23/04/2024
Do people actually enjoy marriage because we hear more negative stories about it? No doubt, people are enjoying their marriages, married people consistently reported their happiness levels higher than their unmarried counterparts. The research why some couples enjoy their marriages and others suffer pain and regret, should be communicated.
We do not get to hear of sweet stories about the institution, perhaps most couples want to stay away from evil eyes. A lot of blessings are attached to marriage, what most people cannot achieve as single individuals, they get them being married.
The religion has gone beyond copy and paste, you need to understand what the creed says for proper application, if you observe, one of the reasons why we have many unmarried persons is ignorance. We are very educated and religious, yet we run marriage without knowledge.
You will see the confidence many people display when we talk about relationship and marriage, but in reality, the performance is abysmal. Marriage in our time is like someone who has never driven a car before, no driving school experience, but he gets on the wheel, taking passengers from Lagos to Accra. You cannot give what you do not have, that brother or sister does not have it, so stop setting unrealistic expectations. Marry a man or woman that is educated maritally.
If the brother or sister you intend to marry does not understand the proper process as you do, give them time to attend relationship and marriage class, read books and participate in seminars, allow partners to be on the same level with you in terms of understanding, this will help you in the eventual Nikah.
Always pay attention to details.