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💔 How to Heal After Heartbreak: Real Steps That Actually Work 💔Let’s be honest—heartbreak hurts in ways even words can’t...
05/07/2025

đź’” How to Heal After Heartbreak: Real Steps That Actually Work đź’”

Let’s be honest—heartbreak hurts in ways even words can’t fully describe. Whether it was a long-term relationship or a short-lived connection that held deep meaning, the pain feels real, raw, and sometimes endless.

But here’s the truth: healing is possible, and you deserve it.

👇 Here’s how to start healing after a heartbreak:

1. Allow Yourself to Feel
Don’t suppress it. Cry. Journal. Vent. Heartbreak is grief, and grief deserves space. Studies show that emotional expression helps reduce stress and speed up emotional recovery.

2. Cut Off Contact (Temporarily or Permanently)
Constant texts, stalking their social media, or trying to “stay friends” too soon can reopen wounds. Give yourself time to reset emotionally.

3. Rediscover YOU
Who were you before the relationship? What made you laugh, dream, glow? Reconnect with hobbies, passions, and friends. Healing is also about rebuilding your identity.

4. Practice Self-Compassion
Don’t blame yourself. Relationships end for many reasons, and it’s not always anyone’s fault. Be kind to yourself like you would to a hurting friend.

5. Seek Therapy or Support Groups
Sometimes, talking to a professional can help you unpack the emotional load. You’re not weak for asking for help—you’re wise.

6. Avoid Rebound Traps
Jumping into a new relationship might feel like a distraction, but healing comes from within—not from another person.

7. Trust the Process
Healing isn’t linear. You might feel okay today and broken tomorrow. That’s normal. Give yourself grace.

Real Fact: According to a study from the Journal of Positive Psychology, most people begin to feel significantly better about their breakup in just 11 weeks. That means there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Heartbreak doesn’t mean the end—it’s a powerful beginning. The version of you that comes out of this will be wiser, stronger, and more self-aware.



© Ifunanya Chude

How to Know If Someone Loves You Genuinely.Love isn't always loud. Sometimes, it's in the little things. The small gestu...
05/07/2025

How to Know If Someone Loves You Genuinely.

Love isn't always loud. Sometimes, it's in the little things. The small gestures. The quiet consistency.

Genuine love feels safe. It doesn’t make you second-guess yourself or leave you wondering where you stand.

Here’s how you know it’s real:

📌 They show up even when it’s inconvenient.

đź“Ś They listen, not just to respond, but to understand.

📌 They speak highly of you in rooms you’re not in.

đź“Ś They respect your boundaries and protect your peace.

📌 They don’t just say “I love you”… they back it up with actions.

📌 They care about your growth, your dreams, your healing — not just their own needs.

đź“Ś They choose you repeatedly, even when life gets hard.

Love isn’t perfect — but genuine love doesn’t hurt you and then call it “passion.”
It brings clarity, not confusion.
Peace, not panic.
Effort, not excuses.

So if you’re asking whether it’s love…
Ask instead, “Does it feel like love should feel?”

Because when it’s real, you won’t have to beg, chase, or doubt.



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Lately, my 5-month-old baby girl has entered her babbling era — and oh, what a sweet symphony it is 💕She babbles all day...
04/07/2025

Lately, my 5-month-old baby girl has entered her babbling era — and oh, what a sweet symphony it is 💕
She babbles all day, experimenting with sounds like she’s discovering a brand new language, and honestly, it melts my heart every time.

Sometimes, I find myself recording her tiny, excited voice — just snippets of her playful chatter — and sending them to her daddy or godmother. But what gets me the most is what happens after the recording…

I play the voice note back to her, and the moment she hears it, her little face lights up. She smiles like she recognizes it — like she’s thinking, “Wait a minute… that’s me!”
Of course, she’s too young to fully understand, but it’s the way she reacts that makes me feel like she knows. It’s pure joy, curiosity, and maybe even a little pride bundled into one big, gummy smile.

Watching her discover her own voice — and enjoy it — is such a beautiful reminder of how magical these early days are. Her voice may be tiny, but the happiness it brings me is huge.



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Sometimes we look at other people’s lives and start feeling like we’re behind. Like we’re not doing enough. Like we’ve f...
02/07/2025

Sometimes we look at other people’s lives and start feeling like we’re behind. Like we’re not doing enough. Like we’ve failed somehow.

But look again.

Behind every lit window is a different story.

One person is on their first date, excited but nervous.
Another is worried about late rent.
Someone just lost a pet and is grieving quietly.
Someone else is meeting their partner’s parents for the first time.
There’s overthinking, loneliness, salary delays, missing family, lost friendships, and bills piling up.
Meanwhile, you're there comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone else's highlight reel.

Moral of the story? Don’t compare your life with others.
We’re all figuring things out behind closed doors.
Be gentle with yourself.

You’re doing better than you think.



© Ifunanya Chude

01/07/2025

Have you ever had a friend who later became like a sister or brother? Truthfully, I struggled with making friends, especially during my early days at university.

Not just making friends, but also maintaining relationships was a challenge, perhaps due to my introverted nature.

On a particular day after worshiping at my campus fellowship, I had the honor of being accompanied home by Peace Udokwu. We lived in the same vicinity, and upon learning that, she tagged along. As we walked home that evening, she initiated and kept most of the conversation going — so effortlessly, as if it were second nature to her.

Our friendship blossomed, and over time, we started visiting each other and helping out with school activities, even though we were in different faculties.

There were days when I had nothing to eat, and Peace would cook at her place and walk all the way to my lodge to bring me takeaway. Despite having little herself, her eagerness to share what she had amazed me.

