03/09/2026
I’m not here to sugarcoat you.
I’m not here to tell you what you feel like hearing.
This page is here to tell you the painful truth.
So here is one:✅
Before you commit to someone, no matter how s*xy, classy, attractive, successful, or well spoken they look, do not neglect these 10 things.👇
You can be attracted to someone and still be completely incompatible with them.
Before marriage, find out:
1⃣ Genotype and blood group
Know your health compatibility and important medical information.
2⃣ Family background
Know the kind of family you are connecting yourself to and the values they grew up with.
3⃣ How they communicate
Can they have difficult conversations without insults, silence, manipulation, or running away?
4⃣ How they handle anger
Everybody gets angry. The question is, who do they become when they are angry?
5⃣ How they forgive
Do they genuinely forgive, or do they keep a record of every mistake and bring it up years later?
6⃣ Their financial habits
How do they spend, save, borrow, give, and handle financial pressure?
7⃣ Their expectations about intimacy
Talk about affection, intimacy, frequency, boundaries, and expectations. Don't assume you will automatically agree after marriage.
8⃣ Their behavior in public
Watch how they treat strangers, family members, workers, and people who cannot do anything for them.
9⃣ Children and family expectations
Do you both want children? How many? What happens when parenting decisions become difficult?
🔟 Their vision and values
What kind of life are they trying to build? Where do they see themselves in five or ten years? Do your values actually align?
Here is the part people don't like hearing 📢📢
Sometimes you don't marry the wrong person because you didn't see the red flags.
You marry them because you saw the red flags and convinced yourself that love would change them.💔☂️
