28/07/2025
I cannot submit to a man, oh.
No man can tell me what to do.
I won’t show him my salary.
I’ll buy properties without telling him.
I’ll do me, he’ll do him.
These are common statements today, yet the same girls want to be happily married and dream of a perfect union.
Sister Rebellion, let’s be real:
If you can’t submit to a man, you’re not ready for marriage. It’s not up for debate. It’s not a matter of trend or opinion. It is God’s standard for order, peace, and harmony in the home. Marriage is a covenant of alignment not competition.
The Bible says: “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” Ephesians 5:22
Submission done right doesn’t make you less, It makes your home whole. It is not oppression or silence. It’s a willing heart that honors God’s order, just as the husband is called to love his wife sacrificially as Christ loves the Church.
“The head of every man is Christ and the head of the woman is man…” 1 Corinthians 11:3
You can’t claim to honor God while rejecting His design. You can’t build true oneness in marriage while insisting on personal independence.
If you don’t trust his leadership now, it will only frustrate you later. And if there are clear signs that he lacks maturity or godly wisdom, don’t marry him, because the exchange of vows on the altar doesn’t change his character.
If there are red flags, pay attention. If you have to fight him now, you’ll resent him later. If you cannot honor his voice now, his leadership will frustrate you tomorrow.
Submission isn’t something you “learn later.” It’s a posture of the heart you must be ready to embrace before you say “I do.”
So, dear sister, never marry a man you cannot submit to. Not because you’re weak, but because it’s God’s design. And His way still works.
Be Refreshed
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