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01/08/2025

🚩 If Someone Truly Wants You — They Won’t Confuse You!*

Let’s talk, fam 👇

If you constantly feel like you're trying to *decode feelings* or *solve emotional calculus* just to know where you stand with someone… that’s not love — that’s stress dressed in situationship. 😅

You know the vibes:

“If she calls me bae on Monday but airs me on Friday, does that mean I’m the main or the backup?”
Or…
“If he checks my stories but never replies my messages, should I still catch feelings?” 🧠🧮

*Please… this is not JAMB!*

✅ Someone who truly wants to be with you won’t have you second-guessing your worth.
✅ They’ll be consistent, clear, and committed.
✅ They’ll bring peace, not pressure.
✅ They’ll choose you daily — not just when it’s convenient.

If you’re constantly confused, anxious, or feeling like you have to perform just to be seen — *that’s your cue to leave the chat*. ✌️

Real love isn’t complicated.
It flows. It reassures. It respects.
It feels like *jollof rice on Sunday* — hot, fresh, and drama-free. 🍛🔥

*Moral of the story?*
If they want you, they’ll show it. If they’re not showing it, believe them and move.

— *Coach Ken Felix Odia*
*Shift Advocate | Building Wiser Hearts & Healthier Homes*
👇 Let’s gist: What’s one “emotional math problem” you’ve faced in dating? Drop it in the comments session , am writing mine, come n reading it and mark — we dey mark am together 😄

31/07/2025

*💡 Ladies, Be Smart – Pt. 2*

When a guy asks, *“Tell me about yourself”* — don’t just see it as small talk 😏.
That line is *code*, my sister… It means: *“I like you, and I’m checking if you fit into my future.”*

Now hear me well — if you don’t like him, abeg don’t waste his time. Ignore with peace ✌️.
But if he catches your vibe, *respond smartly and sweetly*. That’s how you set the tone 🎯.

Here’s how an *intentional queen* replies:

1️⃣ “I’m a simple, focused woman who values hard work and honesty.”
2️⃣ “I believe in growth, in purpose, and in building a meaningful life with the right person.”
3️⃣ “Lies, cheating, fake promises? Please shift. I’m not here for games.”
4️⃣ “I love peace, progress, and deep conversations — not noise and drama.”

You’re not just answering — you’re *subtly setting boundaries* and *raising your standard*.
But sis… don’t write epistle o 😂. Keep it sweet, sharp, and soft 💅🏽.

Remember, a confident woman knows when to speak, how to speak, and what to reveal.
Your voice is powerful — use it wisely. 🎙️

— *Ken Felix Odia*
Your Brother From Another Mother
*Shift Advocate*
🔥 *Helping you think deeper, live better, and love smarter.*

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27/07/2025

Men Don’t Just Cheat… Something Usually Leads to it.”

Let’s be real — *men are naturally drawn by what they see.*
Yes, figure 8, glowing skin, a sweet voice, or talent might pull his attention...
The Picture above is myself and cousin and we were talking about something: this is what I will say : *it’s not beauty that keeps a man — it’s *wisdom.* 💡

Here’s what actually makes a man stay 👇

*1️⃣ Communication, not Complaining 🗣️*
Men love women who *know how to talk*, not *who just talk*.
Not nagging. Not loud. But intentional, sweet, and wise words.

*2️⃣ Respect is a Man’s Love Language 🙇‍♂️*
If you respect him — *especially in public* — he’ll naturally want to be loyal.
Respect is the one “R” that keeps a man rooted.

*3️⃣ Understanding Seasons and Timing ⏳*
Don’t drop heavy talk when he’s stressed. A wise woman *knows the time to speak and when to hug instead*.
Even the Bible said: *There’s a time for everything* 😌

*4️⃣ A Positive Mind is a Magnetic Force 💭*
Be a woman who speaks life, not complaints. Men fall in love with *peace-bringers*, not vibe-killers.

*5️⃣ A Good Cook Still Wins 🥘*
Yes ooh, food still matters. Especially *real Nigerian food*. This part is 20unite Course.

