25/06/2025
A letter to my lovely sisters
Dear ladies
I hope my letter meets you in good health and wealth.
Hope you all had a wonderful night rest? Good morning to you all and everything that concerns you.
It is with deep thoughts and prayers that I, Chekwube Adaba, write this letter to you. I wish to have a heart to heart discussion with you, and I pray you reason this letter through logic and not emotions.
I am sure y'all must have heard and read about the recent attacks on ladies in Rivers state and other parts of Nigeria?
You heard about the women who were attacked in a club house by a famous big man in Rivers state, right?
You must have also read about the lady who is currently battling with her health, after almost been killed by a married man she dated for 7 years, in Rivers state right?
Now, before I proceed, please I wish to state here that I condemn any form of violence against anybody; either male or female. I don't believe in shedding of blood to resolve matters and I will never believe so.
That been said, can we continue?
Okay, so sisters, I want to ask you a question.
When growing up, did anybody orientate you all that you can never make it in life, without the help of a man?
If yes, then please I beg of you to change this orientation, because it is what is causing all these recent violence against your gender.
In those days, women were taught to be beautiful and wait for a man to come and save them and their families from poverty! These days, men no longer want to be the prince in a shinning armour.
I can't believe that at this modern day, most some women still think they should not be working, but rather be looking for men to help them sort out financial issues.
I can't believe that these days, some women still allow men who are not family members, to train them through school or set up businesses for them.l, without getting a written or recorded agreement.
I can't believe that these days, women still view men as passports to a better life.
Women, we can do better. We should stop making my gender feel they are more than humans. We should learn to start taking our destiny into our own hands.
Truth be told, men of these days are no longer interested in spending money on women without getting anything in return. Men don't want to be the ones to save women from poverty, and to an extent, they have their reasons.
So any man who invests in a lady, wants a return and when he doesn't get it, he thinks up evil plans against the woman of interest.
Women, let us get out from our comfort zones, get a job and get a life.
Let us stop the begging and lust for men's money.
Men these days are not smiling, please stop showing them your 32, dear sisters.
And for the men, let us learn to either stop being benevolent to random women without an agreement in place, or be ready to let go whatever we do for women, despite whatever happens.
Your brother in love
Chekwube Adaba
