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Love Issues, Off Benin Owo expressway,, Owo (2026)

24/08/2019

Eyaaaa.... it has been awhile, a kind of welcome back

30/07/2019

Ladies & gentle men, please, I'm sorry for not showing up all these while......
It's been a personal reasons --- trying to caught up many things in one attempt.

I promise, I will soon be dropping vital topic to discuss, as I've said earlier...
Please bear with me 🙏🙏🙏🙏

09/07/2019

*LOVE & MONEY*😝

These days, one can hardly distinguished between "Love for love" and "Love for money,,, and in the cause of that, many questions had been begging for an answer; like..

Can love still be active in the absence of of money?
What role did money play in the field of love??
Can money buy love?
To what extent could it reach, then, money can come in?

Yes, money is everything and at the same time, money is not everything....
The afforementioned quote can be used for different people in different occasions with absolutely different mentality.
Money is everything to the person who did not have it and did not know the potentiality of how to juxtapose his/her present perceptions. Nothing else will have value in his eyes, except MONEY.

Then Money is not everything to someone whom, not only had the money, but had created the awareness of looking beyond a fixed and stationery assets. He knows money as been capable of facilitating easy life, and also can foster a difficult life......

Now, relating it to our topic, personally, I may say that Love and Money shares a very vital and essential interconnectedness in a relationship but not as important as it has been far-fetched exaggerated in today's loving relationships....

Really, Money holds very tightly, a relationship; but oftentimes, we use our hand to spoil the relationship by early introduction of money as a love signs.

At the inception of any good intentional relationship, one thing that should be excluded is Money.
Many people did not know. There are stages to secure an impressional, real and long lasting relationship...
I will not go deep about it now cos its a topic itself.... maybe next edition....

In such Money motivated relationship, one will notice that it was not solidified. Once the money stop coming, the emotion begins to fade.

Listen, some people was like -- eeh! If you truly love me, you must love me the way I am... 😂😂😂 Nobody can change me! Love me & love my dog🐕!
And the question is, what if you & your dog are wrong and both of you did not know? Probably the person (the Guy proposing) is in better position to help correct.......
Will he/she use for the sake of loving you the way you're and love you in a wrongful way??
No nah! Its not done!! Two wrongs can not make a single right....

What am I saying? I'm only trying to make a difference between adulterated and materials embedded love and well nurtured affection. What we called "the first impression" in a relationship, has 90% capacity to determine how safe and healthy a relationship can be...

However, in the case of marriage intended relationship, make sure there is money at least, be self satisfying to avoid seeing Hell on Earth.

I really love you, Honey! That can not pay House rent, School fees, Foodz etc... Action speaks louder than words....
like I always say, "if the cap fits, ware it...

Next time, I will talk about stages in relationship... until then,
Remain Blessed.

03/07/2019

INFIDELITY IN MARRIAGE OR IN RELATIONSHIP (a. k. a. CHEATING)

Many marriage as we know today, are in a very big mess as a result of infidelity.
Cheating as we usually call it has caused a catastrophe in so many families today....

Oftentimes, people sees infidelity as when the other person is having an extra marital affairs or are being suspected of doing such.
No! Cheating has a diverse meaning, especially in marriage.

Generally, infidelity is the quality of being unfaithful.

Yes! Once someone begins to hide something for each other (people who are married or in a serious relationship) no doubt---according to the afforementioned definition --- infidelity has taken place... It is not only when someone had s*xual affections outside his/her marriage ---

----A man that did not know his family role as a man talk more of doing it, is cheating..
----A man who whenever he got drunk comes home to beat his wife is cheating....
----A woman who whenever her husband did not meet up to the family needs she will call him all sorts of names in front of their children, is cheating....
---- A woman who is not always respecting her husband is cheating...

___ A girl who is keeping many boyfriends in the name of rubbing Peter to pay Paul, is cheating...

----A girl who always tell her friends how disgusting her boyfriend is, is cheating....

----A boy who have many girlfriends is cheating....
----A boy who tells people the secret of his girlfriend, is cheating.......

