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🌟 Ẹ̀ káàbọ̀ sí Ohun Ìní Wa! 🌟Learn Yoruba. Live the Culture. Love the Heritage. 🇳🇬🧡Have you always wanted to speak Yorub...
20/07/2025

🌟 Ẹ̀ káàbọ̀ sí Ohun Ìní Wa! 🌟
Learn Yoruba. Live the Culture. Love the Heritage. 🇳🇬🧡

Have you always wanted to speak Yoruba fluently or connect deeply with your roots? Or perhaps you're raising little ones and want them to grow with àṣà àti èdè?

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YOU ARE JUST LIKE YOUR SISTERThe words came back to Grace out of nowhere. She heard it clearly as if Daniel was in the r...
06/02/2025

YOU ARE JUST LIKE YOUR SISTER

The words came back to Grace out of nowhere. She heard it clearly as if Daniel was in the room. She recalled the smirk on his face whenever he said this after they’d had a disagreement or a fight. Of course, she knew that their marriage was not perfect, but she also knew that she was not the only flawed one.

Sade was Grace’s sister who was married to an unkind man. He was violent towards her and their children. She left him after twenty-five years.

Grace shared her sister’s experience with her husband. She conveyed her determination to keep her marriage. Daniel exploited the situation. He would stay out late, making no effort to hide his infidelities. He was sure that no matter how he treated her, Grace would never leave him.

It was the greatest shock of his life when Grace left him after 26 years.

Imagine the number of men and women stuck in dead marriages trying to prove the society wrong. They would do anything to make it work. They keep tolerating mental, physical, emotional and financial abuse. Until they no longer can. Sadly, the damage done to them may never heal. They may lose their minds or their lives.

Regardless of societal pressure, each person must learn to assess their situations and take the right decisions for themselves.

Remember, you are your best advocate.

Kindly share your thoughts in the comment section.

The abuser can never love a strong person.
02/01/2025

The abuser can never love a strong person.

Happy new year.
02/01/2025

Happy new year.

07/12/2024

The matter of the gele (gratitude)

Grace bought a lace fabric with matching gele for herself for Christmas. She realized she didn't have the time to get her mother-in-law a gift before going to the village. She decided to give her the gele.

The following day, she overheard her mother-in-law telling a friend that she would never wear the gele, it was of low quality and she just restrained herself from rejecting it.
Grace felt bad because she knew the worth of the gele.

Fast-forward to the following year, Mother-in-law wore the gele to church for New Year service.

Apparently, someone had told her how expensive the gele was.

Do we need to know the cost of a gift before we appreciate it and the giver?

Take it one day at a time.
13/11/2024

Take it one day at a time.

Be a good person, don't waste time trying to prove it.
17/09/2024

Be a good person, don't waste time trying to prove it.

Give it your best. That is all you are expected to do.
23/07/2024

Give it your best. That is all you are expected to do.

Your gut feeling is more reliable than the 🦋🦋🦋🦋 in your stomach.
25/06/2024

Your gut feeling is more reliable than the 🦋🦋🦋🦋 in your stomach.

Break out!
14/06/2024

Break out!

DIVORCE AT TWILIGHT (2)Grace wondered why she had not been invited. She had been friends with Debbie for 30 years. How c...
20/05/2024

DIVORCE AT TWILIGHT (2)

Grace wondered why she had not been invited.

She had been friends with Debbie for 30 years. How could she exclude her from her daughter’s wedding? Was it an honest mistake or could it be because she was no longer married to Joe?

Some challenges are unique to grey divorces.

Emotional and social effects on the individual: the divorcee may be cut off from relationships that have been built over the lifetime of the union. They may feel they are no longer welcome among their friends, being no longer a part of a pair. This may lead to loneliness and depression.

Financial impact: there is a huge impact on the finances of the couple. Shared expenses become individual, and they are at an age where income is usually slowing down.
Effect on the children: the effects of divorce on young children are well documented, but what is not recognized is the fact that even adult children are affected. Their view of life and how they see their parents has changed. Visiting becomes more complicated and they are confused about how to navigate their new reality.

Asset and liabilities sharing: the sharing of assets and liabilities is usually more complicated.

Are there any positives associated with grey divorce?

Divorce can mean a fresh start for the individuals involved. It is an opportunity to get it right the second time around.
It can lead to better health for the parties, especially if the marriage is an abusive one.

Couples should note that divorce can happen at any stage in the life of a marriage. There are many tools a couple can deploy to prevent divorce in their marriage.
Research has shown that the major factors contributing to unhappiness in a marriage are poor communication skills, financial and sexual problems.

Couples should seek counseling when they have unresolved issues and always bear in mind that the saying “it takes two to tango” applies to marriage more than to anything else.


DIVORCE AT TWILIGHT (1)Grace sat at the table looking through the wedding album. She could see the love shining through ...
23/04/2024

DIVORCE AT TWILIGHT (1)

Grace sat at the table looking through the wedding album. She could see the love shining through both their eyes. She asked herself, what went wrong? Where did the love go after 32 years? How did she miss the signs? What is life going to be after the divorce?

The internet went wild when a well-known Nigerian woman announced the end of her marriage of 47 years.

No one goes into a marriage with the mindset of divorcing. The dating game is not fun. The wedding, not cheap. Divorce is a challenging and sometimes traumatic event.

Grey divorce is the end of a marriage later in life, especially when the individuals are above 50 years of age.

Why do couples choose to end a marriage in the twilight of their lives?

Let’s explore.

Most of the time, the marriage had been in trouble for a long time, but the couple refused to accept the fact. This is common when the couple has problems with communication. In many cases, there is usually no violence. In relationships where silent treatment and stonewalling are used as means of controlling one another, one day, they will have to face the reality that there is no marriage.

In some instances, there has been an ongoing form of abuse; physical and mental abuse, withholding of financial support, or deprivation of intimacy. For example, married women, especially in Africa, endure abuse having convinced themselves that they will do anything to raise their children in a two-parent home. This may stem from the stigma society places on children from divorced parents and on the divorced woman.

Sometimes couples just grow apart. They may not realize that all they had in common was the children so, when they become empty nesters there is no more connection. Now, they are two strangers living under the same roof.

In other cases, substance abuse may lead to personality changes. Their partner may not be able to cope. Infidelity on the part of one of the partners is another reason for a grey divorce.

Women are more financially independent nowadays. They do not have to stay in abusive or unhappy marriages because of finances.

As people grow older, they prioritize their mental and physical well-being. If being on their own is what will give them peace, they are willing to go for it.

Have you experienced a grey divorce? Are you afraid you are heading towards a grey divorce? Kindly share your thoughts in the comment section.

In the next episode, we shall talk about the effects of grey divorce on individuals and society. We shall also explore ways to minimize the chances of having a grey divorce.

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