
18/08/2025
I'm asking for your opinion on a serious family issue. Very early last year January, my husband abandoned me with our 3 kids & went to live with his girlfriend, who is a secondary school teacher & also a single mom of a 4-year-old boy
Actually, we've been married for close to 6 years. God blessed us with 3 beautiful daughters who turned out to all be albinos. My husband doesn't show any fatherly affection towards his own daughters – instead, every single day, he blames me for giving him albino children.
He claims he's the first child from his mom & has 4 siblings, but none of them have an albino baby – he wonders why he should be the one to have an albino child. However, I was told by his younger cousin, who happens to be very close to me, that my husband's great-great-grandpa was an albino, though his wife never gave birth to albino babies.
But my husband has refused to believe that he can be the reason why we're having such kids. He used to be loving & caring until the birth of our first daughter; then he got worse after the birth of our last child. My husband abandoned me at the hospital the day that i gave birth to our last child & even refused to settle the hospital bills. Thank God for my family, who came to the hospital to settle my bill, & I got out. Even after being advised not to go back to his house, I still went back to his house cuz of the love I have for him. All these years, he has mistreated me & my babies. It's been difficult for us since I have to run to him for everything after he married me & stopped me from working, despite that I'm a graduate.
He'll sleep out for days & even up to a week, even when I was breastfeeding, not minding if I & the children have had anything to eat.
When my baby was 1 year 7 months, his attitude got even worse. He abandoned us & moved in with his girlfriend. This time, he'll sleep out for a week or two & only come home to pick up a document or some clothes. I didn't have a choice, so I pleaded with my mom to give me some money to start up a tomato business, & it's from this business that I'm able to feed myself & the kids & also pay bills & provide for us other necessities. Later, I decided to move out & go stay with my parents & continued with my tomato business, hoping that when my husband comes home & discovered I've moved out, he'll come to look for me & probably apologize or fix things. Instead, he seemed happy & brought his girlfriend into our matrimonial home.
Well, I continued with my tomato business. There's this regular customer that I had, a guy – he's a bachelor. He'll always pass by & wait at the roadside in his car & I'll rush to supply his tomatoes. We got close & he later asked me out. I had to hold on, waiting for & expecting my husband to come for me. But after some time, I decided to give the guy a try – he's so caring & loving; we had x & I got pregnant. While I was a months pregnant, I heard my husband's girlfriend was about 4 months pregnant too. The shocking thing is that she gave birth months later to an albino girl. While I gave birth to a normal child (a boy)
The day I gave birth, I cried my eyes out, remembering how my husband used to insult me for giving him only albino kids, accusing me of being the one with the problem. When my husband heard I'd given birth, he came to the hospital to make trouble with my fiancé, claiming that the baby was his. The hospital security had to send him away. He later reported the case, claiming that the baby is his, & we were asked to conduct a DNA test. Finally, the results confirmed that he wasn't the father. My fiance' is so loving & Caring, he loves my dauters & has promised to get me a well paid job at the bank were he works when I'm done breastfeeding our son
Our traditional marriage with my fiancé is scheduled in 2 months, but my husband has refused to move on or collect his dowry payment back. We never did a court wedding; we only did a traditional wedding, but he's refusing to collect his dowry, claiming that I'm still his wife, & he has sent the other woman with her kids away from his house. It's been over a month, & he wouldn't allow me to rest as he keeps coming around to make trouble with my man & apologize & beg me for forgiveness. He's just refused to move on, & I'm confused about what to do."