And so no, and so forth..........
But due to the people's mentality, we are now only focusing in s*x aspect of cheating.....
When someone refuses to do what he/she aught to do in order to facilitate a union, that person is automatically cheating....

28/06/2019

"DATING BEFORE MARRIAGE" 👫👫

Dating or courtship becomes one act in which many young unmarried Guys engage themselves into.
Actually, it all started by being closely intimated. A good proportion of students do take it in form of boyfriends and girlfriends.

But now, I will like to view it in so many ways, whether it is generally good to date before marriage or bad as some Churches held today...

I think the highest advice somebody could ever give another person about marriage should be to try and marry his/her best friend... Yeah, a good psychologist will tell you that..

However, let's go traditionally...
Many people or I may say, mostly, in the olden days, due to the customs and traditions, young people are been prevented from having affairs with the opposite gender/s*x....

Reason being that, then, or in traditional believe, it is been regarded as a terrible sorts of sacrilege. That seeing people of opposite s*x are not legally married together is capable of unfolding the wrath of gods...
So they did not approve it...

Then, in Church. many Christian religious followers did not fully condemn dating...... while some, sees it as deadly as poison..

Now, to the side that are totally against, listen.....
Some did not accept dating before marriage (Boyfriend, girlfriend) because they fear premarital s*x. And that once you're into such, you will no longer be as holy as you aught to be....

Most of the Churches with that opinion usually make it mandatory for their members to only marry from their Church..
Okay? If that is the case, good.... You said your members must marry from your church (probably, the same station).... Let me say, the people (who may marry) from same church, are worshipping in the same place, how sure are we that they are not looking at each other -- thereby causing spiritual distraction, sinning also through lustful look?

And eventually, if they later got married, how save are their marriage? Since they lack the behavioral awareness of each other. We all have this believe that God is the author and finisher of our faith, but don't also forget that the same God help those who help themselves....

Who is fooling who? Not every dating relationships are maliciously mastermind. First, for someone you will spend the rest of your life with, you supposed to have known every nooks and crannies of the person such as temperamental levels, egotistic issues, likables and dislikeables things to him/her...
Because, that time when you people are only seeing each other in the church, opportunities will not be there for everyone to display his/her ugly parts... Church holiness will cover it.

It is only when you have time and see each other as a friend that in one way or another, one among the two may overreact if offended...then the other one will take correction and know that this person use to hate such things.

Notwithstanding, the people with the absolute view of not allowing it is only right if only if, there is no marital intention among them....
Like the prevalent one nowadays....
The young, young ignorant people that are tannishing the image of courtship... Committing fornications -- having unnecessary carnal knowledge of themselves..

All these are far from the reason for courtship. Like I used to say, that "ignorance is not only when someone did not know anything, it is also when somebody filled his/her head with wrong things". You don't give a dog a bad name in order to kill it.

Finally, everybody knows what is moral. The good and bad --- the societal etiquettes -- do it ... Some churches are fun of preaching what they know not what is right and just....I did not say young people should engage in boyfriend, girlfriend things No! Proximity & propinquity should only be allowed for matured people, even though, due to some behaviors, one can hardly spot the difference between the matured and immatured ones...

So if the cap fits, you're free to ware it...

26/06/2019

Nice to know that you are still with us...

Today, I will be talking about "LOVE LANGUAGE".

Yes, I know by hearing this, some will be like; which one come be love language? Did love have language?

Yeah! When we talk about "love language" we are simply referring to ways by which individuals gives & receive love.
How did you know that someone loves you? How did you feel to be loved? What did you want from people who love you?

In this case, the language we mean is not that of systematic means of communication(s) but an act through which emotions can be transferred from one person to another....
With all indications, there are possiblity that some people might be in love, but have absolutely different love language......
What did I mean? Both of them do see love in different ways, it doesn't mean that they did not Love or cherrish themselves, but to some extent, they must see where the gap lies.....

Understanding each other's love language (for people who are in love) is very very pertinent.
It helps to solve some emotional or affectional problems...
For instances, when you met a total stranger whom you are not hearing his/her language and you are not conversant with using signal dictator .... the communication there will be in a mess... Not even the person in question will get what you are saying...
That's how it is in love, when you are sincerely ignorant of the other person's love language.....

