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07/09/2024

We Are Help Mates

Last night, my husband accidentally knocked a wine glass over and it smashed to pieces on the floor. I wasn’t there to see him do it but I heard the crash. He proceeded to clean up and checked for pieces and after being satisfied that he’d got every piece he went to bed for the night.

Now,I tend to get up and do random things at night around the house so I got up and went to the laundry room. As I went through the kitchen, I saw a couple of pretty nice size pieces of glass.

Honestly, my first response was irritation… I mean it seemed so careless, and what if one of the boys would have gotten up and gone to the kitchen and stepped on a shard? I was becoming increasingly upset when I heard in my spirit a voice of correction saying, ” Aren’t you the helpmate?”

With this rhetorical question I understood that I should be glad that I was up to pick up what he missed. I re-swept the floor and began moving things around incase pieces had managed to ricochet off somewhere else. I found quite a few.

This is marriage. Our spouses may not always get it right even with their very best efforts, but a true helpmate sees where there is lack and makes up the difference.

It’s not always time to complain, sometimes it’s time complete.

CREDIT: Valencia Davis

31/08/2024

DIVORCE is not the OPTION.

You left your husband because he was cheating. You have a kid or two. So you divorced because you were so pained.

You left, with the kids. You started working hard to cater for your needs. You work so hard, but it isn't enough.

To meet up with the growing economic demands, you find a wealthy man. He is rich. You dont care. You need to pay fees for your kids as a strong, independent woman.

You need to prove that it can be done. So you're dating a wealthy married man. You are now a side chic.

Then, you begin to think of the side chics your husband has and why he had them.

You do not even question the morality.

You begin to understand why. Maybe they've got kids too. Mouths to feed, life to live.

It doesn't make sense still.

So you call the married man when he is home, and he hides to shout at you for wanting to disturb his peace with his "wife" as you ought to know when he is home.

You think of your hurts.

You think of your consolation.

At least you had a husband who was fully yours. He cheats, but he was fully yours.

So you attempt to find out what is going on with him now, but he is married again to a younger woman.

After you make contact, he comes to visit you and the kids. He drops some money once in a while. The new wife is in charge now...

You connect on old times. You even had s*x.

He leaves to his house to his wife.

You're now dating two married men. Both of them are cheating on their wives.

And then you say life wasn't fair to you.

As bad as this may sound, it happens. It is the reality of our time.

Wise people learn from the mistakes of others.

Don't leave your peaceful abode (marriage) because he cheats.

It rains everywhere. Remember Love is beautiful 🌹

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29/08/2024

MY WIFE -
MY ENERGY -MY LIFE

When he came home that evening, he was looking dówncast and tîred. He was thinking of the right way to break the news to his dear wife.

And then, with a shakey hand, he pressed the door bell. Without doubt, he knew his wife would be the one to come and open the door for him.

And he was right. The look and excitement on her face when she opened the door was one of the reasons why he was always hungry to come home.

No matter what he met outside, his desire would always be to come home and meet his wife, because he knew that her countenance was enough to lighten up his mood.

But that particular evening, it was a different ball game. The experience he had for the day wèakened him so much that he couldn't look his wife in the face.

“Honey, what is the prôblem? You are not looking happy? What happened?" His wife asked as she gave him a hug and carried his suitcase.

“Honey, I have been fîred. A huge amóunt of money got mîssing in our department and the recôrd was pointing at my end.

I have tried to fîgure out how the whole stuff happened, but up till now, I couldn't. I guess someone tàmpered with my code." He expressed.

The wîfe was shocked. “How much is involved?” She asked.

“Ten mîllion nàira." He answered.

“Haaaaaa! Ten mîllion? Jesus! That's a very hûge sum!" She exclaimed.

“My dear. Sincerely I am just so confused. Investigations are still ongoing though. But I was tôld to stop work indefinitely and await my judgement. How am I going to take care of you and the children?" He was already in tèars.