Too much salt, burnt rice? You may be playing with his emotions 😅

*6️⃣ Cleanliness is Queenliness 🧼👑*
Your space, body, clothes, and kitchen say a lot. You don’t need luxury — just be *neat, organized, and fresh.*

*7️⃣ Yes, S*x Matters 😏*
Men are wired for physical connection. If you keep withholding, frustration can creep in. Learn his love language and meet him halfway.

8️⃣ Be Industrious Not Idle
A man wants a woman with *vision*. You don’t need a 9-5, but be *doing something productive*. Passion is s*xy. Purpose is powerful.

*Final Word?*
*Being fine is nice.* But *being wise, supportive, respectful, clean, and peaceful* — that’s the real charm.
Men don’t cheat because they want to — they cheat because something was missing or mishandled.

*Ladies, let’s talk… which of these do you agree with?*
*Men, which of these do you value most?*
👇 Drop your thoughts in the comments!

Coach Ken, Shift Advocate*
*Advocating Right Thinking, Building Stronger Homes*

26/07/2025

💔 5 Real Reasons Why Some Ladies Cheat — Let’s Talk Truth, Not Just Blame*

Few Years ago I went for a wedding with my cousin sister and I asked why do ladies cheat she said

Cheating is never the right move, but sometimes it’s the *symptom*, not the root cause. Let’s unpack this👇

*1️⃣ Emotional Neglect 😔*
Many women are *emotionally wired*. When a woman feels unheard, unseen, or unloved — especially over a long period — her heart may begin to drift.
✅ *Lesson:* Emotional connection isn’t a luxury, it’s a love language. Hug her, hear her, hold her heart.

*2️⃣ Lack of Appreciation 🙇‍♀️*
Nobody wants to feel like a glorified housemaid or personal assistant.
If “thank you” becomes rare and her efforts are invisible — *somebody else saying “you’re amazing” might suddenly hit differently.*
✅ *Lesson:* Celebrate her before someone else does. Gratitude is free, use it daily.

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*3️⃣ Boredom or Lack of Intimacy 😴🔥*
Let’s not lie — *intimacy matters*. And not just physical, but emotional, intellectual, spiritual.
When routine replaces romance, adventure goes looking for new roads.
✅ *Lesson:* Water your own garden. Netflix is good, but try “NextFlirt” with your wife once in a while 😏

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*4️⃣ Revenge or Retaliation 😡💣*
Some ladies cheat not because they want to… but because they were *cheated on first*.
In their hurt and confusion, they seek “balance.” (Spoiler alert: Nobody wins in that game.)
✅ *Lesson:* Don’t fight fire with fire — fight pain with healing and honesty.

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*5️⃣ Validation or Insecurity Issues 🧠💔*
When a woman feels unworthy or constantly compared, she might look outside for someone who sees her as *enough*.
✅ *Lesson:* Remind her of her worth, beauty, and brilliance — not just when she dresses up, but *especially* when she doesn’t.

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*🎯 Final Truth: Cheating is never excusable, but it’s often understandable.*
If we start having deeper conversations — not just about s*x, but about *needs, fears, growth, and purpose* — maybe we’ll cheat less and connect more.

💬 *What’s your take on this?*
Men, women — let’s talk.
*Have you ever seen a relationship drift due to any of these?*

Drop your thoughts below 👇

— *Coach Ken, ShiftAdvocate* Your Brother and friend from another mother.
Helping You Build Better Love & Better Life ❤️

25/07/2025

*🌞 Good Morning, Champion… Can We Talk?*

Let’s be honest:

If you’re spending *11 hours a day sleeping*, or *4–6 hours scrolling through social media*, chatting about nothing, *but expecting greatness* to show up at your doorstep — you’re not being fair to your destiny.

💭 You say you want a better life…
But you hang around unproductive people who drain your energy.
You spend time with those who gossip more than they grow.
You wait for miracles without planting seeds.

*Birds of the same feathers still flock together.*
You can’t fly with eagles if you’re chilling with ducks.

Yes — Nigeria is tough.
Yes — the government hasn’t built the best structure for us.
BUT…

🌽 The land still grows corn.
📦 People are still buying and selling.
🚗 Homes are being bought, businesses are booming — even in this same economy!

So what's the difference?

*Mindset. Focus. Discipline. God.*
The formula hasn’t changed.

