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Ibrahim Hammed Ishola, Ondo (2025)

24/09/2025

TYPES OF RELATIONSHIP.

Are you in a Relationship?
Read this and Know where you belong.

1) SOLE-PROPRIETORship

"na only you waka come" relationship

The love sustaining this relationship is usually one sided

You are the Lover and the Lovee

You beg them to call you,
You beg them to tell you they love you.

You offend them, you beg, they offend you, you beg.

You beg for their attention.
You beg for their affection,

They treat you as an option but you don't mind

This Relationship is like a time bomb, it never lasts and always ends in heart break to be felt by only one party.

2) SITUATIONship.

This is a Relationship that resembles a prison sentence with hard labor,

It is a Relationship where you keep asking yourself if you are dating an onion or you are engaged to a relative of Adolf Hi**er.

One week, One trouble.
All your friends have settled quarrels between the both of you to the point no body takes you guys serious anymore.

Every Relationship has ups and downs, but a Situationship has downs and ups.

This type of Relationship attracts Pity (not envy) from People, you keep hearing "you People should take it easy oh" "have you prayed well?" "are you sure?"

This Relationship usually translates into an ABUSIVE MARRIAGE.

3) FORNICATIONship

Remove s*x and monetary compensation from this Relationship, and you'd discover nothing else is holding it.

It's all about her Body and his Money.

The young Lady gives her body,
The young Man buys her weavon or clothing items in return.

Majority of Relationships fall here.

But a true Christian, a true Son/Daughter of God will never operate this type of Relationship because God detests fornication

Items that aid this relationship to continue from year to year without any major problems include Postinor 2, Ampiclox Beecham, Schweppes, and then ABORTION comes to the rescue when the previous items malfunction.

Las Las, when the young Man is tired and sees a better looking lady or the lady sees someone who can spend more the Relationship will end.

Often it ends in Marriage, but such Marriages have faulty foundations already.

4) CONFUSIONship

Any Relationship where this questions keep coming up;

"what are we?"
"what are we doing?"
"where are we going?",

Let me help you answer the questions.

The both of you People are pencils in the hand of the creator, the both of you people are pounding rice, and the both of you people are going to Lagos...

Matured Adults in a Relationship that has no defined identity, no defined destination, just "let us see how it goes" are confused adults.

When People ask you your relationship status you reply "it is complicated"

He or she calls you "sweetheart" when you are alone and introduces you as "my friend" when you are in Public, Undercover relationship.

5) REALationship

This is the REAL deal, hence the name REALationship.

There is a DESTINATION in mind, that is Marriage.

The MOTIVE is Love, Companionship and Intimacy.

The Love is usually MUTUAL and reciprocated

This type of Relationship involves three People, not two. The COUPLE and GOD.

COMMUNICATION helps both parties to understand each other daily.

This kind Relationship attracts envy, you'll keep hearing "you are lucky oh" "I wish I was in your shoes", and USUALLY ends up in BLISSFUL MARRIAGES

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You can not be in the wrong Ship and expect to get to the right Destination

Have a rethink today.

So you are in a Relationship, is It a REALationship?

MARRY WELL....

Ibrahim Hammed Ishola

24/09/2025

Relationship Wisdom Quotes

Ibrahim Hammed Ishola

24/09/2025

Man to man

24/09/2025

ARE YOU REALLY WAITING ON GOD?

Having godly standards is different from being too picky.

Some singles say they are “waiting on God” but in reality, they are waiting for a flawless human being, and such a person doesn’t exist.

They reject people, not because the person is ungodly or lacks vision, but because their hairline isn’t perfect, their fashion sense isn’t trendy, or their height doesn’t match a fantasy checklist.

Godly standards are based on values and biblical principles like character, purpose, vision, faith, and commitment among others.

Pickiness is based on personal fantasies, unrealistic ideals, and sometimes even pride.

When you confuse pickiness with standards, you risk pushing away the right person God sent because you are looking for perfection in the wrong areas.

And sadly, you may keep circling the same season, thinking you are “still waiting on God” when in truth, you are stuck in your own preferences.

Many ladies hide under the canopy of "lemme pray about it", and they're not praying about anything, and some guys, I don't know how to describe it. 🤷🏾‍♂️

Some men are waiting for an encounter or a prophet to prophecy before they marry, and you're approaching 40 or in your early 40s, when you have the Bible to search and know what's obtainable.

Proverbs 31:30 says, “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.”

The same applies to men, looks and style fade, but godly character remains.

Stop expecting perfection, just look for the person whose spirit aligns with yours and whose heart beats for God.

That’s a standard worth keeping.

Just do and marry biko, your God ordained partner is waiting and almost giving up, singleness want to finish them.

It's just a counsel though, you can do with it as you please 🙏🏾

23/09/2025

You're value an your family is so proud to have you 🌹❤️🌹❤️

Ibrahim Hammed Ishola

23/09/2025

Your Home Is Like a Garden 🌱💞

22/09/2025

8 Common Challenges in Relationships & How to Check on Them

Ibrahim Hammed Ishola

21/09/2025

10 Words Spouses Should Never Say to Each Other (No Matter How Hurt They Feel)

Ibrahim Hammed Ishola

20/09/2025

4 Types of Women Men Regret Marrying—And Only One Becomes His Peace

Most men don’t regret marriage itself.
They regret who they married.

Because the wrong woman will cost you your sleep, your sanity, your money, and your mission.
She’ll turn your home into a battlefield and make you wish you had stayed single.

Only one kind of woman turns marriage into peace.
The rest will turn it into war.

Let’s break it down.

