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13/12/2024

I once asked a lady, "What type of man would you love to marry?"

You should have seen her list—it was endless! She wanted a financially stable man, God-fearing, hardworking, and so much more. When she was done listing all her expectations, I asked her one simple question that caused a fight.

I said, "The men who have been with you so far, how many of them meet these criteria?"

She got offended immediately. But think about it—how can you set such high standards for the man you want to marry, yet lower those standards for the men you entertain casually? You say you want a God-fearing husband, but the men you let into your life every weekend—are they God-fearing or something else?

So, you allow "bad boys" to have their fun with you, yet you expect your future husband to accept what’s left? Does that even make sense?

Here’s the hard truth: if you keep living recklessly and only decide to change when time is against you, don’t be surprised when good partners elude you. A good man or woman doesn’t just appear when you’re tired of playing around—you have to be what you seek.

If you want a God-fearing man, you must also be godly. If you desire a financially stable partner, then work towards being financially stable yourself. You can’t be lazy and stingy yet expect a rich, loving man to fall for you.

Relationships and marriages thrive on reciprocity. Whatever you expect from a partner, be prepared to give it in return. Double standards will never work.

The bottom line? Keep yourself for the kind of person you hope to spend your life with.

13/12/2024

Four days ago, I called my boyfriend to inform him that I’d be traveling to the village next month for Christmas and that I’d like him to send me some money to buy a few things. He replied that he was busy at work and asked me to send him a text message listing what I needed. Then, he ended the call.

As a faithful girlfriend, I quickly composed a detailed text message outlining the items I needed:

iPhone 15

Two pairs of jeans

Two tops

Two pairs of shoes

Two handbags

Two human hair wigs

A 50kg bag of rice

25 liters of groundnut oil

One carton of noodles

Two crates of eggs

After sending the message, I waited all day, but he didn’t call or text back. In the evening, I tried calling his number, only to discover I couldn’t reach him. I checked his messenger and WhatsApp, and both appeared blank—I realized he had blocked me.

The next day, I borrowed my neighbor’s phone to call him. He answered, but as soon as he heard my voice, he ended the call and blocked that number too. Yesterday morning, I tried using my landlady’s phone. He picked up, but once he realized it was me, he ended the call and blocked that number as well. Now, any number I use to call him gets blocked immediately.

I’m really confused and need advice. Why is my boyfriend blocking me? Is it wrong for me to ask him to buy me things for Christmas? For context, he is a tricycle rider and earns money daily, so I don’t understand why he’s acting like this. What should I do? Please help.

12/12/2024

A poor man often believes that the wealth of the rich comes from luck, while the rich man thinks the poor are lazy and remain poor because of their own shortcomings. A young woman who marries early might judge those struggling to find a partner as having bad character. A man who lands a job right after graduation may feel he is more intelligent than others. Similarly, a woman who gets married and starts having children may look down on women without children, assuming they led wayward lives.

If only the poor understood the struggles the rich endured to reach their success, and if only the rich could truly see the battles the poor face, no one would form opinions about one another without understanding the full picture. If the poor cannot appreciate the success of the rich, they should mind their own business—if becoming rich were easy, they wouldn't be poor. And if the rich can't help the poor grow, they should at least avoid discouraging their efforts.

If we truly knew the pain, challenges, and battles people face behind closed doors, we would thank God for our own lives. Until we walk in someone else's shoes, we cannot understand the difficulties of their journey.

Let us help each other grow, mock less, and love one another more.

12/12/2024

I met a Redeemed girl online after she commented on a post I made about immorality in higher institutions. Her boldness impressed me, and when some people attacked me online for the post, she became my defender. Brethren, I fell in love immediately—y’all know me, I love decent girls.

She was from Abia State but lived in Jos, while I was in Owerri. Transport costs made visiting challenging. I asked her out, and she told me she needed time to think about it. That same evening, I posted pictures of my new washing machine and my comfortable house online. As expected, her response came faster than I anticipated—she said yes.

