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23/10/2025

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23/10/2025

WHEN INFERTILITY IS NOT HER FAULT

Before you blame her womb, check his lifestyle.

Every time a couple struggles to conceive, the woman becomes the first suspect.
She’s the one who runs from hospital to hospital…

She’s the one swallowing supplements, changing diets, crying through hormonal injections, and silently praying every month for two pink lines.

But rarely does anyone stop to ask…has the man even been tested?

The truth many don’t want to admit is this…

In up to 75–80% of infertility cases, the man’s health plays a major role.
Not because he is cursed or weak…

But because men often ignore the little things that quietly destroy their fertility.

The untreated STI from their youth…
The tight underwear that overheats the te**es daily…

The performance enhancers and energy drinks they depend on…

The alcohol, smoking, poor sleep, and gym supplements, all adding up, silently damaging sp£rm count and motility over time.

Then, when marriage comes and conception delays, she carries the shame, the whispers, and the tears while he carries excuses.

But fertility is not a woman’s story alone.
It’s a shared journey, a team diagnosis.

It takes both sp£rm and egg to make a baby…. so why should only one person bear the burden?

Men, it’s time to rise above the silence.
It’s not weakness to go for a semen analysis.

It’s not unmanly to see a HCP.
It’s wisdom.
Because every day you ignore your health, you risk a future where regret replaces responsibility.

Women are not always the problem.
Sometimes, they are just the ones who care enough to find the solution.

Before you blame her womb, test your own seed.
Infertility is not a verdict, it’s a call for awareness, teamwork, and early intervention.

I am De Wesley's | Restoring truth, hope, and healing in reproductive health.

23/10/2025

I am currently working on setting up a Fibroid Awareness and Surgical Support Group specifically for women in Lagos.

This group is designed to be a safe space for women living with fibroids…especially those who cannot afford the high cost of surgery and professional medical services.

Here, we’ll share verified information, guide women on safe and affordable options, and connect them with trusted medical professionals before the fibroid grows too big or becomes complicated.

For now, our focus is on Lagos residents, but in time, the reach will expand because every woman deserves access to care, not just those who can pay for it.

Our goal is simple:
To help women get help early, access affordable surgical care, and protect their wombs with wisdom, not fear.

I am De Wesley's | Surgical Patient’ Advocate | Creating Awareness | Saving Lives

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23/10/2025

Can You Still Be a Mother Without a Womb?

She can’t carry…
But she can still care.

The day she walked into the hospital, she only came for surgery to remove fibroids.
She was told it was a simple procedure nothing major.
But when she woke up, the first thing she asked was… did you save my womb?

Silence filled the room.

The operation had gone well.
Her bleeding had stopped.
Her life was saved.
But her womb… was gone.

That’s the moment no one prepares a woman for.
Not the physical pain but the quiet ache that follows.

Because a womb is more than an organ.
It’s a symbol of hope, of life, of womanhood.
And when it’s gone, it feels like a part of your identity left the theatre with it.

But here’s the truth medicine and compassion both agree on…
Losing your womb doesn’t mean losing your worth.

Many women undergo hysterectomy,
some because of…

Fibroids that grew too large.
Cancers threatening their lives.
Severe bleeding after childbirth.
Or a ruptured uterus that could have taken them away forever.

In that moment, the surgeon’s goal is not to take away her future…
It’s to make sure she still has one.

Yes, after a total hysterectomy, natural conception is no longer possible
because the womb, the place where life grows, has been removed.
But does that mean motherhood ends there?
No. Not at all.

Motherhood is not only biological.
It’s emotional.
It’s spiritual.
It’s intentional.

A woman can still be a mother…
Through egg preservation and surrogacy, where another woman carries her child using her eggs.

Through adoption… giving love to a child who was born needing it.

Through nurturing…. because care is not confined to pregnancy, it flows through compassion.

Every time she wipes a tear, feeds a hungry child, or mentors a younger woman,
she is mothering, in the purest form.

But here is what we must also talk about,
the emotional recovery after hysterectomy.

The hormones may fluctuate.
The moods may swing.
The silence of no more periods may feel strange.
And sometimes, even the partner doesn’t understand.

That’s why support, not sympathy, is what she needs.
Counseling.
Medical follow-up.
Reassurance that she is still whole.
Because her value was never in her uterus, it was in her humanity.