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1. The Tantrum Thrower

She doesn’t talk—she explodes.
Every disagreement becomes a war.
Every request feels like oppression.
Every correction becomes disrespect.

You’ll spend your life walking on eggshells just to keep the house from burning.

And the more you give her calm?
The more chaos she creates.

You didn’t marry a wife.
You married a storm.

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2. The Image-Obsessed Wife

She wanted the wedding, not the work.
The photos, not the purpose.
The ring, not the responsibility.

She treats marriage like a brand.
You’re not her partner—you’re her prop.

When the honeymoon ends and reality sets in?
She gets bored.
She resents the grind.
And she makes you pay for not keeping the fairytale alive.

You’ll regret her most when the lights go out, and all that’s left is her emptiness.

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3. The Underminer

She doesn’t follow you—she competes with you.
Mocks your ideas.
Questions your leadership.
Subtly compares you to her boss, her ex, or men online.

Every victory you earn? She minimizes it.
Every mistake you make? She magnifies it.

You don’t feel respected—you feel managed.

And slowly you stop leading, not because you’re weak, but because she made strength feel like a crime.

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4. The Peace-Giver

She doesn’t chase chaos.
She creates calm.

She listens before she reacts.
She honors instead of humiliates.
She builds without demanding applause.

When you’re tired—she restores.
When you’re broke—she believes.
When you lead—she follows with grace.

She doesn’t see submission as slavery.
She sees it as structure.

And that’s why she doesn’t make you regret marriage.
She makes you grateful for it.

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Final Word

The Tantrum Thrower will exhaust you.
The Image-Obsessed will drain you.
The Underminer will strip you of respect.

But the Peace-Giver?
She will multiply your life, your mission, and your legacy.

So before you marry, ask yourself:

Does she protect my peace—or provoke my panic?
Does she make leadership easier—or harder?
Does she honor the covenant—or just wear the crown?

Because marriage itself doesn’t break men.
The wrong woman does.

And only one kind of woman becomes his peace.

Ibrahim Hammed Ishola

20/09/2025

💡 Truth about Love & Marriage

Falling in love is easy. Staying in love takes work.
Marriage is not about finding someone perfect — it’s about finding someone willing to grow with you through imperfections.

There will be days you don’t “feel” in love. Days you don’t understand each other. Days you argue over little things. But what makes a relationship last is choosing each other, over and over again, even on the hard days.

A strong relationship isn’t built on vibes alone — it’s built on:
✨ Commitment
✨ Understanding
✨ Forgiveness
✨ Effort from both sides

So if you’re praying for a good marriage, don’t just pray for a “perfect partner.”
Pray for patience, wisdom, communication, and two hearts willing to fight for each other — not against each other.

💬 What do you think lasts longer in marriage: love or commitment?

20/09/2025

6 Important Steps to Take When Your Spouse Upsets You.

Ibrahim Hammed Ishola

20/09/2025

7 Ways To Be The Type Of Woman A Man Is Afraid To Lose

When it comes to romantic relationships, everyone wants to be with someone who they can’t imagine losing. And while it may seem like some people are just naturally gifted in the art of love, the truth is that there are certain qualities that can make a woman stand out and be the type of partner that a man is afraid to lose. Here are seven ways to be that woman:

1. Be Confident In Yourself
Confidence is key when it comes to attracting a partner who is afraid to lose you. When you are confident in yourself, you exude a sense of self-assuredness that is magnetic to others. Confidence shows that you know your worth and you are not afraid to go after what you want. This kind of attitude is incredibly attractive to a man, and it will make him want to be with you even more.

2. Have Your Own Life And Interest.
One of the biggest turn-offs for a man is a woman who has no life of her own. If you want to be the type of woman that a man is afraid to lose, you need to have your own interests, hobbies, and passions. This will show him that you are a well-rounded individual with a full and fulfilling life. Plus, having your own life will make you less clingy and dependent on him, which will only make him want to be with you more.

3. Be Supportive And Understanding.
Men want to be with women who are supportive and understanding. This means being there for him when he needs it, listening to his problems, and offering advice and comfort when necessary. It also means being understanding of his needs and feelings and not being judgmental or critical. When you are a supportive and understanding partner, he will feel like he can be his true self around you, and he will be afraid to lose that.

4. Communicate Openly And Honestly
Communication is key in any relationship, and if you want to be the type of woman that a man is afraid to lose, you need to be able to communicate openly and honestly with him. This means being able to express your feelings and needs in a clear and respectful way, as well as being open to hearing his perspective. When you have strong communication skills, it will strengthen your relationship and make him want to be with you even more.

5. Show Him That You Appreciate Him.
Everyone likes to feel appreciated, and this is especially true in romantic relationships. If you want to be the type of woman that a man is afraid to lose, you need to show him that you appreciate him. This means thanking him for the things he does for you, telling him how much you value his presence in your life, and doing things to make him feel special. When a man feels appreciated, he will feel more connected to you and less likely to want to lose you.

6. Be Kind And Compassionate.
Kindness and compassion are two qualities that are incredibly attractive in a partner. If you want to be the type of woman that a man is afraid to lose, you need to be kind and compassionate towards him and others. This means being empathetic and understanding, and showing genuine concern for his well-being. When you are kind and compassionate, it will make him feel loved and cared for, and he will be afraid to lose that.

7. Be Yourself.
Finally, if you want to be the type of woman that a man is afraid to lose, you need to be yourself. Trying to be someone you’re not in order to impress him will only backfire in the long run. Instead, be true to who you are and let your unique qualities shine through. When you are authentic and genuine, it will make him feel like he’s found someone truly special, and he will be afraid to lose that.

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