28/07/2024
Greeting dear parents,
Occasionally, your child/ children don't meet your expectations, which isn't a behavioural issue..
It is, in fact, a developmental issue.
Please pay attention and follow my train of thought.
You can tell your 5 year old not to p*e on the bed.
Your 5 year old will hear and understand you.
Your 5 year old will desire not to p*e on the bed..
Yet your 5 year old will sleep and p*e.
You give your 9 year old an instruction to do XYZ.
Your 9 year old will respond like he/she wants to carry out the instruction enthusiastically the next second, you went out and returned with your child yet to carry out the instructions.
Please stop getting frustrated.
Channel that energy to making plenty of money.
Don't unleash any frustration on your children.
You're not a victim. Don't be too quick to take the exhibitions of your children personal.
They're not deliberately refusing to follow your instructions.
They're equally struggling with themselves.
Developmentally, children lack the cognitive and emotional stamina to follow your instructions.
Because of the developing nature of the prefrontal cortex (PFC) of the brain.
They'll hear you, understand you, but do something different.
It's not intentional..
It's a developmental phase.
Like sitting, walking, p*eing, it's just a phase, they'll outgrow it.
It's the same with following instructions, taking initiative and experimenting with unhealthy behavior. It's just a phase.
What you must do..
* Be empathetic to guide.
Guide, guide, and guide.
- Not flogging or yelling.
They'll emotionally alienate you when they feel you don't understand their struggles.
* Work on your triggers.
Whatever frustrates you about your children is feedback to an underlying issue.
If you don't evaluate it, it will sabotage your relationship with your children.
Be to your children, the parent you never had.
I hope you get the help you seek.
I'm rooting for you.
