26/06/2025
Before I moved to the UK 🇬🇧 in 2022, I used to advise men, —spend 4 years here, go back to Nigeria, get married, and bring my wife and kids over to start a better life. But now, it's 2025 and I'm still here, and my mindset has changed but not completely because there are still good women.
Why?
Because of what I’ve witnessed with my own eyes. In just 3 years, I’ve seen at least 6 Nigerian marriages—especially among Igbo couples—crumble right here in the UK. Let me share one story that really broke me.
An Igbo man from Anambra who had lived in the UK for over 15 years was in tears, right outside a Tesco store, as he narrated his divorce story to me.
What did he do wrong?
Absolutely nothing. This man went back to Nigeria, married his wife, brought her and their kids to the UK, gave them a comfortable life. I'm talking about a man who owned property, had a great job, and was doing everything to build a secure future for his family.
But guess what?
Unbeknownst to him, his wife's ex was already living here in the UK. He had been in prison at the time she arrived, but 3 years later, the man was released—and that’s when everything fell apart.
His wife secretly rekindled the relationship with her ex, who was already married to a white woman here with three kids. Her attitude at home changed. Lies, disrespect, and coldness crept in.
By December last year, she filed for divorce—and just last month, it was finalized.
She walked away with his house and assets.
Now he’s homeless, heartbroken, and struggling mentally.
I asked him clearly—did you ever hurt or abuse your wife in any way?
He swore he didn’t, and to confirm it, his wife’s elder brother, who was with him during the conversation, nodded in agreement. He said, “My sister is wrong. This is not how a marriage should end.”
I won’t lie—my heart broke that day. 15 years of this man's hard work, gone just like that.
God abeg oo
If a man is to x i c, a b u s iv e, or v io le nt—by all means, leave him. Protect your pe