09/10/2025
Mr Tony please post for me, and hide my ID.
Sometimes I ask myself… what did I really get married to?
I got married to a man who lives abroad. On our traditional wedding day, he couldn’t be around, so his younger brother — who always calls me “Aunty” — stood in for him. My husband promised to get all my travel documents ready immediately after the wedding. I believed him with all my heart because I loved him and trusted every word he said.
After the traditional marriage, I stayed with my parents since my husband wasn’t around. But my mother-in-law didn’t like that. She kept pressing my husband to bring me over to stay with her in their village. At first, I refused, but after much talk, I gave in and went to live with her.
My husband’s only sister had just given birth, and she and her baby were also living with my mother-in-law.
Months went by. I did nothing — no job, no business, nothing — because my husband told me there was no need since I would soon relocate to join him. But as time passed, I became restless. Nothing was happening. No call from immigration, no sign of any travel process, not even an international passport.
When I asked him, he said I should stop disturbing him, that he was handling everything from his end and I should just be patient. He spoke so calmly and lovingly that I believed him all over again.
One morning, my mother-in-law dressed up, called a taxi, and left with my sister-in-law and her baby. Nobody told me where they were going. I called my husband to ask, and he said, “It’s not a must they tell you everything they do.” I felt so small and unwanted.
A few days later, his younger brother — the same one who stood in for him — came to visit. He’s a cheerful, lively person, and honestly, I was happy that day because I finally had someone to talk to.
While we were chatting, my husband called. The first thing he said was, “What are you doing with my younger brother?” I was shocked! I tried to laugh it off and told him we were just chatting since he wasn’t around to keep me company — but that became a big issue. He stopped picking my calls for three whole months.
I cried silently every night. I couldn’t tell my parents because I didn’t want them to worry. After some time, he called to apologize, and like a fool in love, I forgave him.
Can you imagine that I have never even met him in person? We met online, fell in love, and got married without ever seeing each other face to face.
After six months, I noticed my sister-in-law and her daughter packing new boxes and buying a lot of things. I thought it was for a church event. The next morning, they were gone before I even woke up. My mother-in-law just told me to go and sweep my husband’s compound because “Nene and her daughter have traveled.”
Two days later, I saw pictures and videos online — my husband’s younger brother had traveled abroad with my sister-in-law and her daughter. They went to meet my husband!
I can’t describe how I felt. My heart broke into pieces. I didn’t know if I should be happy or cry. Before that, my husband had told me he was coming home for Christmas, so I decided to keep quiet and pretend everything was fine.
But I couldn’t take it anymore. Out of emotional pain, I packed my things and went back to my parents’ house. When I told my mother-in-law I was leaving, she looked at me and said, “Don’t tell me the good news is chasing you away?” I didn’t say a word — I just walked away with tears in my eyes.
My husband didn’t call me. I didn’t call him either.
Now, I sit and ask myself every night, why did he marry me?
Was it for love or just to keep me waiting forever?
Please, I need advice… what should I do?
