23/08/2023
*VENT WITH ROSITA*🌹🌹🌹
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It's toxic to be in any form of relationship with a "complainer"! This person'r is constantly airing their grievances everywhere without taking any responsibility for their own role in the situations. It can be frustrating when someone is always complaining, as it can be unhealthy to dwell on negativity.. So if this relationship with such a person is important to you talking to such person's about their habits would be the first right step to take, but how do you go about it without sounding insensitive to the concerns they constantly air?
What do you do after this person takes the denial path and never put conscious effort in changing for better? t's not healthy to repress feelings or avoid taking responsibility for one's actions. Maybe framing the conversation in a way that focuses on how their constant nagging makes you feel, rather than what they nag about; It might be easier for them to hear your concerns if they're not feeling like they're being attacked or accused. Yes friendship should provide cushion for support and shoulder to cry on but over flogging of issues is very negative . so be a good friend within your limit of tolerance, but be alert to see when nothing changes for better after, efforts to communicate concerns, or when a seemingly manipulative pattern controls the relationship, it would be the time to shield your mental health.
Really it's exhausting to constantly hear these complaints. It's not fair for one to have to shoulder the burden of other person's negativity. So setting boundaries around how much you're willing to listen to their complaints should be considered? Maybe you could say something like, "I'm happy to listen to you for 10 minutes, but then I need to focus on other things." That way, you're still being supportive, but also taking care of your own well-being.
Boundaries are important for maintaining healthy relationships. THANKS
