09/07/2025
Dear Parent,
Please read this slowly.
Not with guilt.
But with open eyes.
Your teenage child is not just “acting out.”
They are acting on patterns — patterns that started before they were born.
Patterns that have lived quietly in the family…
Until now.
Children Don’t Just Inherit Blood —
They Inherit Beliefs, Behaviors, and Brokenness.
Let’s be honest:
That stubbornness?
That anger?
That fear of speaking up?
That habit of keeping secrets?
That silent depression?
Sometimes, it didn’t start with them.
It started with you.
With us.
With grandma.
With that uncle no one talks about.
With the silence that raised us.
And you have forgotten that What You Don’t Heal, You Hand Down
Your teenager is not just growing up —
They are growing through what the family has carried for years:
If your home was always shouting,
your teen may either shout… or shut down.
If love was always earned,
they may try too hard to please others — or never try at all.
If you never talked about pain,
they’ll either bury theirs… or act it out in strange ways.
That’s the pattern.
The family script.
The invisible chain.
And until someone breaks it,
it just keeps showing up — generation after generation.
Your teen’s behavior is not just rebellion.
Sometimes it’s reflection.
Their pain points are not the enemy —
They are evidence of a deeper story.
They’re showing you what needs healing.
What needs confronting.
What needs changing.
Will you ignore it…
Or will you investigate it?
Before you beat, shout, or blame…
Ask:
What’s the root of this behavior?
Is this something I’ve struggled with too?
Is this a family wound wearing new clothes?
Because you can’t correct what you refuse to admit.
You can’t lead where you haven’t healed.
You Can Break the Cycle
You don’t have to be a perfect parent.
But you have to be a present one.
It starts with honesty.
It grows with intentional change.
It continues with compassionate correction.
You are not powerless.
You are the pattern breaker.
And it starts with you.
Because your child’s freedom tomorrow
is tied to your courage tod
Mrs Debby Ewo.
*Thanks ✍️*
