Mind Your Character

18/07/2025

Hmm, If You Know What's Behind Some Public Smiles...


📌We often get motivated with, "When life throws you a lemon, bla, bla, bla..." But I would say that so many things are easier said than done.

📌In life, we sometimes go through seasons we neither expected or are prepared for.

📌Humanly speaking, when life throws me a lemon, my auto response isn't to immediately think of making lemonades o, because I probably wasn't expecting the lemon🍋 😀

📌Imagine me waking up on a fateful day about 10years ago, getting ready to take my first daughter to her common entrance preparatory classes; then a knock at our door. Wow! Court bailiffs? And pronto, I'm told about a court judgement for an immediate eviction of our family for owing house rents. Meanwhile we weren't served any initial court surmons, besides, we believed we maintained a great relationship with the owner of the house, while planning to pay up.

📌Everything happened so fast, my head didn't know what to think at first. Anyway, our family became homeless that morning. And, our little daughter saw it all!

📌I had earlier called my husband to return home. Next up, I started calling my brothers, they were on ground in no time, to help cover our shame.

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✔️Tell me, how does anyone hold up their mobile phone to live stream this development with their teeming fans?

✔️Doesn't that say to you that what you are going through is probably another person's current condition?

✔️Doesn't it also say that some people you are sometimes busy being angry with for not helping you, reaching out to you or calling you are probably transversing their wits ending?

📌More often, decent people's worst life moments are kept private for their sanity and yours. How do I scan the several letters of school fees undertaking that my family keep writing to their primary school for the prolonged season that our family finances stayed at ground zero?

📌Would you ever trace these stories to me if I didn’t mention them or you witnessed them first hand? But they were our realities.


*Stop judging people for what you don't understand about them. Enquire or simply make excuses for them, when unsure.
*You don’t know what seasons people are going through but simply carrying it on with grace; so, please be kind especially with your words.
*Never commonise other people's pains and struggles.
*Give people the mental safe space they need to figure out how to make lemonade from life's lemons.
*Also, please appreciate the people who stood with you through the thick and thin.
*Then, get better skilled with every pain you journey through. Don't lose the gains, store them in your war chest. You may need that experience for the next fight or to simply inspire others, as I did with this post.
*Finally, through it all, TRUST GOD to come through for you 🙏🏽👌🏻

💯Indeed, we don’t look like what we have been through, praise God!

I hope this helped someone.

I'm still counting down to 50.





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16/07/2025

Sensibly Skimpy & Sexy🤔😀 with discerning minds

📌Lately, I have been on a countdown spree in a deep show of gratitude to God for life.

📌This has also served as opportunity to inspire younger people by being vulnerable with different aspects of my life that I seldom speak about publicly.

📌Today, I share some hacks I have deployed over the years to maintain a balanced dress sense, independent of vogue. This has built me a consistent personal brand identity and brand value over the years.

📌I also put this piece together to provide guide to 'floaters' - people who seldom own a mind of their own on matters like this. People who simply flow with trends that seem overtly popular.

📌An online dictionary refers to a skimpy or sexy dress as a garment that is:
- Very short.
- Covers very little part of the body.
- Often revealing more skin than is typical.
- Implies that a dress is made with less fabric than required.
- Describes clothing that is considered scanty.

📌Why I wear clothes...
*Before I share my hacks, it makes sense to first tell you my top three consistent reasons for choosing any dress:
- To cover what I shouldn't expose.
- To feel comfortable in it.
- To elevate my royalty presence.

📌Now my hacks...
- Over the decades, I have been very intentional about my personal brand value.
- I have always not wanted to automatically conform, while trying to stay trendy and up to date in my looks.
- I prioritise originality and authenticity as well. - When I have to wear something a bit adventurous, I first adapt it for my comfort.
- Making every single dress tick my boxes has been fun. It has opened me to a limitless world of creativity.
- At the end of the day, I might wear what you wear, but not how you wear it or why you wear it.
- The pictures I attached all have a story caption to practically walk you through my hacks.

Let's go!🚶‍♀️

Share yours with me thereafter... 🥂

I'm still counting down to 50!

14/07/2025

📌Please get comfortable with celebrating and honouring people while they are alive and can be encouraged by your words.

📌Don't worry about whether the praise would get into their heads. You do what's noble!

📌Please look out for my piece tomorrow in Frontpageng, my article is on unique lessons from the reactions to the passing of the former President Muhammadu Buhari.

