21/06/2024
Hmm! Things are falling apart in this marriage, but there are ways to recover the beauty.
This is for you 👇
WHEN YOUR SPOUSE NO COM FINE AGAIN
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What can you do if you find your spouse unattractive anymore?
ANSWER
Three things may be responsible for this.
1. WHAT WE CALL "SEE FINISH" IN NIGERIA (OVERFAMILIARITY)
Most people tend to diminish in their appreciation of what they keep seeing over time. If that is the case, you need to deliberately work on your mind to focus on those features and qualities that got you attracted to him/her in the first place and other new features and qualities that he/she has acquired over time. You have to be really intentional about this.
2. CARELESS UPKEEP, SHABBY DRESSING OF THE SPOUSE AND A RELAPSED ATTITUDE
Some people have this wrong notion of not keeping up to their good looks and dressing the moment they become married. They believe they've gotten what they want and so they begin to depreciate their dressing, appearance and good looks, not putting again those finishing touches they used to put before they got married. I know a number of people like that.
Same goes for attitude. Some who used to be very friendly and generous while they were searching for a life partner would gradually quit that positive attitude and begin to do the exact opposite after they get married, forgetting that, that was what attracted their spouse to them.
If any of these two is the case with your spouse, sit him/her down and address it. I believe there will be an adjustment, if both of you are on the same page.
3. LACK AND POVERTY
In some cases, due to increased financial responsibility as a result of the marriage, the spouse in question no longer has the purchasing power to acquire the materials he/she used to wear or apply when you found him/her attractive. For example, the matching clothes for the present stature/body size, cream and other cosmetics and toiletries, money to make the befitting style of hair etc.
Poverty also causes emotional frustration that can affect one's good looks, if care is not taken.
You will discover that if these are addressed, the attraction will return without any delay.
4. NOT SEEING YOUR SPOUSE BEYOND HIS/HER PHYSICAL FRAME
You need to see the inner man, the virtues and values in your spouse. I'm sure you didn't just marry him/her only because of his handsomeness or her beauty. There must be some other qualities you saw in him/her, apart from the fact that "God said", that made you to finally conclude to go for him/her.
I want you to pay utmost attention, because marriage is "for better, for worse" - a lifetime journey, irrespective of the issues and hurdles in it.
In some cases, a once pretty wife or charming husband can get involved in an accident such as acid burn, fire incident, auto crash, or plane crash and this may leave him/her permanently disfigured in one way or the other. Definitely, this will affect the physical attraction factor in the marriage, but if you see him/her beyond the physical charm, if you have always admired and appreciated the inner beauty of his/her person, it will go a long way in sustaining the love and thus safeguarding the marriage. With this, you can see that marriage is deep and far beyond physical fantacy.
I am Pst. Philad, The Wisdomaquine Coach. If you like content and tips on MARRIAGE, FAMILY LIFE and LEADERSHIP, then follow my page The Wisdomaquine Coach.
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