11/09/2025
'I'm just tired. My spirit is weak. I'm tired of peeping My wife through the widow. I'm a 37-year-old man, a complete man, I don't know who to talk to about my problems.
My wife, the woman I love so much, is the reason I'm here. We've been married for almost 2 years now, we don't have kids yet but we keep moving from house to house. We've moved 4 times already. Yes, four! And the way my life is going, I'm sure it won't be the last.
Every time i have to look for another place. The stress is just too much. You know how it is in town—paying 6 months or a full year's rent up front, plus agent fees, legal fees, & all that. My business is not even moving well these days, & I'm just spending money like water. All cuz of my wife's habit.
You see, my wife is not like me. Me, I'm a quiet person. I like my space. I like to come back from work, lock my doors, watch TV, & just have my peace. But my wife? She's a social butterfly. She's always making friends with neighbors. The woman will sit outside from morning till night, gisting with our neighbors & making friends. It doesn't matter if it's a man, a woman, a married person, or a single person—she will make friends with them.
Sometimes I come home & they're people sitting in my verender, & I don't even know who they are. That's not even the Issue. The main problem is when a new guy moves into the neighborhood. Especially if he's a fine boy or a young, attractive man. it'll make me feel so insecure & uncomfortable cuz my wife's friendship level just goes to a hundred. She will be the first to greet him, the first to offer to help him with something, & the next thing you know, they're sitting outside laughing & gisting like old friends.
I'll just be inside, peeping through the window, & a big fire will be burning in my chest. I'll get so jealous & insecure that my mind will not even be at rest. I can't eat, I can't sleep, I can't even focus on my work.
I know what you're thinking, why don't I just talk to her? My people, it's not that easy. Even before we started dating, she was already in another relationship. Infact, i took her from the other guy, she told me about her last boyfriend. She said she left him for me cuz the guy was too jealous & controlling, always asking her who she was with & why she was gisting with a man. She said she fell in love with me cuz I was calm & not like that. And now, I'm afraid to talk to her about this.
I love her so much & don't want to risk her looking at me like I'm the same as her ex, or worse, pushing her to another man. I feel trapped. I've spent so much money moving houses just to avoid these issues, but I'm still not comfortable. My mind is not at ease, & I don't have peace in my own home.
Pls, what do I do? or I'm I overreacting, pls, advice me on this issue"