08/03/2026
Dear parents, let me ask you an honest question.
Do you ever take time to truly evaluate your children?
Not just seeing them every day.
Not just talking to them every day.
But intentionally pausing to ask yourself:
How is my child really doing?
For a long time, I thought I was already doing enough.
But one evening changed that perspective for me.
We were having our usual family conversation when one of my daughters said something that made me pause.
It was a small comment.
But I realized something;
Children grow quietly.
Their thoughts change.
Their confidence changes.
Their struggles change.
And sometimes, because we see them every day, we miss those changes.
That day I understood that parenting is not only about raising children.
It is also about regularly evaluating them.
Not like a school exam.
But like a loving check-in.
So I started creating small moments where I intentionally observe and reflect.
I began asking myself questions like:
Is this child becoming more confident or more withdrawn?
Is she learning kindness or picking up unhealthy attitudes?
What new fears or pressures might she be facing?
Is she growing emotionally… or silently struggling?
Sometimes the answers surprised me.
Sometimes I discovered areas where I needed to guide them more intentionally.
Other times, I saw beautiful growth that made me proud as a mother.
But the biggest lesson I learned was this:
Parenting requires observation, not just presence.
Seeing your child every day is good.
Talking to them every day is important.
But occasionally stepping back and asking,
“Who is my child becoming?”
…that is more powerful.
Because children are not only growing in height.
They are growing in character, confidence, and identity and life view.
And as parents, we must notice those changes early so we can guide them well.
Now let me ask you again, dear parents:
When was the last time you intentionally evaluated your child’s growth, attitude, and emotional wellbeing?
