21/05/2025
It's interesting, isn't it?
When you're someone who really brings a lot to the table in life, some people just can't handle it. They might ask what you offer, but if you actually show up with your full self, they back away.
Understand this...if you're someone who aims high and works hard, you'll be "TOO MUCH" for people who are comfortable with just getting by. But their leaving isn't a loss, it's just things falling into place.
It''s alignment.
Many women don't know what to do with a man who isn't impressed by s*x, and many men are clueless when they meet a woman who isn't after their money.
The truth is, people will quickly label you as "difficult" the moment you see past their flashy words and look at what they actually do. If you're not easily swayed by charm because you want to see how someone has handled their opportunities in life, you'll probably be misunderstood.
And when you're not distracted by someone's potential because you're focused on their consistent actions, people will start to fear you, they'll call you difficult when you ask questions that expose their laziness instead of just going along with their confusion.
You're okay with growing alongside someone because you're also on your own journey of becoming. But you won't try to convince an adult to start working on themselves if they've lived their whole life unaware. You're looking for a mature partner, not an adult project.
Others might be drawn in by good looks or money, but you want to understand someone's character, because you're grown enough to know that someone's mindset and morals are far more important than their appearance or initial attraction.
It's their mindset that will build or break your home, and their morals that will guide your children.
Another reality is, society might be obsessed with romance, but the world truly runs on finance, that's why you need to understand a person's relationship with money.
Will they help you grow, or just drain your resources?
Will they contribute to your shared future, or just take from it? Every smart person wants a partner who builds wealth, not one who squanders it.
You want a partner who meets you at your own level of personal growth, not someone who sees marriage as a way to simply boost their status.
Even the person who nurtures others needs nurturing, and the provider needs support.
When you carry a lot, you need someone who cares a lot, you want someone who brings abilities, not just desires.
The idea of marriage isn't to escape loneliness or to find a rescue from your current problems. You need to address your own loneliness or crises first, otherwise, you'll just bring them into the marriage and spoil it.
Marriage is about moving from single to double. Double the joy. Double the strength. Double the minds working together.
