10/08/2025
Some military men think their greatest challenge is in the size of their salary, of course, the pay is modest but the real war is often fought in their own home.
In the barracks, you hear the same complaint on payday: “This pay no dey reach.” Some say it’s because of the rising cost of living. Others blame their rank. But many times, the problem is closer than they think.
I’ve met two kinds of brothers in uniform.
The first is the one who loves his children so much that he doesn’t want his wife doing a 9-to-5 or travelling far for work. He wants her close to home, to raise the kids, keep the family grounded. His concern is understandable. But even then, there are countless ways for her to work from home, run a side business, or monetize her skills without neglecting the children. Keeping her idle is not protecting the home, it’s weakening its economic defense.
The second kind is the one who is drowning in responsibilities but still says no when his wife wants to work or use her talent. Pride, ego, or outdated thinking holds him back. Meanwhile, his mates are quietly empowering their wives, opening small shops, getting them tools, helping them market their services, and these families are breaking free from constant lack.
Military brothers, hear me: the uniform alone will not feed your family or secure their future. Your wife is not just “the one you provide for”; she can be your strategic partner in the mission against poverty. When you empower her, you double your household’s strength.
Sometimes, the problem is not your pay. Sometimes, it’s your mindset. And a wrong mindset can starve a home faster than any low salary.
I’m Expert TV, a naval rating who has seen too many homes in the barracks lose the war against poverty, not because the salary was too small, but because the wisdom to empower our wives was missing.