Did I mention she's super funny? A chatterbox with never a dull moment — I'm still studying her socializing skills to this day.

She has come through for me in so many ways I never expected. The night that truly surprised me was when she walked from her house to mine around 11 pm just to console me. I had lost my sister a few months prior and hadn't been myself since. I was good at hiding my pain, but that night I couldn't hold it in. When she showed up, I was speechless. Who takes such risks for a friend?

Today, I write to give Peace her flowers. She has loved and honored me in ways I never imagined, and I am proud to call her my sister.

Often, we wait until we have money to reach out to people or support our family and friends. But it doesn't have to be that way. You can make an impact in someone's life with gestures as small as picking up your phone to call or text a friend you haven't heard from in a while.

When you check up on them, let them know they've been on your mind and you're there for them.

Simple gestures like buying someone a meal when they need it can make a significant difference.

It's important to live a life that makes a positive impact, to cultivate meaningful friendships, and to support each other through both joyful and challenging times. These connections not only enrich our lives but also create a ripple effect of kindness and compassion in our communities.

PS 📸: I took this picture during one of my evening strolls with Peace at UNN. It was such a blissful walk — I never knew strolling could be so fun!

How to Stay Motivated When Life Gets Tough.Let’s be real — life isn’t always smooth. Some days feel like you're carrying...
30/06/2025

How to Stay Motivated When Life Gets Tough.

Let’s be real — life isn’t always smooth. Some days feel like you're carrying the world on your shoulders. You wake up tired. You scroll through your phone and everything looks perfect in everyone else's life... except yours.

But here’s the truth: motivation doesn’t always come from feeling good — it comes from not giving up.

Here are a few ways I remind myself to keep going, and I hope they help you too:

🔹 Remember Your “Why”
When everything feels heavy, pause and think: Why did I start? Who am I doing this for? Even if your feet are dragging, let your “why” pull you forward.

🔹 Focus on Small Wins
On hard days, getting out of bed is a win. Brushing your teeth? Win. Showing up, even half-heartedly? Still a win. Celebrate those little steps. They matter more than you think.

🔹 Rest Without Guilt
Tough times drain you. Rest is not laziness. Rest is part of the process. You’re allowed to slow down without quitting.

🔹 Speak Life Over Yourself
Say this to yourself daily: “I’ve made it through 100% of my worst days. This one won’t be any different.” Speak hope, even when your heart is shaky.

🔹 Let Faith or Hope Anchor You
Even when life spins, anchor yourself to something solid. Whether it’s faith, family, or future dreams — let that be your calm in the chaos.

Life gets tough — but so are you. 💥
You don’t have to feel strong to keep going. You just have to take one step... then another.



© Ifunanya Chude

When I found out I was pregnant, I was scared, overwhelmed, and honestly… just trying to hold myself together.I wrote "D...
27/06/2025

When I found out I was pregnant, I was scared, overwhelmed, and honestly… just trying to hold myself together.
I wrote "Daily Affirmations for a Beautiful Pregnancy" during my first trimester—mostly for me. I needed something to keep me going, to quiet the fear and remind me I was doing okay.

Turns out, it’s helping other women too. And that blows my mind. 🥹

If you know someone who’s pregnant—your friend, sister, wife—please gift her this book. It’s real, honest, and filled with the kind of encouragement every expectant mum needs.

đź“– Get it here: https://selar.co/24142f
📲 Chat me: 09046615426

I didn’t shed a single tear.Contrary to popular sentiment, I wouldn’t simply label it “emotional.” I’ve witnessed far mo...
23/06/2025

I didn’t shed a single tear.
Contrary to popular sentiment, I wouldn’t simply label it “emotional.” I’ve witnessed far more stirring films—back in the days when we devoured Nollywood classics with unbridled passion. Take "Sister Mary," for instance—the unforgettable masterpiece starring Oge Okoye and Emeka Ike. I was still a teenager then, yet that film moved my younger sister and me so deeply, we wept like children lost at sea.

Now, Straw—that’s a solid production. Tyler Perry delivered it with the precision and heart we’ve come to expect from him. Just as he’s done time and again, he proves he’s a master of his craft. I’m currently watching "Zatima," another of his works, and honestly, I’m not surprised. The man knows his onions—and he slices them to perfection every single time.


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“Discipline is contagious — I married mine!”I used to be that person who talked a lot about goals and dreams, but rarely...
22/06/2025

“Discipline is contagious — I married mine!”

I used to be that person who talked a lot about goals and dreams, but rarely followed through. I’d promise myself and others that I’d do this or that — start a project, meet a deadline, chase an idea — and somehow, I’d always fall short. Or when I finally did act, it was late, rushed, and never quite what I had envisioned.

One of the most powerful turning points in my life came unexpectedly: I fell in love with someone whose natural discipline both fascinated and humbled me. My husband is everything I wasn’t — focused, intentional, and consistent. I watched how he quietly followed through on his plans, no noise, no fuss. He simply did what needed to be done, on time, every time.

Truthfully, it was one of the earliest things that drew me to him. Long before I fell for his smile or his kindness, I fell for that rare, steady strength. I knew I needed that kind of energy in my life — not to change me overnight, but to inspire me to rise higher.

And guess what? His discipline rubbed off on me. Being close to someone who lived what I struggled with forced me to reflect, adjust, and grow. Little by little, I became the woman who doesn’t just talk — but does.

📍The company you keep matters. Surround yourself with people who embody what you’re striving for. Their energy will pull you forward, often without you even realizing it.

© Ifunanya Chude

22/06/2025

How to Develop Self-Discipline That Lasts.
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21/06/2025

Don't be too hard on yourself. Understand your journey and own it!

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