08/10/2025
"Please, Is it a crime to marry a man who knows how to cook? Cuz honestly, I’m so tired of the complaints. When I met my husband in 2021, I was the happiest woman alive. I was proud of him cuz he's perfect when it comes to kitchen work.
He cooks so well. I’m not ashamed to say he cooks better than me.
He was actually raised by his mom, who was a single parent. She is also very good at cooking & even studied Culinary Arts in school. My husband is an only child. I was truly proud to have met a man who is caring, romantic, loving, & above all, cooks. Not just cooks, but also prepares very delicious meals. We dated for close to 3 yrs, & he never allowed me to touch anything in the kitchen. He was always the one making the meals, & I'd focus on his laundry or cleaning the house.
But now, after marriage, I feel like I should run away. I feel like I made a big mistake. I’m no longer finding this situation funny. I'm so uncomfortable. Every time I prepare food, he'll always find something wrong with it; he has never liked my food. We've been married for almost 9 months now, but he's constantly finding fault with my cooking, even though the food tastes delicious to me. He’ll always complain. It’s either the maggie salt isn't enough or I didn't put enough ginger or garlic, or the meat isn't tender enough or this or that, ahh!! Me I'm honestly tired of all this!
For close to 9 months of our marriage, my husband hasn't liked my food even once. He'll come back from work, go straight into the kitchen, & start making his own meal, saying that the one I prepared isn't tasty. Most times, I have to throw the food away cuz it gets bad without anyone eating it.
I have tried to learn from him, but it's not working. He'll finish teaching me, & after I cook, he’ll still complain & go into the kitchen to make his own food. I’m ashamed each time he does this, & I’m not finding it funny anymore. Today's incident is so annoying cuz i had to close early from work just to make the Jelof rice & chicken he said he wanted to eat after work. Despite that i got home so tired. i put in the best of efforts just so it comes out very delicious. I even tasted it & it's very ok & delicious
When he came back I served him food hoping he'll enjoy it, but instead, he took just a spoon, got up quietly without offering a single word to me. As i write this, he's in there in the kitchen making another pot of Jelof rice despite that i already cooked . Please I'm tired!! Marriage is supposed to be happy, and I’m just not enjoying that feeling of sharing and contribution in the kitchen. Please advise me what to do, because I don't want to let this issue damage our relationship. Our marriage is still too new for this kind of tension."