📌Trust me to share it here with you 👌🏻😊

📌I'm still counting down to 50🎊

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13/07/2025

Answering the question of purpose🤔


📌Purpose is simply what the world, your country, your family, your worship centre, your workplace, your neighbours, your friends, would remember you for.

📌I'm a V.A.C.E!👌🏻

📌This graphic design captures my purpose 👇👇👇, what's yours?

Designed by Stephen Oluyemi Dare, RCV

Please count down with me to 50!


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10/07/2025

What's the most important job of a CEO/Founder🤔


📌Who remembers the primary school definition of CULTURE?

📌It is amazing that that simple definition would later have more implications for our lives forever... whether personal life, family, workplace, leadership, nation building, diplomatic engagements, etc.

📌Who's job is it to cultivate corporate culture?

📌This video is a gift to leaders who wish build to last... it answers the question this post is asking...

Watch it 👇and be blessed😉😎

I'm still counting down to 50!

Thank you Jesus!

08/07/2025

https://frontpageng.com/are-you-temperate-or-temperamental/

Naturally, humans love to focus on reviewing others - what they are doing right, what they are doing wrong, how they are behav

02/07/2025

Imagine my 40th birthday 🤔


📌In 2015, I agreed to mark my 40th in 'a partylike atmosphere' because it afforded me the rare opportunity to be myself, and do things that I value👌🏻

📌On that same day:
1. We formally inaugurated RCV Character business.
2. I publicly presented my first published book.
3. I hosted the first discourse on the role of character development in nation building (NCPS).
4. Then, I partied with friends, clients, colleagues, news sources and family members.

📌Guess what, 10 years after this, I have not changed o! I have even become more convinced that it's the way to go.

📌For me, a sense of fulfilment must come with any fanfare for it to truly be fun.

📌Some of us aren't still party-loving social butterflies o!🙄

📌I hope I made some sense here sha Olusola Obasa 🤣

Still counting down to 50!

29/06/2025

Do I Also Have This 'Softgel Granny Temprament In Me?' 🤔


📌Meet my parents - Mr. and Mrs. Peter Olorunsheyi and Dorcas Olorunsheyi (Formerly Famoroti).
📌God has so far used their training and guidance to lay the foundation for the blessing I am becoming to the world.😊
📌They do not necessarily parent with the same approach, but they have been very complimentary.
📌Dad served in the Nigerian Army, so you would expect him to be tougher on the children, but if you are a 'soldier pickin' you would understand why the 'soldier wife' can sometimes be tougher than her soldier husband.
📌Anyways, growing up, Mum used to be so fast with the 'discipline' of - flogging, canning and shouting us, while Dad seldom was.
📌Now, the wonder is that my siblings and I, 'feared' Dad more, notwithstanding the calm.
📌So, please imagine my shock about how they both switched to this 'softgel' approach with their grandchildren! 😮
📌I am like, "how nah?" Abi! Wetin I dey see so? Why the switch and how did it happen?
📌Please tell me, is there some kind of grandma/grandpa temprament switch?
📌And, will I also become like that as a granny - because I currently represent the 'bad cop' in the parenting mix of Olusola Obasa and I🤔
📌Please celebrate 'mon parents'✌🏽 They did a great job!

Please countdown with me to 50!

26/06/2025

If I Hear 'Overnight Success' peren!🤣


📌Do you know my story?
📌What part of it do you know?
📌Have you been part of any stage of my journey, or you hope to be?😃
📌All l can say is that God has been very faithful and I am a proof!

👇I told some stories with captioned pictures here ... as the journey of value-adding continues in Jesus Christ name.

Please, Count Down with Me to 50!

