17/12/2025
“Focus on your husband and leave the side chic alone.”
That line sounds mature, but in reality, it excuses nonsense.
It quietly gives some women permission to sit comfortably in another woman’s marriage and call it hustle. That thinking protects irresponsibility and rewards laziness.
Let’s stop pretending.
When a woman knowingly dates a married man, she didn’t fall into it by mistake. She assessed the situation and accepted the role. The man is wrong, yes — but the woman didn’t arrive there blindfolded.
This constant habit of blaming only the man and washing the side chic clean is dishonest.
I shared a post about a woman encountering her husband’s side chic, and still, the loudest advice was “face your husband.”
Now another public case trends, and again, the same comment floods everywhere like it’s wisdom.
Here’s the truth many don’t like to hear:
Side chics exist because someone agrees to be one.
If a woman refuses to be number two, there is no number two.
Some even defend it openly — saying dating married men is how they survive. Survival that feeds on another woman’s pain? That’s not hustle, that’s cruelty.
And let’s be clear — some side chics are not passive. Even when the man wants to withdraw, they fight to remain relevant. That part is always conveniently ignored.
If correction must be given, let it be complete.
The cheating husband deserves it.
The willing side chic deserves it too.
My heart truly goes out to women dealing with betrayal. That wound is deep and unfair.
May God keep us far from this kind of pain in our marriages 🙏🏽