So if you ever meet a woman who says,

They had to remove my womb,
Don’t rush to pity her.
Celebrate her strength.
She walked into that theatre fighting for her life, and she came out victorious.

To every woman who’s ever survived a hysterectomy….
You may have lost your womb,
but you did not lose your womanhood.
You did not lose your beauty.
And you definitely did not lose your right to be called “Mum.”

You can still love.
You can still nurture.
You can still leave a legacy
Because motherhood begins in the heart, not in the womb.

I am De Wesley's | Surgical Patients’ Advocate | Creating Awareness | Saving Lives

23/10/2025

Menopause Doesn’t Mean You Must Suffer.

She used to be the strong one.
The one who could multitask, laugh easily, remember everything, and keep the whole house running.

But lately, she forgets simple things.
She feels tired for no reason.
Her sleep is gone. Her patience shorter than ever.
And sometimes, she just sits quietly, wondering what changed.

People around her say, It’s stress, You’re overthinking, or It’s age.
But no… sometimes it’s not stress.
It’s low estrogen.

After menopause, the body slows down its estrogen production… a hormone that keeps the mind sharp, the mood balanced, and the bones strong.

When that level drops, a woman can feel like she’s losing control of herself.

Night sweats.
Hot flashes.
Mood swings.
Sleepless nights.
Loss of intimacy or interest.

These are not signs of weakness, they are signs your body needs help, not judgment.

This is where Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) comes in.
It’s not magic, and it’s not for everyone, but for the right person, it can change everything.

It restores hormonal balance.
Improves sleep and mood.
Strengthens bones and heart health.
Helps women regain confidence and energy.

But please, never self medicate.
Always consult a gynecologist or endocrinologist for proper assessment, because what works for one woman may not work for another.

And lastly….
Menopause is not the end of womanhood.
It’s simply a new phase and no woman deserves to go through it suffering in silence.

I am De Wesley's | Surgical Patients’ Advocate | Creating Awareness | Saving Lives.

22/10/2025

WHEN AUTHORITY OVERRIDES EXPERTISE

In healthcare, there’s a quiet tension that many people never see.
It happens behind closed doors, in operating rooms, wards, and corridors.

It’s not always about emergencies or equipment failure.
Sometimes, it’s about decisions,
decisions that test ethics, courage, and professional boundaries.

Not every order from above is the right one.
And not every No, we can’t proceed means someone is being difficult.

In medicine, those few words can mean the difference between safety and sorrow.

When an anesthetist says, Let’s postpone this surgery…
it’s rarely out of pride or ego.
It’s out of protection for the patient, for the team, and for the system itself.

An anesthetist reads the body in ways most people don’t notice.
They look beyond the numbers on a monitor.
They see patterns in the oxygen saturation, the bl00d pressure, the lab values, and the patient’s overall condition.

They know when the body is whispering, Not yet.

So when they recommend a pause,
it’s not punishment.
It’s a professional instinct guided by training, science, and experience.

But sometimes, that judgment collides with authority.
Someone higher up who may not fully grasp the risk gives a directive to proceed.

And suddenly, the anesthetist is caught in an ethical dilemma…
follow an order, or follow their conscience.

Because here’s the truth…
when things go wrong in a theatre,
no one remembers the order from above.
The questions, the investigations, the accountability…
they all point back to the name written on the anesthesia chart.

That’s why anesthetists are cautious.
That’s why they double check everything.
That’s why some cases are delayed, and some are stopped entirely.

It’s not stubbornness.
It’s responsibility.
Every time an anesthetist signs a pre operative form,
they are not just signing for anesthesia, they are signing for a life.

Ethical dilemmas like these test the very soul of healthcare.
Do you obey hierarchy?
Or do you protect the patient at all costs?
Do you stay silent?
Or do you speak up, knowing the backlash might follow?

Many professionals have stood in that moment, heart racing, hands steady, ethics louder than fear…. choosing safety over approval.

Because real healthcare is not about who gives the loudest instruction,
it’s about who listens to the patient’s silent signs.

So next time you hear that a surgery was delayed or postponed because the anesthetist said so, pause before you judge.

Ask why….
That “why” might hold the wisdom that saves a life.

Respect the expertise of those who watch over the unconscious, who carry the weight of every breath and heartbeat in the theatre.

Because when authority overrides expertise, patient safety becomes the silent casualty.

I am De Wesley's | Surgical Patients’ Advocate | Creating Awareness | Saving Lives.

