20/08/2024
During our Sunday school on Sunday at Redeem Christian Church of God (RCCG), we learnt about the new heaven and new earth.
Several questions were asked during the class but there is this exact question that kept ringing in my head.
A brethren asked “ when someone offends you and you forgive the person but cannot forget, is that a sin?”
Hearing her speak reminded me of an experience I had years ago as a young girl, one that can never be forgotten.
In that season, the Holy Spirit thought me something that changed my life, I shared the lesson with them and I thought to share it with you all on this space.
Apparently, I was really hurt by that experience and I could not let go. It was so bad that when ever I see the individual, I wished terrible things on the person.
The Holy Spirit made me to understand that genuinely, my pains were valid and I should not be too hard on myself but rather listen to him.
“In my deep season of letting God lead, he thought me that, when I was hurting from that experience, there was a great feeling of pain in my heart, one that could make me tear up even at the thought of that moment”.
When you forgive an individual who offends you, it is not genuine until you could think or remember that experience and feel no pain.
It is not possible for you to FORGET what the person did but in genuine forgiveness, you will FORGET the pain you felt in that experience.
The Holy Spirit thought me that, forgiving and not forgetting is not the SIN rather Forgiving and holding unto the pain I feel from that experience is the SIN.
He went on to help me understand how it is possible to let go of the pain and that is through asking God to heal my heart from the pain. He sure did and I experienced peace.
After that encounter of divine soul healing, I no longer feel pain when I remember or share the experience. Safe to say I have genuinely forgiven the individual.
While sharing this lesson about forgiveness, I could see the desire to heal and let go on her face and I was glad I did not hold back the urge to share.
In summary; you have not genuinely forgiven that person if you still feel pain when you remember what they did and that is a SIN.
Ask God to heal your heart so you can enjoy peace.
Love&light 💕
©️Gazelle Ojoago Sunday
Certified Relationship Consultant/Dating coach.