According to Dr. Gary Chapman, there are five (5) love languages.
Each an every one of us has one. Your own maybe different from my own...

But one thing in this love language is that, no matter that people in love may have different love language, it doesn't stop them from being soulmate, once it was well understood by both of them....
The main thing is that, I understand what you want as love and you do the same....

So number (1)
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION: Some people, their love language is words of affirmation, which means that what they want from their lovers is only sweet words. To them, hearing their lover saying something like; I love you. You're beautiful. Your dressing is good. You are one in a millions. Baby you are sweet.... etc
These are the only way to melt their hearts.... Once you are bathing them with all these loving words, then you are good to go in their side.

(2)
ACT OF SERVICE:
There was a saying that "a man's meat could be the next man's poison".....
People with the love language of "act of service" have nothing to do with "words of affirmations".
To them, the only thing that shows that you love them is being dutiful. Dedicated to their welfare -- personal & otherwise---
Being active in whatever you are doing... They hate dullness, sluggard, laziness and so forth....

For instance, such people will expect their lover to always wash their clothes, do the dishes and clean up everywhere..... And coming short in any of these, you did not Love them....

(3)
PHYSICAL TOUCH:
If you look around, you must notice that there are some people who always want to hold the hand of someone they claim to loves, even in public. They want to feel their lover's physical contact...They are the kind with this sorts of love language.

Once they are around the person they love, they must want to be closer to that person..
Touching one part of that person or another..
Any other thing apart from that to them, is not love....

(4)
QUALITY TIME:
People with "quality time" as their love language will always want to be steady with their lover... Staying with the person alone, will satisfied them.
To them, staying away from them is a big punishment to their love life. They can't afford to miss their lover for so long.... They need togetherness.

Spending hours, talking, discussing and chartting with the person is more to them, than food of any kind.

Finally, (5)
GIFT:
Many of us are aware of this. Giving gifts to someone we love. Ask some girls, how can they say that someone loves them? ....and you will hear they say that it is when that person is always giving or buying her something....

Giving or receiving any items from your loved ones always or frequently, is a topical signal that your emotional language is "Gift"...

Also, expecting your lover to mainly come up with something as gift is equally the same thing....

Now I hope that at this time, you have known no doubt, the particular area that you belong now, in terms of love language......
Believe me, once you are aware of all these things, it will be easier for you to manage every relationship with whom or wherever you may found yourself.......

Once you understand what that person likes, and knowing that it is not their fault to be like that, then, you will have a better chance to know how to handle it.

Thanks for reading.....
God bless you!

24/06/2019

"You call it madness, but I call it love"
"Where there is love there is life"
" Age does not protect you from love, but love to some extent protect you from age"

With these beautiful and amazing love quotes, I welcome you to this edition.
Last time I promise to be talking about the disparities ( differences) between love and like....

It will be interesting to let you know that in recent years, some psychological scholars had begun what seems like a systematic comparison of love according to their own assessments of the nature of love.....thereby arguing on the question of the different between love & like?

---Is the difference a quantitative one, such that love is simply an intense form of liking? Or is there a qualitative difference between liking and loving?
But for you to know how much incomprehensible this love is, they have never come up with a generally, fully and unquestioned fact to separate the two...

Notwithstanding, there three points at least, to say that love and like is mostly in uniformity....

(1) Imagination plays much role in love, while liking is more reality; you can say, more serious.
Yes. Imagination, fantasy, illusions, mirage, false, lying, fake promises, etc
All these has blasphemed & bastardized the pure image of love... People now love with interior motive...
The kind of fake promises that some people make nowadays in the name of love is too alarming & monstrosity...
It is all these nincompoop & untidy views that people takes in place of love which had make it so cheap...

So that's why in the other hand, liking seems more natural, serious... cos you can hardly hear somebody telling you that due to the kind of likeness he/she had for you, he/she can not sleep without you... and you will believe....he can only convince you by using love which sounds sweet...