If you ask an old man or woman today what they regret most, many will say:
- “I didn’t plan well.”
- “I wasted time with the wrong people.”
- “I didn’t take myself seriously.”

*Please, don’t repeat that cycle.*
Work. Hustle. *Then double your hustle.*
If not for yourself — for your *children* and your *children’s children.*

Your story can still change.
Your vision is still valid.
Your time is *now.*

— *Coach Ken Felix Odia*
*Advocate for Shifting Mindsets & Balanced Living*
*ShiftAdvocate | We Create A Balance*
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23/07/2025

*💭 What’s Your Spec? Let’s Be Honest!*

So I asked a lady during a counseling session, *“What’s your spec in a man?”*

She smiled and said confidently:
🧍🏽‍♂️ "He must be tall, have 6-pack abs, call me 6–8 times a day, and we should go to the beach — me in my bikini, him in only boxers."

I said, *“Hmm… like seriously?”* 😅

Later, I asked a guy, *“Bro, what’s your spec?”*
He fired back:
👩🏽‍🦱 "She must be slim, fair, tall, and her back must be LOADED!"
I said, “Wait o, back as in…?”
He said, “Sir! Like Nicki Minaj or Cardi B na!” 😳
I said, “Fear God, bro!” 😂

Then he added: “She must also be Holy Ghost–filled, fire-branded, and tongue-talking.”
I helped him complete it: “Bible-carrying too?”
He said, “Exactly, Sir!” 🤣

*Moral of the Story:*
📌 A guy with full 6-packs and still keeping them has *plenty* free time (or is jobless).
📌 A man who calls 8 times a day may not be busy chasing his goals.
📌 And if *your entire spec is body shape*, what will happen when time and gravity show up? 😅

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*💡 Real Talk:*

Let’s focus more on character, values, purpose, and compatibility — not just vibes and vacation goals. Because when the real challenges of life hit, it’s not beach bodies that carry you — it’s *depth and direction*. 🙏🏽

So I ask you:
*What’s YOUR spec — and is it rooted in real substance?*

👇Drop your thoughts below. Let’s talk like real grown-ups.

22/07/2025

Ladies_be_smart_Enough to know that men are not Stupid (they know what they are doing)

It's good to have shape and shining Skin.
It's good to have what its take to pull a man attention
Do you know when a man want to go out with women he goes with a woman that has curves and hips, women that can have fun with, but when it comes to Marriage they go for real African Woman

A Woman
That has character, manners, dignity and pride
A woman that know what's up about the kitchen
A Woman that show care and love to her husband and of corse that deliberately know how to build her home and raise up Godly Children.
Be Wise Be Smart do the Needful today

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21/07/2025

*💬 “So… what are you bringing to the table?”*
That’s the question I asked a lady sometime ago — and she responded, *“I’m still in school, I don’t have money.”* 😬

Sis, the table isn’t always about money. It’s about *value.* 💡
Every man who asks this question is not trying to shame you — he just wants to know if you’re someone who can *build with him, not just bill him.* 💸

Here’s what you CAN bring to the table (even if you’re not rich yet):

1️⃣ *A Listening Ear 👂❤️*
Not just hearing him, but really *listening*. Men appreciate women who can *listen with their hearts*, not just their ears.

2️⃣ *Creativity & Innovation 🧠✨*
Be that woman who brings fresh ideas to his dreams. A man loves a woman who can *upgrade his vision*, not drain his energy.

3️⃣ *Support System 🤝📞*
If you don’t have cash, bring *connection* — know someone who knows someone who can help him rise!

4️⃣ *Be His Gist Partner 😂🎙️*
Create safe spaces for laughter, gist, and good vibes. He’ll run home to you every day after work.

5️⃣ *Be Domestically Present 🍲🧼*
It’s not about being a housegirl — but a little kitchen magic goes a long way! African food > Indomie + Egg any day!

6️⃣ *Respect & Privacy 🧘🏽‍♂️*
Give him peace, not pressure. Privacy, not probing. No man wants to feel like he’s dating a drill sergeant. 😅

7️⃣ *Loyalty Over Exposure 🤐🫶*
Hide his weaknesses, don’t broadcast them. The world doesn’t need to know what he struggles with. Be his safe place.

