Child Time Matters-CTM

09/03/2024

09/03/2024

International Women’s Day Celebration

Host: St Brigid Girls Secondary School Asaba, Delta State.

Speaker: Maria Ekesi Arinze
Coach/Founder: Child Time Matters

Campaign Theme: Inspire Inclusion ❤️

06/03/2024

There are Vacuums only “WOMEN” can fill!
It’s just a day to the 2024 international women’s day celebration (IWD) and yours truly will be speaking in one of the girls secondary school in Delta state on the topic “I AM THAT WOMAN”

Have you ever imagined what would have happened if Mary wasn’t “present” at the wedding in Cana? If Jesus had just went there alone or with just his friends?

Full video will be posted here Child Time Matters-CTM on Friday, 8th of March.

Speaker
Maria Ekesi Arinze

Anticipate 😊

23/02/2024

IT’S A WRAP!

Our February Valentine School tour ended yesterday with St Patricks Secondary School Asaba Delta State.

We discussed on the inspiring topic

“Becoming Aware of the Greatest of Love “

Thanks to the Principal and the entire School management for giving us the privilege of speaking to these young mind.

This sums it to a total of three(3) schools we visited and shared deep insights and teachings about Love.

To God be all the Glory🙏

On to the next.

Please if you are in Asaba and you want to be part of the team and also a volunteer, please send us a message on WhatsApp or Directly on messenger.

Speaker/Coach/Founder
Maria Ekesi Arinze

15/02/2024

VALENTINE WITH TEENS

Yesterday, 14th of February, 2024

Topic: BECOMING AWARE OF THE GREATEST OF LOVE

Venue: Infant Jesus Academy Asaba Delta State

Host: Maria Ekesi
Speaker/Coach

06/09/2023

Parents can teach their children healthy s*x education through open, age-appropriate, and informative discussions. Here are some elaborate ways to do so:

Start Early and Age-Appropriate: Begin discussing basic concepts about body parts, privacy, and boundaries at an early age. As children grow, gradually introduce more complex topics that align with their developmental stage.

Use Correct Terminology: Use accurate and appropriate names for body parts to reduce shame and stigma associated with them. This helps children develop a healthy understanding of their bodies.

Create a Safe and Judgment-Free Environment: Foster an atmosphere where children feel comfortable asking questions and sharing their thoughts without fear of criticism or embarrassment.

Be a Role Model: Demonstrate healthy relationships and boundaries in your own life. Children often learn by observing their parents' behavior.

Use Books and Resources: Incorporate age-appropriate books, websites, and educational resources that explain s*xual health concepts in an understandable way.

Teach Consent and Boundaries: Teach children the importance of consent, both in terms of their own boundaries and respecting others' boundaries. Use examples and scenarios to illustrate these concepts.

Discuss Puberty: As children approach puberty, explain the physical and emotional changes that come with it. Share information about hygiene and self-care during this stage.

Discuss Relationships and Communication: Talk about healthy relationships, communication skills, and the importance of mutual respect and trust in any relationship.

Address Online Safety: In the digital age, discuss online safety, including the potential risks of sharing personal information and the importance of being cautious online.

Answer Questions Honestly: When your child asks a question about s*x or related topics, answer honestly and age-appropriately. If you're unsure, offer to research together to find accurate information.

Be Non-Judgmental: Avoid shaming or making your child feel guilty for their questions or curiosity. Reinforce that it's natural to have questions about these topics.

Encourage Critical Thinking: Help your child develop critical thinking skills to evaluate information they come across, especially online, to discern what's reliable and accurate.

Gradual Disclosure: Consider having ongoing discussions about s*xual health rather than a single "talk." This approach allows for more in-depth and nuanced conversations over time.

Respect Privacy: Respect your child's privacy and boundaries, especially as they grow older. Let them know they can come to you with concerns or questions without fear of intrusion.

Remember that teaching healthy s*x education is an ongoing process that evolves as your child matures. Adapt your approach to their age, maturity level, and individual needs, always prioritizing open communication and a supportive environment.

Maria Ekesi
Founder/Coach
Child Time Matters-CTM

06/09/2023

Parents can control how their children use social media to ensure their safety through various strategies:

Open Communication: Maintain an open and honest dialogue with your child about their online activities. Encourage them to talk to you if they encounter anything uncomfortable or concerning.

Set Age-Appropriate Boundaries: Ensure your child uses age-appropriate social media platforms. Many apps have age restrictions for a reason.

Privacy Settings: Help your child configure privacy settings on their profiles to limit who can see their posts and information. Teach them the importance of keeping personal information private.

Parental Controls: Use parental control software or built-in device features to monitor and restrict screen time, app usage, and content access.

Education: Educate your child about the risks associated with social media, including cyberbullying, online predators, and scams. Teach them how to recognize and respond to these threats.

Supervision: For younger children, supervise their social media usage by being friends or followers on their accounts. This allows you to keep an eye on their interactions.

Time Limits: Set daily or weekly time limits for social media use to ensure a healthy balance between online and offline activities.

