15/10/2025
My friend told me his job as a man is to provide for his family. So he spends his time and energy providing or figuring out how to provide. He doesn’t have time for trivialities and emotional shenanigans with his wife and children.
Man has to work.
I allowed him to talk. After 2 days I called him back and asked him
Do you want to be lonely at old age?
He said No.
I told him well, you need to change your mindset. Your only job as a father or husband is not to provide. You should understand that your role is much more than a provider.
Men who are only providers for their families are going to be like an ATM machine. During the day, when people have need for cash they will be in the ATM machine, punch it, make it spill cash and feel needed and desired. Even fight over it.
But at night when no one needs cash the ATM machine lies alone in solitude and loneliness. No one comes to it. It just lies alone in the dark. Why? Because it is done its job of providing.
So rather than be an ATM kind of man who just wants to provide, split your time and energy between doing things for your family and doing things with your family. Be there for them. Go to things with them. Eat with them. Make memories with them.
The happiest families are not the ones with the most things provided for them. The happiest people on earth are the ones who make memories together by doing things together as a family.
Humans remember more what you do with them than what you do for them.
After we had that second talk, my friend calls me back after a few days to say,
“Now I see why so many men are lonely at old age. We spend our time doing things for our family, our usefulness ends and the time when our family should spend time with us, they don’t because they hardly remember what we did with them. “
So I say again, don’t be an ATM machine person.
Loneliness is not a good feeling 💚
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