01/11/2025
A woman recently moved to court to compel an ex-lover to delete her photos from his social media, but the court refused.
So far, the man has scattered this lady's weddings twice.
The said pictures were taken seven years ago during a holiday in Qatar. The man invited the lady, who was a college student at the time and was 21 years old. He was going on a one-week work-related trip and promised the lady the treat of her lifetime, plus a send-off package of one hundred thousand dollars (approximately $1000) when she returned home.
That was enough money to pay her maintenance for the next academic year, and so she agreed. During their stay, the man took pictures of their romantic moments, which he shared on his Facebook profile.
The man was in his late fifties and was pressuring her to become his second wife, something she wasn't sure about, especially since he was older than both of her parents.
She forgot about him after that and moved on with her life, despite his numerous attempts to get in touch with her.
Six years later, she was getting married, and a wedding had been planned. On the week of the dowry payments, her fiancé discovered the pictures after being tipped by a whistleblower, and he fizzled out.
There was no room for reconciliation because the man shut down his communication lines and went incognito.
His last words were, 'Yes, you told me you had an ex in college. But you didn't tell me you used to move around with old men. I'll be the laughing stock in my family if it gets known that I married a former s*x worker. I'm sorry.'
Recently, about two years after that incident, the lady was living with her fiancé and expecting his child. Once more, the man got hold of the pictures, and he ended everything. Once more, his words were, 'This was not ordinary dating for love or a genuine relationship that just didn't work. This was you selling your body for money, and I can never see you any other way. I'm sorry.'
What appeared like a small thing when she was young and naive had now grown into a chronic problem.
Neither could the court help her because the mbaba had all the receipts and flight tickets to show that it was a consensual love affair, for which he paid the agreed price in full.
I brought this story to warn our daughters about one thing: society is steeply biased against women. They're always looking for a reason to invalidate her.
If you plan on getting married, avoid destroying your CV with stupid mistakes that will give society juicy reasons to blow up your marriage.
Your moral life will be scrutinised with a microscope. But that of men? They'll wink at it.
Don't you remember how they brought the woman caught in adultery to our Lord for capital punishment, yet they had already released the male co-adulterer?
It's still the same today. You do the same things with men, and yet you're punished more.
Lastly, why do you think in prostitution it's the woman getting paid? In the mbaba business, it's the young ladies who are being given holidays and financial tips. On OnlyFans, it's mainly the women getting paid by male subscribers.
Why is it so?
Because your body is the premium. Your s*xuality is the substance they're buying.
You're essentially selling your essence. You will never be respected again. You will never open a new chapter again.
You may reform and change your lifestyle, but there are people who will never see you the same again. Once they've seen your nakedness, they possess the power to embarrass you many years from now by just dropping those screenshots.
In short, it's better to live honestly and work with your hands. If you want your honour intact and your future undefiled, never expose yourself to anyone and don't sell out for money.
If you lack college fees, call off the semester and go hustle. It's better to enter life without a degree, but with your dignity intact, than to sell your dignity for a paper.
(©️ Benjamin Zulu Global)