The wife held him close, gave him a warm hug and assured him, “Don't worry sweet. Everything will be fine. I trust you so much, and I know you didn't have a hand in this. My God will vindicate you."

With that, she accompanied him inside, gave him a nice treat, such that he had never received it in a while. His mood lightened, his spirit came alive.

That night, the fellowship was extraordinary. His wife made him feel like the king he was, and for the upteenth time, he thanked the Lord for the Angel He gave him.

After the fellowship, he slept off. Tired, but fulfilled.

But his wife couldn't sleep. The woman couldn't rest! “Who dàres my husband?" She asked nobody in particular.

And then, she bègan to wàr, not with swórd and wèapons! No! She bègan to wàr, on her knèes!

“Oh Lord! Not at my wàtch will my husband be dîsgraced and dîsplaced in his office. Not at my watch will he be tàken càptive! Not at my watch Lord!

Èxpose and dîsgrace Lord! Every plàns, ôrchestrations and agenda of the èvil ones!"

And she began to talakuz. Kado shaka, reku, evaku! She spoke! In tongues of men and of Angels! And she prayed! Until she had her peace!

And then, she slept, like a newborn baby.

The next morning, while her husband contemplated his next line of action, his phone rang. When he checked, it was his boss at the office.

His heart flèw, but he managed to answer the call.

“Good morning Mr. Frank! You are needed at the office right now! Please do not hesitate. It is a very urgent matter."

He rûshed and dressed up, kissed his wife warmly and rushed to the office.

When he got there, everyone lóoked at him like a ghóst. He couldn't figure out what was happening. And then, he saw Dave, his colleague and closest friend.

He was on the flóor, pànting. When he rûshed to know what was happening, his friend retrèated and said,

“Please don't come near me. Why didn't you tell me that you married a wàr wife! I wouldn't have dàred you if I had known.

That woman! Kai! I will never dàre you in my life again. Thank God my life was spàred. I stóle the money, and implicated you, because I was jèalous of you. I was scàred you would be promoted before me.

But last night, your wife came with Angels of wàr. Haaaaa! I couldn't sleep ooo. You needed to see that woman you married! I never knew she was that strong!

Please forgive me. I will never mèss with you again."

He was just speechless. He stood there as he watched the pólice come around and whîsked his friend away.

He was lost in thought, “Oh! My dear wife. My Angel. Kai! I bless the day I met you. I will nèver make you wèep or règret your decision to marry me. You are the best, and I will make sure I give you the best life."

He was promoted, even higher than everyone's expectations. Their lives changed for good, and their marriage blossomed greatly. He never did anything without informing his dear wife, the Angel of his home.

Indeed, do not underestimate the incredible powers of a praying woman.

Some bàttles are better fôught on our knees.

Do not take every challenge at face value. There is always more.

Be the watchman over your spouse.

28/08/2024

WHAT IS PLAYING OUT HERE ?

LOVE , JEALOUSY AND TRUST

My wife's junior sister came to live with us after SHS. I thought it was just a visit but by the time I realized, she was living with us permanently. She isn't somebody I talk to or play with or engage in any way. She would say good morning and I'll respond. Sometimes she would serve my food or ask what I would eat. I don't hate her or hate her presence but there's nothing to talk about with her.

We go to work in the morning and leave the whole house to her. We don't have children she will take care of so she eats, watch movies and sleep while we are away.

All of a sudden, I heard my wife and her sister speaking undertone. They would be talking and quickly stop when they see me coming. I wondered but didn't let it bother me. One night my wife told me her sister was pregnant and she had been pressing her to mention the name of the one who got her pregnant but the girl was not saying anything.

She expected me to be shocked or act in a certain way which I didn't because I'd always suspected that girl was up to something. I told my wife, "Don't push her too much. Give her space. She'll come clean when she wants to."

My wife's response was "Or you know something about it? She's not talking but you're telling me not to push her. Is there something you know that I don't know?"

