Child Time Matters-CTM

17/07/2025

Are you called into leadership? Read and learn ❤️

Leadership

Is everyone called to lead?

Yes!

Everyone is called into leadership by virtue of the word of God in the book of Genesis about how God himself( A leader) created man in his own image and likeness and instructed man to do the works of a leader(Take charge, power and authority).

So Yes we all are called into leadership.

But the question is, at what level are you called into leadership?

At what system? At what area? At what position?

This then boils down to your field, to your environment , to your job, your career, and even the little organizations you belong to but you think are insignificant because you think that only those who find themselves in big organizations or companies lead.

So no matter where you find yourself, even in your family, you have been called to lead people or persons in a way that you have been gifted and trained to.

Let’s use the family settings as an example;

Children have leadership roles in the family( they are in charge of making sure the house hygiene, the plates and pots cleanliness, etc)

Mothers have a leadership role in the family (To cook, to make sure foodstuff’s don’t finish without notice, supervising the children etc)

Fathers have a leadership role in the family (They are the head of family, mostly tasked with provision and defense)

Now you see? 😂

Even your child has the right to say, “Mum may I know why and how you broke the plate in the kitchen?”

“May I know why you dropped the nylon or trash on the floor and not in the dustbin?”

But they are not holding you accountable for your mistakes in the areas they have jurisdiction over, because they do not know it is their duty or right.

Why?

Because you call it “house chores” and they see it as a punishment or something they have less impact over.

Imagine you tell your child, “Jarvis, you have been elected or appointed as the commander in chief of cutlery and all kitchen utensils and it’s usage. Therefore you have the right to dictate, question, and challenge the usage and the cleanliness of the usage of all plates, spoons, forks and pots. In other words, it is your responsibility to make sure that all kitchen utensils are clean at all times and properly used and managed by everyone in this home.”

Just imagine that? 😂

The power they will feel? The audacity that will swell in them that, “oh, I can question Dad or mum or anyone at all over the use of any of these kitchen appliances.”

Do you think they would still see it as a punishment? Or a forced activity?

Imagine if God just said to Adam “make sure these sheep and cattle’s are well taken care of. Feed them morning, afternoon and night. Make sure the every living creature gets what they need to survive…

But No!

Rather he said “Replenish the earth, and subdue it. Have dominion over the fish of the sea…”Gen1:28

Do you sense the difference in both context?

What do you notice?

The first statement would have made Adam feel even lesser than the other creatures. He would in no way see himself as a leader but as only a servant with the duty of taking care of “God’s special creatures”

The second statement gave him “power and authority “. He understood that oh, he was not only been used, but he is in control.

This makes it easy for responsibilities to be accepted.

Your child will no longer see washing plates as a difficult or cruel task😂 but as a power handed over to him and he would not want that power to be taken away from him. So he would be very diligent in carrying out any task he has been assigned to knowing that he is in charge and not just called to serve or be a servant.

But who are leaders?

Simple;

Leaders are servants!

Lol

No matter how big or small you think your position is, you are called to serve, but with trust (from those who chose you or appointed you) on your decisions, your judgments and your results.

I hope this opens your eyes to what you have actually been called to do in that position where you think you are responsible for everyone. You are not just serving, you are leading.

Wear the cap of leadership and everything, every task, every job will become very easy and joyful to accomplish.

With Love,
Maria-Paul Arinze
MPA

The picture, just because it’s with the Arch ❤️

09/03/2024

09/03/2024

International Women’s Day Celebration

Host: St Brigid Girls Secondary School Asaba, Delta State.

Speaker: Maria Ekesi Arinze
Coach/Founder: Child Time Matters

Campaign Theme: Inspire Inclusion ❤️

06/03/2024

There are Vacuums only “WOMEN” can fill!
It’s just a day to the 2024 international women’s day celebration (IWD) and yours truly will be speaking in one of the girls secondary school in Delta state on the topic “I AM THAT WOMAN”

Have you ever imagined what would have happened if Mary wasn’t “present” at the wedding in Cana? If Jesus had just went there alone or with just his friends?

Full video will be posted here Child Time Matters-CTM on Friday, 8th of March.

Speaker
Maria Ekesi Arinze

Anticipate 😊

23/02/2024

IT’S A WRAP!

Our February Valentine School tour ended yesterday with St Patricks Secondary School Asaba Delta State.

We discussed on the inspiring topic

“Becoming Aware of the Greatest of Love “

Thanks to the Principal and the entire School management for giving us the privilege of speaking to these young mind.

This sums it to a total of three(3) schools we visited and shared deep insights and teachings about Love.

To God be all the Glory🙏

On to the next.

Please if you are in Asaba and you want to be part of the team and also a volunteer, please send us a message on WhatsApp or Directly on messenger.