We started dating, mostly via video calls. She always wore agbadas and headwraps, even at home. I asked if she always dressed like that, and she said yes, she didn’t like revealing her body. I couldn’t even see her figure because of those buba gowns. Concerned, I asked if she’d stop wearing them if we got married. She assured me she would, and that made me happy.

After two months, I suggested she visit me, but she said it was ungodly and even quoted the Bible about a man leaving his family to cleave to his wife. I was disappointed but brushed it off—it’s part of marrying an overly decent girl, I thought.

After six months, I decided to visit her in Jos. She looked great in person, and we spent time together, but she wouldn’t even let me hold her hand. I proposed, and she said yes. That was the first time she allowed me to hug her, though she kept her hands between us.

One evening, before leaving Jos, I tried kissing her. She sprang up and wiped her lips with her gown. Confused and annoyed, I asked if my mouth smelled. She said no, but explained she’d never kissed anyone before. That made me happy but also frustrated. Eventually, she allowed a kiss but stared at me the whole time, unsettling my spirit.

Fast forward to the wedding preparations. She stayed back in her parents’ house until the wedding night. Her bridesmaids were glamorous, but something didn’t sit right. I heard people calling her “Nicki,” and I wondered where that name came from since her name was Ifeyinwa.

Finally, it was our wedding night. I was eager to consummate the marriage. As I undressed her, I saw a tattoo on her chest. Shocked, I asked about it, and she said it was a birthmark. Then I saw another tattoo on her thigh: “Sexy Nicki.” My heart sank.

When I demanded the truth, she confessed it was from her past. I realized I had been deceived, spending millions on a wedding, thinking I was marrying an untouched woman. Furious, I called her parents, demanding a refund for the bride price.

This story isn’t to insult good women out there—men still love decent women. But let this be a lesson: don’t be fooled by appearances.

26/08/2024

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01/06/2024

WOMEN AND THEIR MANIPULATION SECRETS REVEALED.

The moments a woman can no longer control a man he calls him mummy's boy.

The moments a woman want to avoid being accountable she shouts that the man is being insecure.

The moments she wants her man to get her something she begins to compare him with other men who does that same thing to their woman.

The moments you caught her cheating she begins to cry for forgiveness but the truth is she's not crying because she wants to change or feel sorry but because you caught her.

The moments you shout DNA women will start crying how men have trust issues blahblahblah.

A gender that will never allow their own brother or children marry their friend who is pr******te but will come online and protest that other men should marry pr******te.

The moment she doesn't want to explain because of no evidence she begins to shed crocodile tears.

Women and blackmail na 5&6.

Take them serious at your own peril.

Be wise, I come in Peace ✌️

31/05/2024

SIGNS YOU HAVE FOUND A GOOD MAN

1. HE LOVES GOD

A GOOD MAN is first of all a GOD MAN.

Everything he does, how he treats you are motivated by his love for God. He treats you right because he loves and fears God.

He seeks to draw you close to the THRONE ROOM of God daily, and not to his BEDROOM.

He is concerned about spiritual growth, and engages you on a spiritual journey of growth and intimacy with the Father, your relationship with him bears semblance to the three fold cord that can not be broken because he always brings God into it.

2. HE IS HONEST.

He is honest about his feelings for you, he is honest about his intentions, what he wants from you, he is honest about when he sees/wants the relationship to end in marriage. He tells you everything

He is honest to you about his finances, his career, his life, his family etc.

He is trust worthy, transparent in all his dealings, he never lies just to impress because it is not his nature.
He has Integrity you can see, he doesn't make promises he cannot keep, he keeps 90% of his promises.

3. HE RESPECTS YOU

He doesn't treat you with contempt or disregard, the way he talks to you, with so much care and love, like a friend, not a boss.

He treats you like a princess, respects your wishes, your privacy and personal space, he doesn't cross certain boundaries because he respects you and your body.

He doesn't flirt with ladies or cheat on you because he respects you, your feelings and the relationship.

He extends the respect he has for you to your friends, guardians and family, the way he talks about them and talks to them is respectful.