"What do you mean?" I asked.

"I mean what I mean. You're a man. If it's you say it so we know what to do before it gets out of hand."

Her sister later mentioned the guy's name. A guy she goes to church with. She went to the guy's house to cause a scene. The guy accepted responsibility.

My problem is how easily my wife suspected me. It hurts more when she doesn’t want to accept her mistake. I don't think I will forgive. A husband should be doing something wrong for a wife to suspect him this way. And the fact that I was the first person she suspected makes me see how low she thinks of me when it comes to cheating.

When I tried registering my displeasure she said, "As if it's impossible. Don't we hear such stories all the time?"

I don't deserve such disrespect but she doesn't see anything wrong with her assertion. I don’t back down easily so I will pay back. I will wait until we get pregnant and ask her, "Who did you sleep with to get pregnant?” I will make a scene, call for DNA and later tell her, “As if it's impossible. Don't we hear such stories all the time?”

I hope she enjoys it as much as she dished it out to me.

14/08/2024

I've been married for 25 years.

My husband and I never lived together under the same roof all these years.

I lived in the South East and worked there before marriage.

After marriage, I offered to resign from my job and join him in Lagos but he rejected the idea.

He said our family needed more financial support from my job.

My Mother and Mother-in-law advised me not to resign from my job and I believe they saw the future.

I also never visited him in Lagos where he resided and worked.

The only time I attempted to visit him in Lagos led to a rift between us.

He threatened to end the marriage and our families had to get involved to resolve the misunderstanding.

He only visited when he liked and that was when it was time for another baby.

We have 4 children together.

Now 25 years later my husband has retired from his job and has moved back to the South East.

The problem is that we live like strangers.

I don't know him and we have no relationship.

We just spent about 1 week together during each of his visits.

He could be gone for over a year without visiting.

The major issue is that I feel a deep sense of resentment for him.

He returned expecting everything to be all lovey-dovey but he is unrealistic.

We never had any conversations, our relationship was so official.

I never enjoyed the marriage which is the main reason for my resentment.

I got married majorly for companionship but I found myself alone like a single woman for 25 years.

If only I knew this was what he had to offer I never would have married him.

Not only did I not have companionship, I hustled like a single mother for 25 years.

My husband never provided any financial support.

At the beginning he kept playing me around each time I asked for money.

After a while he couldn't play around anymore he told me how he didn't live in the apartment so why should he pay for it?

He said the same thing about food and other needs.

I couldn't believe it.

After a heated showdown, his Mother and my Mother had a heart-to-heart talk with me, telling me to take care of my needs as I could.

I also had to cater to our children's needs after he kept dragging his feet.

I felt like I married myself.

I had a husband yet I was hustling like I was a single Mother.

I felt so much resentment towards him.

After the birth of our fourth child, I stopped communicating with him.

He never communicated, we only talked once I called him.

Funny enough he was fine with us not communicating.

That showed me the state of our marriage.

Our oldest child is 24 and out of the house. The other children are 22, 20, and 18. They are all adults, two are graduates from the university.

The other 2 are undergraduates and out of the house.

So it's just the two of us.

Now he is making small talk trying to communicate with me like we are a loving couple.

No love ever existed between us.

Our families have asked me to forgive like everyone else.

It's always so easy to dish out advice once it's not you.

The truth is that there is no way I can relate to him as a loving husband.

Now he is staying in the very apartment he refused to pay for.

He complains that I don't talk to him and sometimes I don't come home.

What does he expect?

His presence offends me and sometimes I stop by my friend who is a widow.

She lives alone and I have spent some nights with her since our youngest child left home.

We could both do with some company.

He is accusing me of seeing another man.

Did I know what he did in Lagos for 25 years?

It's just irritating how he expects us to carry on like nothing happened and all is well.

I don't know how to get out of this situation.

I'm thinking about getting another apartment and moving out.

My greatest regret is marrying this man.

