29/11/2025
There's always that stage in every relationship when it seems like every conversation turns into an argument. When you both are constantly on each other's necks, and somehow, even a single hour of peace feels like a luxury. No matter how hard you try to avoid it, something or someone always triggers another round of conflict. At this stage, you may start to feel drained and think you're tired of the relationship. But in most cases, you're not tired, you're just frustrated by unresolved misunderstandings that have lingered for too long. And that's completely normal. What inspired this post was a counseling session I had with one intending couple last night. My first for the month after graduating from Relationship Counseling. Their story was my muse to this, that every relationship faces a storm, but it's the willingness to rebuild that defines true love. Here are the key lessons I shared with them: 1. Acknowledge the shift. Accept that the relationship isn't what it used to be and that's okay. Every relationship evolves. Growth often comes with discomfort. 2. Communicate honestly. Talk about what hurts, what frustrates, and what confuses you. Tell her what she does that makes you react the way you do. Tell him what he does that makes you withdraw. Don't hold it in, silence only deepens the distance and if you know me, I always preach and advocate for communication because, at times, those conversations you're scared of having are the main issue. 3. Forgive and reconnect. Genuinely ask for each other's forgiveness and do this not out of formality, but from the heart. Then, reassure yourselves of your love. Promise to do better and mean it. 4. Reignite what once set your souls on fire. Go back to the beginning. Send those early-morning messages again. Share those random photos that used to make each other smile. Go on those spontaneous outings. Laugh like you did when everything was new. Love, once watered again, blooms, no matter how dry the ground once felt. But remember that this only works when both hearts still beat for the same vision. Every relationship goes through a dull or difficult phase, but what matters most is how you both choose to handle it. If you're currently in that phase and struggling to navigate it alone, don't keep sinking in silence. Reach out. Talk. Heal. Rebuild. Sometimes, all it takes is a guided conversation to bring love back to life, and I am here to serve you.
