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28/09/2024

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MAN- HOW WOULD YOU REACT TO AN EX WHO DUMPED YOU UNEXPECTEDLY CONTACTING YOU 2 YEARS LATER TO APOLOGIZE? I am a...
27/09/2024

MAN- HOW WOULD YOU REACT TO AN EX WHO DUMPED YOU UNEXPECTEDLY CONTACTING YOU 2 YEARS LATER TO APOLOGIZE?


I am a woman, 40. I ended a relationship with someone who I felt was the love of my life about 2 years ago. I knew I messed up right away but my pride got in the way. I have since been completely single and have been working with two therapists to better myself because I knew something was wrong. I recently learned I am an avoidant attachment style - which is why I leave when things start feeling too serious for me. I have since uncovered where that stems from in regards to my past and I’ve worked through it and have healed tremendously.

However, I can’t stop grieving the ex I let go. I’m sure he hates me- it was a very out of the blue thing. I also was dealing with what I have now learned is auto immune that affects my mental state and I was really depressed when I ended the relationship. I convinced myself that nobody loves me and I’m better off alone, something that felt safer to me than being with another person and potentially having them leave me at my most vulnerable state. He didn’t deserve that because he wasn’t that type of person.

We haven’t spoken since the breakup. I keep getting this urge to reach out and apologize. I am willing to accept a less than favorable response, I just want him to know he’s a good person and he didn’t do anything wrong.

Would you want to an ex to reach out and apologize 2 years later? Would you forgive them or is the pain too strong? Also- I’m not expecting forgiveness. I want to be sure I’m not doing this to make myself feel better. I just want him to maybe have closure or just knowing that I’m sorry because I know that hearing someone apologize who wronged you feels good.

Also- I’m not a bad person. Just had a rough life and didn’t uncover a lot of it until later on. I’m trying to be better in relationships by working on myself.

HOW DO I TELL MY LAZY AND UNGRATEFUL FRIEND TO LEAVE MY HOUSE. (Advice needed) Hi everyone! Please be patient ...
27/09/2024

HOW DO I TELL MY LAZY AND UNGRATEFUL FRIEND TO LEAVE MY HOUSE. (Advice needed)


Hi everyone! Please be patient with me as this is a long one and I want to make sure I cover all my basis.

So I (19 Female) have been friends with one of my best friends (26 female) for about 4 years now. It started as a basic friendship helping each other out whenever we could and just talking. She gave me wisdom on how to handle situations when I needed advice. Well, recently I moved from NY to NJ near my boyfriend and finally rented my first apartment. I should add that I do make a lot of money as a computer technician but because of prices in NJ I kind of use up a lot of it plus add some to savings for my dream house.

Well, my friend reached out to me and asked if I could pick her up for a day from NY so she could hang out and see my apartment. I also had to go to NYC To get my hair done so I invited her and even paid the money to the lady to hold down an appointment. My friend called me later telling me she had no money as she just got a new job and hadn't gotten her check yet. Long story short that same week she needed to go to the ER in our hometown for a bowel obstruction and I happened to be near her so I drove and took her to the ER and spent most of the day there with her. I had a hair appointment the next day so I told her not to worry about it and that I would pay for the appointment if she chose a cheap hairstyle. She agreed and I took her. We went out and had a good time. All of a sudden she claimed her BF (27 male) was abusive and called her lazy for not helping around the house. She then broke things off with him and asked if she could stay with me.

I didn't know how to respond so I said I would not pay for anything bc I had my bills to pay and I had to travel for work so I can't afford to pay for another person. She said no problem and told me not to worry about it. I ended up taking her to the hotel where I would stay for work bc I needed company for the 2 hours and my bf (who works with me) drives separately due to the fact he has more responsibilities at this job than I do. The whole trip she kept asking for food kind of demanding I buy her something. At one point she kept texting me while I was at work asking for food. I stated that my BF and I would get her something later after work (we work at night). She complained saying that it would be late so in the meantime she wondered if she could have me order something else. I said no bc I had just ordered a pizza an hour before so it should've held her over. We got her Wawa and some extra food to hold her over the next day. She claimed she didn't like the food so she asked if I could get her lunch. She requested Olive Garden. This is a side note she always asks for expensive restaurants. My bf said he would pay so we went but she kept asking for more food aid clothes afterwards. Even tho I went grocery shopping and gave her a lot of my clothes to keep. Might I add when I provided her with a twin bed she complained and told me she would not sleep on that bed and would like me to purchase her a queen mattress. And also she doesn't like the blanket I gave her so she would like me to buy her a new one.

When we came home she would cook and leave a mess even tho I asked her to clean it up more than once. She would then give me attitude. And when my friend and bf would call her out on it she would bawl and then give us a sob story. She would then cook my food but not eat it and then put an open dish in the food causing the food to dry out and get bad. She leaves messes and doesn't clean up. She sits there and watches me while I clean up. I don't know what to do.

I don't understand how I am younger and more responsible. I feel like I am being taken advantage of since she is constantly asking me to buy her expensive things and won't take care of the things I have in my house. My Bf suggested I give her a time frame to live with me to then move out on her own. But I didn't agree to all of this and now I feel in a corner. I love my friend but I barely had any alone time on my own and it was stressful trying to provide for someone who is a grown-ass woman. I have a relationship to focus on and I can't do that bc she turns everything into her. When me and Boyfriend went out with a friend today she kept texting me and blowing up my phone asking when I would be home even tho I had been gone for an hour and I had let her know I would be gone most of the day, and I had just cooked her a meal. I even stated that wouldn't be around bc I wanted to spend time with those people. She kind of gave my boyfriend attitude when we came back and he gave it to her straight. But it doesn't help anything at all.

She doesn't have a job but has an interview for Walmart I think she won't get it bc she was really rude to the manager on the phone and kind of said things she shouldn't. All she does is sit on her phone and text or lay in bed and not come out. And when you ask her to help out she gives attitude. I can't afford to keep having her spoil my food or leave huge messes after cooking. I've already voiced this and NOTHING has changed.

So how do I tell her I don't think this is going to work out? I just don't know what to do. Am I in the wrong for feeling like I am being mooched off of? I understand she came out of a relationship but that isn't an excuse to be unmindful of another person's living space.

14/09/2024

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