25/06/2025

Some Strict & 'Stupid' Stance of Bosede Olusola-Obasa



📌I have severally lost what you call 'juicy' opportunities in life and even appeared stupid, while keeping up with my values of integrity.
📌You can call this my 'pains' in trading the integrity values over the decades 🤧😪🤣😍
📌I can't deny that God's grace has fuelled this because since my adult life kicked in; I learnt early to always choose the pain of discipline over the pain of regret.
📌My stance for the value of integrity has also been 'auto empowered' by my orientation to always consider the consequences of my actions or decisions before going ahead ... it serves as my deterrent. On this, I can be very rigid!
📌Once I find out what's allowed or not, I align accordingly and 'sheepishly' comply for as long as it's required. I always benchmark situations against my christian values.
📌And, yes, I understand that this stance won't save me from all of life's troubles, but it often gives me the moral strength to go through things and come through maintaining an unflickered dignity.
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📌Here are some of the 'stupid' things I have been doing to show how much I value a good name more than immediate rewards...👇
1. I married at 29 as a virgin, despite facing some extreme deprivations as a single girl, but rather than 'cheapen my self', I always found menial works to do for which I got decent payment.
2. Then in my 14years as an employee, I never indulged or earned a dime from advertisement transactions at my former workplace because I learnt it was against the company’s rules. What I consistently did was to forward all such requests to my colleagues in the department in charge.
3. As a journalist, I never received money to step down or tone down a report. In fact, I loved reports holding authorities accountable.
4. Fast forward to my 10years so far as a corporate trainer/consultant, I have lived by the rule to never abuse platforms of partners by contacting or doing business behind them with the clients they introduced to me.
5. Also, in 10years as a business owner, I have never spent the company’s money (RCV's) as mine under any guise, except it is my due and the staff member in charge makes the payment.
6. As a rule, I don’t use an author's lines/quotes in text or spoken form without attributing it to them, except they are unknown.
7. As a principle, I don't have to do things well just because someone is monitoring me, in fact, I do things better when not watched - I am very intentional about building trust capital.
8. I don’t make any commitment in haste, until my humanly-possible due diligence convinces me that there'll be no 'surprises' or 'drama'; afterwards, I leave the rest to the all-knowing God. I often undergo the pressure to keep to my words, once I give it out, etc.
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📌Why did I share these 👆 with you:
It's because it's one of my super powers. And to help you see that you owe your entire life to your daily decisions about integrity. There's no good values you wish to live by that you can't, plus God's grace. It may be hard to maintain, and you could also appear 'stupid' before others , but you will have priceless peace with God, while inspiring honourable living; these count for everything.

NB: Video received from my training host last Saturday at Tolerams CSR programme for schools, held at Ibeju, Lekki, Lagos. Thank you Ayo Fadumiye

Please, Count Down with Me to 50!

24/06/2025

In Everyway, I Strive to Add Value to People and Places


📌This column 👇is the latest among a few other platforms that I have either created or shared to spread over the years.
📌I am Bosede Olusola-Obasa, a Value-Adding Citizen of the Earth (VACE). Adding value to the world remains my mandate.
📌For about 30 years of my life, I have pursued this same goal, creatively using globally-benchmarked outlets, approaches and opportunities.
📌Even when I was a reporter with a media house, I often saw every story through these same lenses - to add value. That marked true fulfillment for me.
📌Today, I thought to intimate you with a few other value-adding platforms that I have opened in the recent years just for you.
They include:
🏆Mind Your Character with Bosede Olusola-Obasa on Inspiration92.3fm, now hosted on social media every Friday at 5pm.
🏆Mind Your Character recorded short video series.
🏆Mind Your Character YouTube Channel - a warehouse of quality contents.
🏆Public thought influencing Mind Your Character posts on Facebook and Instagram (since 2015).
🏆Published Mind Your Character Books series on sundry topics.
🏆Hosted corporate trainings, seminars, roundtables and workshops by the RCV academy.
🏆An annual Summit on character-parenting (NCPS, a CSR).
🏆Character Ambassadors Club (for schools)
🏆Speaking engagements on invitations.
🏆Facilitator or faculty membership on invitations.

📌All these for one goal - to leave people and places better than I met them👌🏻
📌Please feel free to take advantage of all or any of these.

You should start here👇

Please count down with me to 50!🥰

I have been in utter concern over the rate of deaths recorded around us. It has been very disturbing, to say the least. As I ponder

23/06/2025

Your Mentor Doesn't Have to be a Public Figure or Celebrity


📌Dr. Olorunsheyi Sunday is my first ever business mentor, irrespective of age differences and relationship.

📌We happen to be siblings with four years apart.

📌He had been a successful entrepreneur long before I dreamt of it.

📌When I started out in business as a core career person in 2015, I knew too little about the terrain to progress.

📌But that wasn't an issue as I constantly received prompt counsel, mentoring, guidance, brain picking and handholding from him. That's to say the least of supports he keeps offering. This Mr. Leverage has given me loads of leverage.

📌As I reflect on the last 10 years of my life, I am mindful that I couldn't have wished for a better guide in my journey of entrepreneurship than what my blood has been doing.

📌I am grateful to God because what others go to "Sokoto to get, I'm privileged to have in my 'sokoto'" 😃.

Here's a massive GOD BLESS YOU to my brother 🙌🏾 🥰🤗

Please, Count Down with Me to 50!