This is not the life I wanted.

I had to work overtime to ensure that I didn't dislike our children.

I'm losing my mind with the way he keeps acting like it's business as usual.

Expecting me to cater to him like we made all these loving memories all these years.

My heart is so heavy and I don't know how to heal from this.

09/07/2024

20/01/2024

The Marriage Page You Can Trust

Birds chirping grasshoppers hopping. I can feel the wetness and cool sensation of the morning breeze filtering in from every open space a feeling that we are new into the year.
The year is still very fresh we can still take a review of our decisions. There is still ample of time for us to fall back to track if we noticed that we are falling apart.
Decisions are seldom taken in a haste especially when it has to do with marriage.
The institution of marriage was a careful part of God's plan for man Gen 2 v 18 and 21 to 25.
Getting married is one great achievement every man and woman look forward to, to build a loving and unique family that they would be proud of.
Marriage can be sweet loving and enjoying especially when you pitch your tent with a right partner and putting God at the center of your home.
In the beginning, in the times of creation, God already had plans for man ( Marriage ) right from the conception of creation in order to glorify Himself in holy matrimony for the purpose of Companionship Partnership and Fruitfulness.
Today, couples have taken their place in marriage for granted - emotionally and physically, they have shifted grounds from God at the center of their homes focusing only on the physical gains of marriage hence the crumbling and collapse of many homes, subjecting the fruit of their marriage ( children ) to the porous society.
In most marriages today, couples live more like flatmates in their own homes they flare at the sight of slight provocations which make many homes a field for endurance rather than a blissful ground.
However, it doesn't matter how awry your marriage has become, God has promised to piece together every pieces of a struggling marriage and a home at the verge of breaking up He has promised to piece together.... There is greater hope for those who will pray as there is a God that listens

Follow tORCH TELEVISION as we reel out a step by step approach that will open our eyes to the reasons why our marriage seem not to be working and possibly ways to handling different conflicts.

Work Your Marriage Out Don't Walk Out...

'tWalkOut



God Bless You

20/01/2024

Birds chirping grasshoppers hopping. I can feel the wetness and cool sensation of the morning breeze filtering in from every open space a feeling that we are new into the year.
The year is still very fresh we can still take a review of our decisions. There is still ample of time for us to fall back to track if we noticed that we are falling apart.
Decisions are seldom taken in a haste especially when it has to do with marriage.
The institution of marriage was a careful part of God's plan for man Gen 2 v 18 and 21 to 25.
Getting married is one great achievement every man and woman look forward to, to build a loving and unique family that they would be proud of.
Marriage can be sweet loving and enjoying especially when you pitch your tent with a right partner and putting God at the center of your home.
In the beginning, in the times of creation, God already had plans for man ( Marriage ) right from the conception of creation in order to glorify Himself in holy matrimony for the purpose of Companionship Partnership and Fruitfulness.
Today, couples have taken their place in marriage for granted - emotionally and physically, they have shifted grounds from God at the center of their homes focusing only on the physical gains of marriage hence the crumbling and collapse of many homes, subjecting the fruit of their marriage ( children ) to the porous society.
In most marriages today, couples live more like flatmates in their own homes they flare at the sight of slight provocations which make many homes a field for endurance rather than a blissful ground.
However, it doesn't matter how awry your marriage has become, God has promised to piece together every pieces of a struggling marriage and a home at the verge of breaking up He has promised to piece together.... There is greater hope for those who will pray as there is a God that listens

Follow tORCH TELEVISION as we reel out a step by step approach that will open our eyes to the reasons why our marriage seem not to be working and possibly ways to handling different conflicts.

Work Your Marriage Out Don't Walk Out...

'tWalkOut



God Bless You

20/01/2024

19/01/2024

Marriage is not meant for Boys But for Real Men...

14/01/2024

Work Your Marriage Out Don't Walk Out.
You can actually avoid divorce heartbreak and pains in your marriage.

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