22/10/2025

22/10/2025

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22/10/2025

Not Every Lower Abdominal Pain Is Fibroid.
Sometimes, it’s an Ovarian Cyst quietly growing in silence.

Every day, women walk into hospitals saying , saying “I have fibroid….I want it removed.”

But here’s the truth…
Not every swelling in your lower abdomen is fibroid.
Sometimes, it’s an ovarian cyst, a fluid filled sac sitting on or inside your o***y, silently making plans of its own.

Some cysts are innocent….they come and go with your menstrual cycle.
We call them functional cysts.

They often need no surgery, just time, rest, and hormonal balance.

But others are not so gentle.
They keep growing, twisting, or even bursting inside the abdomen.

These are pathological cysts, and they might require surgical removal to prevent complications like ovarian torsion, rupture, or internal bleeding.

That’s why knowing the type of cyst is everything.
A proper pelvic scan or transvaginal ultrasound can save you from unnecessary surgery, or alert your HCP before it’s too late.

Because the goal is not to rush under the knife…
The goal is to treat right.

When in doubt, get scanned.
Your body speaks…..let science interpret it.

I am De Wesley's | Surgical Patients’ Advocate

22/10/2025

The Patient Who Refused to Sleep.

Yesterday, I canceled a case.
Not because of equipment failure.
Not because of lack of drugs.
But because of fear.

When I told the patient,
Sir, we will be giving you general anesthesia,
He jumped and said…

“No ooo! I don’t want to sleep! I have many enemies. If I sleep too deep, they might come after me!”

At first, we laughed.
But then I paused…
Because behind that laughter was something serious, ignorance and fear of the unknown.

So many people walk into the operating theatre believing myths instead of medicine.

They think anesthesia is sleeping forever or not waking up because witches came.

But let’s set the record straight…

General anesthesia is a controlled, reversible medical sleep, managed by trained anesthetists who stay with you from the first breath till you wake up.

It’s not spiritual. It’s science, skill, and vigilance.

We monitor your heart, your lungs, your bl00d pressure, your oxygen….everything that keeps you alive.
We don’t leave your side for a single minute.

The real d@nger is not in anesthesia, it’s in fear, ignorance, and wrong hospital choices.

So, the next time you hear “They gave him injection and he didn’t wake up,” ask yourself….
Was it done by a qualified anesthetist or just anyone with a syringe?

And remember this…
When your surgery is postponed or canceled, it’s not because your anesthetist doesn’t want to work, it’s because your anesthetist wants you to live.

We don’t play with human lives.
We cancel to protect.
We delay to save.
Because sometimes, a canceled case is a second chance at life.

I am De Wesley's
Surgical Patients’ Advocate | Raising Awareness, Saving Lives.

21/10/2025

Ectopic pregnancy is not caused by witchcraft.
It is a medical condition often from blocked or damaged fallopian tubes from infections, surgeries, or previous ectopics.

No matter how much you pray, it won’t move into the womb.
It must be treated or it can rupture and end a woman’s life.

Faith saves souls, but medical checkups save lives.

Let me tell you what most women don’t know…

She missed her period, took a test, and saw two lines…. positive!

Her heart leaped for joy.
She started planning, praying, and dreaming.

But weeks later, she began to feel a sharp pain on one side of her abdomen.
Then light bleeding.
Then dizziness.

She told herself, Maybe it’s implantation bleeding.
But what was actually happening… was that her pregnancy was growing in her fallopian tube, not her womb.

The tube kept stretching until it couldn’t anymore…. Then it burst.
By the time she reached the hospital, she was pale, cold, and fighting for her life.

Every Pain in Early Pregnancy Deserves Attention.

If you feel….
Sharp lower abdominal pain especially one sided.

Shoulder pain or dizziness
Brownish v@ginal bleeding after a positive test

Don’t wait.
Don’t self medicate.
Don’t say, It’s just early pregnancy symptoms.

It could be internal bleeding from a ruptured ectopic pregnancy.

Go to the hospital.
Ask for a pelvic ultrasound.
Let them confirm where the pregnancy is…not just if it’s there.

Some women survive ectopic pregnancies because they came early.
Others don’t, because they stayed home waiting for the pain to pass.

Let’s stop normalizing “it will go.”
Let’s normalize early scans, early action, and early rescue.

Your life is precious.
Every mother deserves a chance to live beyond the test strip.

I am De Wesley's |
Surgical Patients’ Advocate | Where awareness meets survival.