4. HE MAKES EFFORT

He makes effort to keep any Promises he makes to you, if he tells you he will at a place by 6pm, he makes effort to be there

He makes efforts to please you, he's always doing things just to make you happy, even if he is inconvenienced in the process, like staying up all night to talk to you when you want his attention.

He makes effort to stay in touch with you, no matter how busy his schedule, no matter how busy he is, he'll make out time to stay in touch, call you, visit you, hang out with you regularly.

He makes effort, changes his routines, his lifestyle, his habits, his dressing, just to make you happy.

5. HE LISTENS

He asks for your opinions, because he treasures them, because he has great regard for not just your body, but you mind.

He consults you before he takes decisions, and considers what you say and seeks to implement them.

He takes corrections from you happily and with humility and adjusts accordingly.

6. HE TREATS YOU WITH LOVE

He loves you, and you see it in his eyes, you hear it in his words, and you feel it from his actions.

He texts, calls, visits, holds you lovingly, buys you gifts for no reason, and plans for the future with you. He doesn't use you to joke because you mean the world to him.

7. HE SUPPORTS YOU

He supports you in anything you wish to do, he is your number one fan and cheerleader, he supports your everyday hustle, your dreams and passions, financially and otherwise.

He aupports you in your business with ideas, encouragement, prayers, he is always there for you when you need him, he's a shoulder to cry on, a listening ear when you Wan to rant, and a friend to you.

8. He's after your soul, not your body.

He wants to marry you, has said so and is willing to wait till marriage for s*x.
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If you have such a Man, appreciate him, pray for him, treasure him, and don't let him go.

As a daughter of God, believing God for a husband, continually ask God for such a Man in prayers using scriptures, and position yourself accordingly..
If he could give his only begotten son to die for you, is it a good husband he can't give you?

Believe and Keep on asking till you get it. Don't get tired, your testimony is close..
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30/05/2024

13 WAYS TO CORRECT YOUR HUSBAND WITHOUT HURTING HIS EGO

1: LOWER YOUR VOICE
Don't shout at him..He is not your child. Although sometimes he acts like a child but yes you can correct him in a minimum volume tone.

2: DO IT IN LOVE
Correction should be done in love. Remember your husband is a human too. He makes mistakes and so are you.

3a: NEVER EVER CRITICIZE YOUR HUSBAND IN PUBLIC OR INFRONT OF YOUR FRIENDS.
Stop criticizing him, especially infront of your friends or family, that is very degrading to men, rather correct in love, just whisper with a gently hug. Most will say it's constructive criticism. But girl, men have egos too.. there self esteem are easy to breakdown.
Correction is the act of offering better options.
Correction and criticism are never the same

3b: LETS CUT THE SAYING “WHATEVER MY WIFE SAYS”
Girl, YOU ARE NOT THE BOSS! And so does your husband.
Every decision should be talked and planned with the both of you.
If he said your cooking is a little salty, NEVER WALKED OUT OF THE TABLE…instead appologize and offer other options. Give him sugar instead. 😂 and impove your cooking by watching cooking videos on youtube.

4 PRAISE HIM FOR HIS ACCOMPLISHMENTS
If he puts the curtain rod straight or your wall decor in perfect angle, appreciate that.. you know how meticulous they are when it comes to putting wall decor. They really mean business when you request them to do that, with all the use of measuring tapes and torpedo level and rulers. An extra appreciation will make him love you more.

5 DON'T DO IT IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILDREN
Avoid correcting your husband in the presence of your children. Incessant correction of your husband infront of your children will make them disrespect him. Remember HE IS THE HEAD OF YOUR HOUSEHOLD.

6 DON'T CORRECT HIM IN PUBLIC
Avoid correcting your husband in public, it does not show you as a virtuous woman and will affect his self-esteem. If you do that in public, you will look like a mad dog without breeding.

7 AVOID CORRECTING IN ANGER.
Stop correcting your husband in anger, shouting, ranting, beating and making trouble. Never push your husband to the point of him to fight back and protect himself from a rascal act of yours. By doing that, you are like adding kerosine on a burning house. Instead, invite him for a walk, hold his hand and talk about the problem.

