02/08/2025
Friendship truths I wish someone told me earlier.
1) Don't share every good news with friends, especially if they're not on your level. You may think it doesn't matter but it matters. Jealousy and envy can creep in. People don’t like it when you succeed, especially when you over take them. They want you to do well, but not better than them.
2) Some friendships are best enjoyed from a distance. Don't rush into turning a friend into a roommate, or might risk losing the friendship.
3) If you're struggling to fit in with a group of friends, leave the group. You don't belong there. Forcing it can lead to problems for both you and them. When you're with a group of friends that fits you, everything flows naturally.
4) When you're always there for them, but they're not there for you, it's time to reevaluate the friendship. You might be investing in a one sided friendship.
5) When squatting with a friend, plan to leave while both of you are still friends. Don't wait until the both of you start quarreling.
6) You have no business being friends with your friend's partner, except if both of you had known each other for a long time.
7) Don't lend your friend money, give what you can afford to lose. Most times, lending doesn't end well.
8) Pay attention to your friend's facial expression when sharing good news. Also, pay attention to their jokes. They might hide resentment through facial expression and jokes.
9) Not all friendships are meant to last. People can leave you at anytime. Learn detachment.
10) Don't rely on all your friends for help, money, or gifts. Just connect with some friends on a non material level to avoid unnecessary grudges. Also, there are friends who can show up for you or even f!ght for you but it's hard for them to give money or gifts, understand them.
11) People will judge you by the people they see around you before they get to know you personally. Be mindful of who you hang out with. It might cost your reputation or your Iifé.
12) As a man, don't be quick to turn beautiful female friendships into romantic relationships. You could end up losing both. Don't try to turn every female friendship into an affair.
13) If you have integrity, be careful about hanging around friends who are shámeless. They can tarnish your reputation.
14) Stop calling everyone a friend. Start using words like classmates, colleagues and acquaintances. Everyone is not your friend.
15) If you're not careful with your friends, they can influence your relationship. They can start dictating what you should do and not do. Be careful, or they can rûin your relationship. Separate your love life from friendships unless it's life-thréátening.
16) If you want to be faithful to your partner, make friends with people who are faithful to their partners. It helps.
17) Don't always be the one trying to save the friendship. If it wants to fade, allow it.
18) When your friends provide a service for you, pay them on time. That's one way to maintain a healthy friendship. Don't use familiarity to take advantage of your friend's business. Also, don't pay strangers and expect free service from friends. Pay your friends. It's part of mutual support.
19) When you see an opportunity that fits your friends, connect them. Envy reduces when everyone is winning, but be careful who you bring to the table, they can turn things against you.
20) Just because you knew a friend years ago doesn't mean they're still the same person when you meet again. Learn to vet people after reconnecting after a long time, or you could become a victim.
Happy New Month ♥️