(2) Love can involve negative and positive ( loving & hating the person with time) while liking involves only one affection and also, been straight forward.

One can say indubitandumly that there are possiblity that someone can inversely hate someone he had loved once. though there is a higher proportion that it can as well happen to liking, but the name is more vividly appears in the cease of love...
Again, Sexual affections is more experienced in loving screen than liking screen...

But here, wholeheartedly, "like" is only like, no matter how you emphasize it.. Its no duplicate. And even, people takes is more likely than love....

Finally, the 3rd one is;
Liking becomes more durable over time, While love tend to weaken...

Here it is more understandable. See, when you like something or someone, it entails that you like it's nature. You naturally li it. You like it with no condition.... it is unconditional, what we called Agape. Come rain, come Sun even heat, you still like it...
But once you love because of what you see.. Or that you were moved by merely emotion... Anytime that thing stop to empress you, the love we fade... Why? It is obvious, it was conditioned.

I love this beautiful lady. Oh my God! She is like morning Sun! It's all fallacy... Don't forget, the love chemical reacting in your body my seize one day and you will have no other option than to see her augly part....

Nevertheless, love someone once you're ware of what you are doing....
Sam Keen says and I quote "Love isn't finding a perfect person, it' s seeing an imperfect person perfectly"

Thank you and God bless you!!!

22/06/2019

Once again, I welcome you to this platform.

First I would like to start with the intrinsic meaning of love... I could have said the definition of love.... But not even the psychologists are able by now, to capture the whole definition of love....

In this current century, it is so disgusting, what the children of nowadays do take in place of love.
And one can unequivocally, say that all these started in our various homes...
The parents of todays are too stingy to let their children know what they aught to know embryonically, by themselves. So it becomes so harmful and as well, more thrilling when they got it outside....

Today, people prefer to hear, "I like you" than "I love you". Why? Due to the diversity of an erotically mentality of the present humane....
No child of 12+years now, will hear you tell him/her that you love him/her without a speedy reactions of an unnecessary lustful thing in his/her mind.....
And atimes, you don't have to reprimand the person's ignorance...it was leant in a wrongful but no-other-option-way... I said it cos, assuming that their parents build them up with that phrase -- I love you -- they would have known by now, that it was not harmful... But now, they grew up and met it in a practicable way.....the place Where immediately they're saying I love you, the sayer will also be demonstrating it by touching one of your parts or the other......

Charity, they said, begins at home. Where did bad things began? At home also!

Now, in some works of life, Love can be seen as a strong positive emotional regards and affections........
Look, here is where most of us do get often confused , the deep and interconnected meaningful words here is; emotional & affections........

You know, once someone began to assess a lexicongraphical books and seeing a bilaterally encoded words there, (like where you see love, you equally see s*xual affections) they may began to misuse it -- Love and Sexual feelings-- not knowing that, there is choice of words, in different places, and that for them to be in same hemisphere doesn't mean, they're used interchangeably.....

Emotional affections that appears in love does not make it simply Sexual.
Listen, it is a "strong-positive" not negative. Yes you knows the moral. That's why I said "not negative" ...... moral teachs positive and not otherwise.......

So, saying I love you to someone is very very normal in so far as you know really, what love is....
Ignorant is not only when someone did not know anything, you are also, absolutely, ignorant when you filled your head with wrong things.

Parents, there is nothing wrong when your child or children comes back from school or anywhere, you hold them, kiss them, tell them "I love you". It is not only for parental mutuality, its also for them to have it in mind that whenever someone say such to them, it will not be new in their ear, and they can be able to refute and tell the person that "my mum or my dad has been saying that to me" and they will not be intimidated....

But when you're always saying that, you don't want to corrupt your children by doing all that, I promise you, when they get outside (school) they will be forced to learn it wrongfully and as well hide it for you.....

Always do the needful..... God bless you!

Next time, I will continue with the differences between love and like............

22/06/2019

This page will from now henceforth, be dealing decisively in some complicated issues surrounding Love...... So far, we've understood that some people are misinterpreting the word "LOVE". Though, nobody knows it all, but we hope to do justice here as it concerns love....

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