8 DON'T COMPARE HIM WITH ANY OTHER MAN! NEVER EVER!!!
Thats where jelousy comes from.
In your thought of correcting him, you might have been comparing him with other men.
"Don't you see what your friend is doing?" Can't you learn from our neighbors husband?" "Can’t you be like cheska husband? Or susie’s husband? Or can you be like ADAM IN THE GARDEN OF EDEN? Or like SAMSON or SOLOMON? Girl, your husband is different. When you come to a point of doing these, then REMEMBER THE TIME WHEN HE STILL COURTING YOU and why you choose him and remember how you are head over heels in love with him.

9 NEVER GET BACK TO OLD ISSUES
There is no reasons why you need to get back to old issues… like “remember what you did before?? I will never ever, ever forget that!!! Bla bla bla!!!” Once the issues are done and solve, it should be totally erased in your memory… never try to open a grave… well mannered woman never do that. Stick to the present issue, discuss like adults and move on.

10 DON'T ATTACK HIS MANHOOD
"And you call yourself a MAN ENOUGH?, REAL MAN don't behave like this, you better change before I change you!." This is very wrong, don't do it… LADIES WE DON’t change MEN! if they want to change, they will change because of LOVE. Don’t try to be a sculptor of water. For sure you can’t do that.

11 DON'T ATTACK HIS DIGNITY
GIVE YOUR HUSBAND A BUNCH OF RESPECT!!!
Thats all that matters. If you don’t have enough respect for your husband then you are not worth the respect of your children.

12 DO IT IN TIME OF PEACE
Most WIFES do want to correct in the heat of their anger, at the height of misunderstanding, when temper has already hit the roof. That is not the best time to correct, it will yield little or no result at all. MEN is simple…they have SELECTIVE HEARING. they can only hear in. Low tone of your voice.

13 GIVE A HELPING HAND
Work together for good… change tire together, try your best to help in your most seductive way. That will make their job easy and fast. If he is fixing a broken leg of a table, hand him the things he need. Don’t just stand and watch your husband like you are an egyptian pharaoh mandating a slaves and ready to give a whip when he makes a mistakes.
Husband most of the time are doing a great job, appreciate yours and support him to be better husband and father.

THE REAL IMPOWERED WOMAN IS THE ONE WHO KNOWS HOW TO RESPECT MEN.

IF YOU EXPECT YOUR HUSBAND TO BE A RESPECTABLE KING IN YOUR PALACE, THEN YOU SHOULD FIRST CREATE A PEACEFUL PALACE FOR HIM!

29/05/2024

SECRET ABOUT WOMEN

1. When a woman is angry, she doesn't mean over half of what she says. If possible always hug her to calm her down.

2. The most difficult time for a woman is when she is away from the man she truly loves. She can get distressed.

3. It takes time for a woman to trust a man, its hard to change her mind when she does, but if you mess-up, you might just forget it.

4. A woman is such a school you will never graduate from.

5. Your wedding certificate with her is not a " Driving license", its just a "Learners permit". Continue wooing her.

6. She can be very bitter now, and a very sweet angel later on, it all lies in your approach. Yes treat her right always.

7. A woman hardly forget things, she remembers hurts more, avoid making her hurt. Avoid negative words and affirm her always.

8. A woman can be highly secretive. Most times when they prove hard to men, they go to their closet and cry to friends. Make your woman your best friend.

9. All women Love to be begged. Men often miss out on this. Yes please handle them like babies sometime its all they want.

10. All women have a unique character like salt, their presence might not be noticed but their absence makes all things tasteless.

11. If she loves you she can do everything you ask of her as far as it makes you happy, so never force her to love you.

12. If you don't take care of her, she will find someone who will. They are always there only that she chose you.

13. If a woman truly loves you, even to ask money from you she will be shy, but as a gentleman don't wait to be asked and most especially if she loves you she can never leave you to spend unnecessarily. That's what makes them special
If you have a good woman in your life, don't take her for granted. They are expensive jewelry. Don't hurt them cos there are many out there that wish to have someone like her

In every man success there must be a good honest Woman behind.

