13/12/2025
I need advice ๐ please be kind.
I got married this year. After marriage, my husband slowly stopped my friends from visiting. I thought it was just about privacy.
I only have my mom. No siblings. She raised me alone. She stays by herself in Owerri, and I know how lonely she is. After about 4โ5 months of marriage, I invited her to come and stay with us for one week. That was her first time visiting me since I got married.
When she came, my husband said that in his culture, the husbandโs family should visit first, not the wifeโs mom. I didnโt take it seriously at first.
Two days later, his sister called him and later he told me she was angry that my mom came first and felt like I was โtaking over the house.โ The next day, his sister came to the house, criยฃd, and said p@inful things โ calling my mom a stranger enjoying what she didnโt work for. My mom heard everything.
Out of shame and p@in, my mom left that same day, not even up to five days. My husband didnโt give her transport money. I managed to give her โฆ5,000 and two wrappers.
Since then, my mom has never visited again.
Now I am prยฃgnant and very sick. I can barely take care of myself. My mom offered to come and help me, but when I told my husband, he said he doesnโt want a third party in his marriage. He said if my mom comes, I should leave his house.
He said after childbirth, his sister will come instead. I am not on good terms with her because of what happened.
Right now, I have fever, no food, no strength, and he is still asking me to cook for him.
Please tell me:
Is it wrong for a womanโs mother to care for her during prยฃgnancy?
Is this control or normal in marriage?
Should I prioritize my health or obey my husband?
Is this marriage safe for me and my unborn child?
Your opinion is highly needed please
Please comment and advise me ๐ I really need help.
