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08/08/2025

Opportunities abound everywhere is not just a Statement, it’s an action word.

There are many ways to get yourself set up, and get connected to higher powers and level up, without you waiting for someone who knows someone.

This will only avail you the access to the right doors when you have eyes for subtle or inconspicuous details of needs and wants others people lacks.

I met with a young guy who happened to fortunately met with a big man, through the influence of his own Father, when he was to go for NYSC, his father spoke with this big man he knows to help his son to redeploy to his own state so he can serve under him, which he did, and every plan went well. He was given a free accommodation with another Notable person just because he came through this big man his father knew.

I met with this young man, and got to know what he studied, his interest and all, so I told him the privileges he had, some are looking for, so I gave him counsel on how to handle it. So he left that day.

Fast forward to some weeks after that day, he started to ask some questions that piqued my curiosity to know how he was doing in the house he was given to stay. He opened up and told me he was told to go live somewhere else, I asked further, why that?

To him he doesn’t know, then I proceeded to asked him some basic questions,

1: the people you are living with, what do you do when you wake up?
Him: I don’t do anything, when I wake up I go greet them and return to my room.
Me: oh, interesting, you just go greet and return to the room. Alright.

2: Do they give you food?
Him: yes, they do give me food.
3: Who wash the plates used after eating.?
Him: The wife of the man I’m staying with, she told me i should not do anything.
Me: wow! And you fall for that!. Interesting.
4: When they leave for Church, do you follow them to church?.
Him: he gave some excuses.
Me: So you mean to tell me, that you live with people for free, courtesy someone they hold in high regard, and you do nothing in the house only to wake up and retract back to your room. Funny.
You can’t be a liability and also be kept, we instinctively do away with liabilities and look for assets to increase our productivity and proficiency.

Now the family he was granted access to lived in, they had no child available to help with their basic errands, here, his usefulness is very important. But he chose to came in to eat for free, sleep for free, pay no rent, and have access to go out and come in, only to do nothing for them in return as a means of showing gratitude.

He was told to go live somewhere else, where he will be responsible for himself. There, all he refused to help with, he will have to do for himself.

Now the opportunities around him was many, couple with the fact that he can help around the house and that will give him leverage to get more bigger opportunities when the doors are open for it. Now they have seen him to be an irresponsible and lazy young man, and had simply proved to them that he still had a lot to learn. Here is the twist, people don’t easily forget what you do for them, especially in their lowest phase. They can just choose to ignore your efforts, but they remember what you did wrong or what you did right. And those badges carries your name in their mind.

Opportunity doesn’t show up for fun, it shows up to be seized. That way more doors will be open.

When you look around you, there are things some people need to get done but they don’t have the skills and competence to get it done, when you have eyes and hands for that, dive into action, it carved a name for you.

When Isaac in Genesis 26:15-22 Needed to drink water, he dug a well, even though they strove with him on it, his name was already attached to the event, when he succeeded.
Your name is carved on the opportunity you utilized.

Build eyes for opportunities around you, that way, your worth is improved.

©️Anthony Lopez

06/08/2025

The yardstick for choosing a wife is Favour.

Love is first a choice, not a feeling, feelings dies with time, but who you chose to marry is a choice you will have to live with even when the feelings are no longer there.

This in place will help drive your selection process on who to marry as a man.
Some men are fortunate to have met their favored wives, but out of recklessness and lack of self control, they lose those wives to different circumstances that arise through negligence and indifference.

Proverbs 18:22 whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth Favour of the Lord.

The emphasis is on “Favour,” and the beautiful thing here is that, it doesn’t matter the kind of man it maybe, be it a foolish man, or a wise man, once he finds her, he will obtain Favour from the Lord.

Example of whoever is Nabal who married Abigail. 1 Samuel 25:3-6.
David recognized that Nabal was Favored of the lord, for he dwells in prosperity. Although he was a foolish man.

Moses Marriage to Zipporah saved his life when she made a sacrifice that made God to spare Moses life. Exodus 4:24-25.
One sign of a good wife is you find Favour, you are progressing little by little.

Boaz will have something to do with Jesus linage courtesy Ruth a woman that touched God with her act of Faith in her mother in-law and the God she served.

*Southeastern Nigerian Male Migrants*:
During the colonial era, some Nigerian men used freedom papers and marriage certificates to forge themselves into "wife-owning husbands." These men often treated their wives poorly, but the wives played a crucial role in sustaining their families through farming and trading. While not traditional examples of "good women," these wives demonstrated remarkable resourcefulness and determination.

Did they had a wife? Yes
Did they had a good wife? Yes
Are they wise men? No
But they didn’t know how to maintain and sustain their wives.

A man once got married to a woman and he Found Favour and became rich, she was so scared that her husband will start to womanize, and because of that, she looked for ways to cause her husband to go through big misfortune but brought him down into poverty. She believes that way he won’t cheat on her. Even when the man wasn’t cheating on her. (True life story)

Did he find a wife? Yes
Did he found Favour? Yes
But it was short lived because of the woman’s in-eptitude to harness the good in her husband.

You can find a wife and she can be a misfit. God will do his part in making you obtain favour from him, but once the woman is a misfit, then the Favour will be shortened or destroyed.

It is necessary to look beyond physical beauty, check for content that carries Favour, many men will be courting a lady and instead of him progressing he is retrogressing and his carried away with other factors that doesn’t make for a good wife.

It is also worthy of Note that a lady can prepare herself to be favored of God to be found.

“A Prudent wife is from the LORD.” Proverbs 19:14

In today dating world, these factors are not put into proper considerations and many just pick out of the necessity to be called a married man. It’s beyond that. To marry a Favored woman is to be fulfill in life, destiny and to fulfill purpose.
Many died without fulfilling purpose because of who they choose to marry. (Man or woman)

When you are courting, observe what part of your life is moving forward and what part of your life is going backward or stagnant since you met with her.

What contributions had she added to your spiritual life or physical endeavors, And if you as a man, don’t know how to handle a favored woman, you will at the end lose her.

The sign of a Good wife is; Favour is obtained both from God and men. Selah

©️Anthony Lopez

22/07/2025

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11/07/2025

You Need Three Types Of Helpers;
A Waiting Helper, A Following Helper, And A Permanent Helper.
May Your Helper Locate You And Also Deliver.

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20/03/2025

The marriages of today are highly troubled. The dynamics are in the attitudes each partner has, the mental pictures of how it should or shouldn't be, and the world's standards set instead of God's standards. The problem is, God understands that you will face challenges, and He gave laws to help hold marriage up. Today, people's standards are causing serious issues. Learn to understand that God wants the best for families and homes because, in heaven, we also have family - a family that reflects His heavenly standard.

Apostle Paul admonished that if you cannot bear the challenges that come with marriage, it is better not to marry. And if you do marry, you do not sin (1 Corinthians 7:28). Out of 24 cases taken to court, 22 are for divorce. What was the standard for your marriage? What was the underlying factor for choosing your partner? Once the motive is wrong, everything will be wrong. But in all your standards, set Godly standards. Marriage is honorable, and the bed undefiled (Hebrews 13:4).

It is better to marry early and marry right; it is better to marry late and marry right. It is better to marry the man God speaks to you about than the image in your mind (the one you carved for yourself). If Joseph had disobeyed the leading of the Spirit, who would have helped Mary during her pregnancy? Who would have helped transport the child to Egypt? Who you marry will help you during your stormy times or leave you in the cold, naked, during your trying times. God sees the future better than you do. Pick according to His standards, not according to your own graven image. Ponder!

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Taking things for granted.
What we take for granted is what grounds us.

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Selah!

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Ponder.