28/05/2024

20 UNSPOKEN RULES FOR MEN:

1. Always keep your word - if you make a promise, keep it.

2. Respect women - treat them with dignity and respect.

3. Take care of your appearance - dress appropriately and maintain good hygiene.

4. Be honest - don't lie or deceive others.

5. Show respect for elders - listen to their advice and guidance.

6. Be loyal - stand by your friends and family.

7. Be responsible - take ownership of your actions and their consequences.

8. Be self-sufficient - learn to take care of yourself.

9. Learn to forgive - holding grudges only hurts you in the long run.

10. Be humble - don't brag or boast about your accomplishments.

11. Be patient - good things come to those who wait.

12. Don't be a bully - treat others with kindness and compassion.

13. Be a good listener - pay attention to what others are saying.

14. Be a good communicator - express yourself clearly and effectively.

15. Be confident - believe in yourself and your abilities.

16. Act with integrity - do the right thing, even when no one is watching.

17. Be disciplined - have self-control and focus on your goals.

18. Show gratitude - appreciate the people and things in your life.

19. Be open-minded - consider different perspectives and ideas.

20. Be a lifelong learner - never stop growing and improving yourself.

17/05/2024

HONEST QUESTIONS TO ASK YOUR SPOUSE

1. Are you really OK? Please answer me as your friend

2. What parts of your childhood experience would you not want us to repeat in our marriage and parenting?

3. What parts of your childhood experience would you want us to apply in our marriage and parenting?

4. Are there traits in me you fell in love with when we were starting that I have stopped having? What do you miss about me?

5. Do I provide a good environment for you to talk to me about anything?

6. Where would you like to be as an individual five years from now?

7. Where would you like us to be as a couple and family five years from now?

8. On a scale of 0 to 10. How fulfilled are you with our marriage s*xually? 0 being poor, 10 being excellent. What can we do to improve?

9. On a scale of 0 to 10. How fulfilled are you with our marriage emotionally? 0 being poor, 10 being excellent. What can we do to improve?

10. On a scale of 0 to 10. How fulfilled are you with our marriage spiritually? 0 being poor, 10 being excellent. What can we do to improve?

11. Do you think I know your love language? Do I love you as you need to be loved?

12. Is there anything I have done in the recent past that has hurt you and you feel has not been addressed?

13. Please use one word to describe the season we are currently in

14. Are we OK as a couple?

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16/05/2024

21 HABITS THAT TURN BOYS INTO MEN:

1. Responsibility:
Take responsibility for your actions & be accountable for your mistakes.

2. Respect:
Show respect for yourself & others, including those who are different from you.

3. Honesty:
Be honest in your words & actions.

4. Empathy:
Try to understand and relate to the feeling and experiences of others.

5. Self-control:
Practice self-control and resist negative impulses.

6. Perseverance:
Keep working hard and don't give up, even when things get tough.

7. Initiative:
Take initiative and be proactive in your goals and responsibilities.

8. Time management:
Use your time wisely and efficiently.

9. Good communication:
Communicate clearly & effectively with others.

10. Problem-solving:
Use critical thinking and problem solving skills to overcome challenges.

11. Resourcefulness:
Use your resources and skills effectively to get things done.

12. Independence:
Develop independence and self-reliance.

13. Interdependence:
Recognize the importance of teamwork and interdependence with others.

14. Creativity:
Use your creativity and imagination to come up with new ideas and solutions.

15. Adaptability:
Be flexible & adaptable to change.

16. Leadership:
Develop leadership skills and the ability to inspire and guide others.

17. Emotional intelligence:
Develop your emotional intelligence and the ability to understand and manage your own emotions and those of others.

18. Confidence:
Believe in yourself and your abilities.

19. Courage:
Be brave and stand up for what you believe in.

20. Humility:
Be humble and open to learning and growth.

21. Gratitude:
Practice gratitude and appreciate what you have.

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