27/08/2025
Life is Two-Sided
Life is never one-directional. Every choice opens a door but silently closes another. You cannot embrace one side without letting go of the other, because every path in life carries both gain and loss, joy and sacrifice.
I was reminded of this truth recently when I saw a group of corps members moving together, laughing, gisting, and carrying on like old friends. Watching them took me back to my own NYSC days. But unlike them, my experience was different.
My PPA was a company owned by one of my beloved brothers Sheikh Muh'd Toyyib Bakare Bakinson. Out of kindness, he gave me accommodation, and it felt like home. After every weekly CDS, I went straight back to my comfort. I barely mingled with other corps members, not out of pride, but simply because I wasnโt around them often.
For most corpers, friendship is born from hostel life, sleeping and waking up together, sharing meals and sometimes hunger, laughing through discomfort, and building bonds in the middle of hardship. I didnโt have that. I had comfort, food, and a sense of security. But in exchange, I lost the adventures, the late-night gists, the memories that are often forged in the fire of struggle.
Sometimes I feel pained that I didnโt make those lifelong friendships or roam the community with them. Yet at the same time, I know I escaped the stress and hunger that many endured.
And that is the beauty and the pain of life. You canโt take comfort without missing experience. You canโt choose struggle without tasting sacrifice. Every gain demands a price. Every path holds its blessing and its cost.
The real wisdom, therefore, is not to regret, but to embrace both sides of life, grateful for what you gained, and at peace with what you lost. Because in the end, life always balances itself.
- Ibrahim Annusrat