13/06/2024
When I got married in 2021, at 24, I didn't have up to 5k in my account. I wasn't a graduate, I was working as a receptionist with 12k salary, feeding and transport not included.
My husband knew all these.
During our courtship I would always cry and tell him that I'm ashamed of myself and my inability to support him financially as we prepared for wedding.
I saw myself as a liability.
I was also ashamed of what people would say about him marrying a 100 Level student.
He would always tell me to forget about what people will say, and that he's seeing my future and the great potentials in me.
In Igbo, he would say, 'I ga-enwe ego(You will have money)', whenever I complained about lack of money.
This is 2024, three years down the line, I'm in my 400 level, earning my millions happily as an online influencer and women development coach. I can now contribute financially in my own little way.
I am happy with myself.
Oga is proud of me.
Why am I saying this?
There's no special law in this marriage thing.
Some say you must wait until you have lots of money as a lady, or you must be a graduate before you marry.
I think to an extent, they're right, but it may not work for everyone that way.
May God help us make the right decisions.
©️ Immanuela Chinonyelum
Picture credit: Lawrence Oyor and Darasimi