Speaker/Coach/Founder
Maria Ekesi Arinze

15/02/2024

VALENTINE WITH TEENS

Yesterday, 14th of February, 2024

Topic: BECOMING AWARE OF THE GREATEST OF LOVE

Venue: Infant Jesus Academy Asaba Delta State

Host: Maria Ekesi
Speaker/Coach

06/09/2023

Parents can teach their children healthy s*x education through open, age-appropriate, and informative discussions. Here are some elaborate ways to do so:

Start Early and Age-Appropriate: Begin discussing basic concepts about body parts, privacy, and boundaries at an early age. As children grow, gradually introduce more complex topics that align with their developmental stage.

Use Correct Terminology: Use accurate and appropriate names for body parts to reduce shame and stigma associated with them. This helps children develop a healthy understanding of their bodies.

Create a Safe and Judgment-Free Environment: Foster an atmosphere where children feel comfortable asking questions and sharing their thoughts without fear of criticism or embarrassment.

Be a Role Model: Demonstrate healthy relationships and boundaries in your own life. Children often learn by observing their parents' behavior.

Use Books and Resources: Incorporate age-appropriate books, websites, and educational resources that explain s*xual health concepts in an understandable way.

Teach Consent and Boundaries: Teach children the importance of consent, both in terms of their own boundaries and respecting others' boundaries. Use examples and scenarios to illustrate these concepts.

Discuss Puberty: As children approach puberty, explain the physical and emotional changes that come with it. Share information about hygiene and self-care during this stage.

Discuss Relationships and Communication: Talk about healthy relationships, communication skills, and the importance of mutual respect and trust in any relationship.

Address Online Safety: In the digital age, discuss online safety, including the potential risks of sharing personal information and the importance of being cautious online.

Answer Questions Honestly: When your child asks a question about s*x or related topics, answer honestly and age-appropriately. If you're unsure, offer to research together to find accurate information.

Be Non-Judgmental: Avoid shaming or making your child feel guilty for their questions or curiosity. Reinforce that it's natural to have questions about these topics.

Encourage Critical Thinking: Help your child develop critical thinking skills to evaluate information they come across, especially online, to discern what's reliable and accurate.

Gradual Disclosure: Consider having ongoing discussions about s*xual health rather than a single "talk." This approach allows for more in-depth and nuanced conversations over time.

Respect Privacy: Respect your child's privacy and boundaries, especially as they grow older. Let them know they can come to you with concerns or questions without fear of intrusion.

Remember that teaching healthy s*x education is an ongoing process that evolves as your child matures. Adapt your approach to their age, maturity level, and individual needs, always prioritizing open communication and a supportive environment.

Maria Ekesi
Founder/Coach
Child Time Matters-CTM

06/09/2023

Parents can control how their children use social media to ensure their safety through various strategies:

Open Communication: Maintain an open and honest dialogue with your child about their online activities. Encourage them to talk to you if they encounter anything uncomfortable or concerning.

Set Age-Appropriate Boundaries: Ensure your child uses age-appropriate social media platforms. Many apps have age restrictions for a reason.

Privacy Settings: Help your child configure privacy settings on their profiles to limit who can see their posts and information. Teach them the importance of keeping personal information private.

Parental Controls: Use parental control software or built-in device features to monitor and restrict screen time, app usage, and content access.

Education: Educate your child about the risks associated with social media, including cyberbullying, online predators, and scams. Teach them how to recognize and respond to these threats.

Supervision: For younger children, supervise their social media usage by being friends or followers on their accounts. This allows you to keep an eye on their interactions.

Time Limits: Set daily or weekly time limits for social media use to ensure a healthy balance between online and offline activities.

Encourage Critical Thinking: Teach your child critical thinking skills to evaluate the credibility of information they come across on social media. Discuss the importance of fact-checking.

Model Responsible Use: Children often mimic their parents' behavior. Be a role model by demonstrating responsible and respectful social media use.

Report and Block: Teach your child how to report and block users who engage in inappropriate or harmful behavior online.

Friendship Criteria: Discuss with your child the importance of only accepting friend requests or followers from people they know in real life.

Regular Check-Ins: Schedule regular check-ins to discuss your child's online experiences, challenges, and concerns.

Digital Detox: Encourage periodic breaks from social media to reduce dependency and stress.

Trust and Empower: As your child grows, gradually give them more autonomy and trust, while still providing guidance and support.

Stay Informed: Stay updated on the latest social media platforms, trends, and potential risks, so you can better guide your child.

Remember that fostering a safe online environment is an ongoing process, and it's essential to adapt your approach as your child matures and their online habits evolve.

Maria Ekesi
Founder/Coach
Child Time Matters-CTM

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