09/05/2026
Words are life forever. It's like a two edged sword: sometimes pierce the heart by unacceptable truth, other times with deceptive reality to merry hearts.
When words are true but negatively accepted it's to make us temporarily glad but decay unknown. No matter how we try to change the narrative, it remains unaccepted truth which is truth which can never be changed by any standard but even your ego.
Who tells you about a thing knows how he feels and that is the side of his truth. Trying to change the narrative is deceptive from both ends.
Consider to:
1. Accept you are able to be wrong.Justification is emotional deception.
2. Have healthy communication with an open heart and be sincere to yourself to accept your errors and stop perfectionism.
3. Believe that we shall have reasons to forgive ourselves forever because you had err many before who had forgiven you. You will still err many more.
4. Watch for the interest of a third or many parties (loyalty is not love; I think I have explained that many times) You can't know the heart of men, especially those who judge men by action(you are a dead man alive)
5. Know that people who only make you laugh and avoid getting at your nerves avoiding to be stern at truth to checkmate are your enemies within; Why? Truth is bitter to heal you to growth and sanity.
6. Have quiet time to tell yourself the sincere truth nobody can't tell you. Know this for free. Most friendship is not real because the players are men pleasers whose gain is not concrete but appraisal of heroism they bought with no price not minding the cost of deception.
7. Don't expect sweet words every time and material gains. Correction is not blame or control but concern.
8. Silence is loud in the heart. Who is not talking sees you more but knows that overtime you have been rejecting true counsel.....then he keeps on thinking about what comes out of your pride.
9. Forgiveness is not your kindness, it's your healing. A heart who can't forgive and forget human errors needs deliverance. Why? Are you wise that your enemies did not triumph over your life? In reality, human nature cannot forgive but always aim at revenge. Now, if you take revenge or hate, don't you see that you are worse than the one you didn't forgive?
10. Please and please, your judgement on people can never be correct if you are not in the spiritual nature of God who sees all things
11. All you can do is watch and pray(safety)' not hate and prey'
12. The only enemy you have is the devil not the tagged person. That devil can control you too and you can be the same as the person you think you can't forgive.
13. What if those parties unknownly goal is to have seen the friendship end but just a move to strike at the breakage or exposure.
14. Many celebrate in silence because their charisma doesn't impress. The one loud at your victories may use laughter as a shield in battle.
15. Love in visibility is love distrust. Take it or leave it, love is invisible, not showy and not to impress. You can't see love but can guess it and by the unfaithful nature and greed of men we mistake it for ingenuity.It is padlocked in the heart by God;the love himself.
16. Not everything concealed aim at destruction,some are treasure and some for protection. Wisdom is to direct.
If you are a third party:
I. You are not to catch a thief but to be safe, give direction and redeem
II. You are not to take advantage of the situation for expected goals.
III. You've done nothing if you are biased and defensive of a close ally and judge.
IV. You have no business to judge even when truth is visible but to restore without defamation.
V. You meddle and need to be fair. If they had been good as friends before, understanding through right communication can give a direction for more healthy friendship even more than before.
VI. Check for intentionality. Is it deliberate? Are there triggered factors? Is it an act of revenge? Does he aim at destruction? Is it by proxy?.......
VII. Don't be the police that every clue makes sense to related issue. Any of your recklessness may affect generations, so be patient until you prove and aim at restoration.
VIII. Watch your personal agenda and your thoughts unguided before the fallout.
IX. Don't make your meddle a way of expressing loyalty to close ally but as an expression of love.
Remedies:
I. Be sensitive to all, including those pleasers
II. Face the devil in battle and not his distraction(men)
III. Be the love. If you are the love, nobody can embittered your heart for long.
IV. Know the truth that sets free, and it's not a weapon to fight but a weapon of salvation.
V. Devote your life to the true meaning of words and not the alternative meanings in speculation.
VI. Live by your Creator's affirmation
Finally, always know that your feelings most of the time are always the opposite. Who you think is your enemy may be the friend to stretch you to growth while those you're comfortable with (gisting, backbite, make jest with) are pleasing mechanisms to lose focus. Everybody has mostly undiscovered goals....... They don't just care for you.
Remember: The serpent also cared for the race of men, and here we are.
Also, the serpent offered pleasing reality to the human race, here we are.
The serpent said a realistic truth, 'you will not die'. Here we are breathing and living but unknownly ended as dead men alive struggling.
If you can't be healed to forgive and forget you are not better than who you have decided not forgiving. You can't forget because you've not moved far and victory won to celebrate. Also, knowing that forgiveness is what makes football teams meet over and over again after a series of deliberate injuries......priorities and celebrated winnings causes reasons to be thankful for winning through the dangerous process making you to the level of winning. Healed Scar
remains still we move on joyous and give testimonies. The testimony is an act of thanksgiving ignoring the hurdles, scars, cry but to major to see reason for victory. Victory and triumph cause reason to forget, thankful that you are not better than those who did not survive it. Don't play God in holding anyone at heart, they are instruments to the victory. What is victory without a battle. Know this for free, if you are one of God's own, God allowed it to see how you'll win. Man prevails not by strength but still by boundaries set by God not by you. Remember Job.
That which is hard and bitter is better medicine to heal your battered life.
