask, concealing wounds that fester. When offence meets silence without understanding or healing, it breeds something more dangerous: resentment.
Resentment is the quiet poison of the soul. The writer of Hebrews warns, “See to it… that no root of bitterness springs up and causes trouble” (Hebrews 12:15, ESV). Bitterness grows where offences are unspoken and silence becomes a cage. It feeds on replayed hurts and unspoken truths, turning small offences into lasting wounds.
But this chain is not unbreakable.
Balance is found in honest communication and grace. Proverbs 15:1 reminds us, “A soft answer turns away wrath.” Not every offence requires confrontation, but not all should be buried either. Discernment helps us know when to speak, when to listen, and when to let go.
Above all, forgiveness is the key. Ephesians 4:31-32 exhorts: “Let all bitterness… be put away from you… and be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”
In the end, harmony is found in the courage to face offence with understanding, to break silence with wisdom, and to uproot resentment with love and forgiveness.
See you soon!