Encourage Critical Thinking: Teach your child critical thinking skills to evaluate the credibility of information they come across on social media. Discuss the importance of fact-checking.

Model Responsible Use: Children often mimic their parents' behavior. Be a role model by demonstrating responsible and respectful social media use.

Report and Block: Teach your child how to report and block users who engage in inappropriate or harmful behavior online.

Friendship Criteria: Discuss with your child the importance of only accepting friend requests or followers from people they know in real life.

Regular Check-Ins: Schedule regular check-ins to discuss your child's online experiences, challenges, and concerns.

Digital Detox: Encourage periodic breaks from social media to reduce dependency and stress.

Trust and Empower: As your child grows, gradually give them more autonomy and trust, while still providing guidance and support.

Stay Informed: Stay updated on the latest social media platforms, trends, and potential risks, so you can better guide your child.

Remember that fostering a safe online environment is an ongoing process, and it's essential to adapt your approach as your child matures and their online habits evolve.

Maria Ekesi
Founder/Coach
Child Time Matters-CTM

30/08/2023

Why your Child won't tell you their Secrets.

28/08/2023

How do you raise a RESPECTFUL child?

26/08/2023

Every child is a divine appointment!

24/08/2023

Building friendship with your children and maintaining parenting boundaries (The complete video)

23/08/2023

As a parent, how do you become friends with your children and still maintain parenting boundaries?

22/08/2023

If God recognizes the importance of earthly and physical parenting which made him send Jesus Christ as a Man and not as a God, chose Mary and Joseph as his earthly parents, then you would agree with me that every parent is just a caretaker and a guardian who will give account of how well they did as guardians to God's Children (our kids).

20/08/2023

As a parent, is attendance to church Compulsory or Optional for your children?

Maria Ekesi

19/08/2023

A good mum is not the mum that looses herself for her kids.

She is not the mum who beats herself up because she thinks she is not doing enough as a mother.

She is not the mum who forgets that she is also human and as human, she is not expected to be perfect as a mum.

A good mum is one who knows herself, knows her strength, affirms positively to herself, takes Care of herself and takes care of her health.

A good Mum is one who appreciates her little efforts in raising her kids. The one who recognizes the sacrifices she is making for her kids and the one who knows that she is doing enough.

A good mum is one who knows her weaknesses and her shortcomings as a mother but refuses to dwell in it.

The one who wants to improve as a mother, the one who buys parenting books, goes to parenting seminars, reads her bible and is available for any good transferable knowledge and skills for positive parenting.

As a mother, you need to love yourself first before you can be able to love your children.

Be kind to yourself as a mother!

Maria Ekesi
Coach/founder Child Time Matters-CTM

18/08/2023

As a Parent, how do you know if your child is TRAUMATIZED?

Some parents are Keen in knowing and understanding their child's temperament while most parents are not.

The advantage of knowing their emotional build up is that it helps you identify the nature of the child.

You know when they are happy, when they are sad, when they are angry, and when they feel unsafe around something or someone.

Knowing this will help you handle the situations and their emotion and reaction to these emotions.

The signs and effects of trauma differs in children . However, trauma in kids triggers them to act in a way that is uncharacteristic for them.

As a parent, how do you then know when a child starts acting off?

That is why I always preach about having close relationship with your children and spending time with them.

You should know your child better than anyone else and you should know when something is off about them.

When a child experiences physical, s*xual or emotional abuse, the trauma which comes from these awful experiences include but are not limited to

Being scared of a particular individual or not wanting to be left alone with a particular person. (This person can be a teacher, relative, or a family friend), Fear and anxiety, Depression, withdrawn behavior and s*xual knowledge that are Inappropriate for the child's age.

When a child experiences bullying. The physical consequences such as bruises and physical injuries can immediately be noticed, but the trauma of bullying leaves a child in fear, low self esteem and loneliness.

There is a refusal to be in the space or environment where the bully was done.

When it occurs in school, the child starts to avoid school and classes, they start to perform badly in academics and starts to loose concentration in everything.

They start to distance themselves from everyone around them just for them not to be in anybody's black list to avoid being bullied.

Domestic Violence. Parents who are always engaging in physical and verbal abuse or violence put their kids in risk of trauma such as fear, nightmares or trouble sleeping, trouble forming attachment with the parents and loss of appetite.

It makes the child feel unsafe living with the parents and tries to avoid being in the scene.

The effects of trauma on children can vary based on the the cause and also the age of the child. The way one child responds or reacts to a situation may differ from the way your child reacts to the same situation.

It is advisable that parents learn about their kids temperament, their emotional build up, reaction to changes and frustrations.

Traumas can be life threatening and should be handled in theost effective way.
Maria Ekesi
Coach and founder

18/08/2023

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18/08/2023

Fathers, claim your spot in your daughter's life. I advocate for a close Father/Daughter relationship.

Listen and learn how to have your adorable baby girl by your side❤️

Maria Ekesi
Founder/Coach