8️⃣ *Prayer Power 🔥🙏*
Even the strongest man desires a woman who can call Heaven on his behalf. Your prayers are powerful—don’t underestimate them.

💡 *It’s not about perfection; it’s about partnership.* Every great man needs a woman who brings peace, presence, and purpose to his world.

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20/07/2025

Walking Pass some guys and i hear them saying Ladies has nothing to offer rather than S3x

Please i wish to ask is that true? because when last i check birds of the same feathers flogs together

and i still remember this saying which says. *show me your friends and i will tell u who u are*

This is My take on the issue

-1. If you mingle with w***e, the benefit is s3x.

-2. If you go down with a slay queens, then your bank account will cry in pain.

-3. If you associate with a woman/women of integrity, she will always encourage you.

-4. If you constantly move with women that has the fear of God, she will lead you to church not bed.

-5. If you stay with woman that is humble, Respect and Loyalty is the thing of the day.

-6. If you mingle with woman that is domestic, she will always make sure that the house is clean and full of food on your table before you are back.

-7. If you stay with a woman that is prayerful, she will always pray with and for you,

because a prayerful woman is the pillar of the family.

-8. If you have a woman that is economical, she will manage the home.

-9. If you marry a woman that is magnanimous, she will always support you financially.

-10. Finally, if you marry a woman that is caring, loving and kind and also prayerful, then you
will know that women has a lot to offer NOT just the s3x

So now, it’s not about *what women offer* — it’s about *what kind of women you surround yourself with.*

*Birds of the same feather still flock together.*
And real kings choose eagles, not pigeons. 👑🦅

💬 *What’s YOUR take? Do women have more to offer? Let’s talk in the comments.* 👇👇👇

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18/07/2025

*Stop! Stop!! Stop!!! Investing in Someone Who’s Not Investing in You* 💔

Can we talk, Queen & king's? 👑

Just because they call you *“dear,” “sugar,” or “bobo,”* doesn’t mean there’s love in the air — sometimes it’s just *premium cruise* 😅

Here’s the truth — if there’s *no relationship defined*, then:

1️⃣ *Stop the over-commitment* – Calling 5 times a day? Chatting like it’s a full-time job? Sis/Bro... *relax your heart, not everything is love.*

2️⃣ *Stop investing resources* – Your time, airtime, emotions, data... for someone who’s not yours? You’re funding a dream that’s not even yours 😩

3️⃣ *Drop the expectations* – Thinking they’ll treat you like you treat them? Nah. That’s how heartbreak downloads itself without warning.

4️⃣ *Kill the assumptions* – You’re dating in your head while they’re dating someone else in real life? That’s *brain-dating*, my dear. Dangerous zone!

🔥 Say how you feel early — don’t let someone else beat you to it while you’re still “observing.”

And brothers… “Let’s see how it goes” is *not* a yes — it’s an emotional loading bar that may *never* complete.

💭 Stop catching feelings for someone who doesn’t owe you accountability.

🎯 *Lesson:* Know where you stand. Friends are friends. Partners are partners. Don’t confuse the script and expect a love story.

Now talk to me 👇
*Have you ever caught feelings without clarity?*
Drop a comment — let’s vibe and unpack this like mature adults (with small laughter in between 😉).

— Coach Ken 💪
*Your brother from another Mother. Like Comment and share this is Real Talk.*

17/07/2025

*💖 Perfect Family? Can We Talk…*

Almost *every* single man or woman dreams of that *perfect family* — full of love, peace, success, and unity. And honestly… *that’s a beautiful dream.* 🏡❤️

But let’s be real:
A perfect family doesn’t just *fall from heaven* like manna 🍞😅
It’s not luck.
It’s not vibes.
It’s *work*.
It’s *intentional planning, daily effort, forgiveness, communication, sacrifice*, and plenty of *humility and humor*! 😂💬

*To build the family you admire, you’ve got to do the work others avoid.*
It’s not always easy, but it’s *worth it.* 💯

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💬 *Now I’d love to hear from you!*
*What does a “perfect family” look like to YOU?*
Or are you struggling with some part of it?
Ask your questions or share your thoughts in the comments — let’s grow together. 💬👇

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