30/10/2025
Admin pls, i need non-judgmental advice. I have had a maid for over 5 years now. I enrolled her in school, covered her necessities, & sent her salary to her mom every month as she requested. Now she is 25.
Disrespect started when my husband began making passes at her. She told me, & I cautioned my husband. I have good plans for this girl, she has been good to me & my kids. I didn't want to send her away. Along the line, she gradually fell for him. I noticed her body language & how she started dressing up whenever he's around. I simply ignored it cuz my mindset is rare. I feel I don't need to question what an adult does with their body; I am selfish like that.
Right before my eyes, they started dating. My husband knew I knew, & the girl knew too, & their lack of concern deeply concerned me. I deliberately stopped cooking for everyone & told her to cook for my husband alone. He now refused to eat the food she cooked. I also told my husband to start paying her since I was the one paying before. It seems he has been giving her false promises since then.
I did not sack her; I simply got a come-&-go nanny for my twins & ignored them totally. I don't intend to report to anyone. I came back from work & relieved my nanny, & she told me how my husband & the girl had a disagreement over money issues, fought each other like b3@$t$ and he in-jūr£d her on her f@c£, and the lady called her police cousin who came & ar-re$ted him.
The house is my husband's house. & I'm not leaving except if he tells me to. He does not maltreat me; he just ch'"ts. He is still in police custody as I write this, in fact, jt's been 4 days now cuz they need a guarantor for his bail. The maid has gone. He called me to be the guarantor, & I agreed but I forgot... lol. But later, I informed his people.
Actually, The maid is pressing charges, & dear husband will be taken to court. Should I be involved? Should I get him a lawyer & attend court proceedings as a caring wife? Cuz I really do not care what happens to him, I have tried to feel some sort of emotion towards him, but it's not coming. I'm not hard-hearted; I just find it easy to cut off people emotionally.
However, His brother has agreed to be a guarantor, & by this weekend, he will be released & start going to court. He has asked me to forgive him & show support, & I should not let the maid win. I said, "What's my business?" I don't care who wins or loses.
Right now, I'm $tuck in between if i really should help my husband or let him take his chances alone? Please note, If he goes to jail or not, it's not my business. I'm doing well financially. I Lack absolutely nothing. I can hold my fort well without anybody's support. Please what do you all think?
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