07/12/2025
When I tell people that the first place to build discipline is your mouth… they think I’m being dramatic.
But guess what?
You do anyhow, you see anyhow.
When you eat without structure, you lose structure in your life.
You lose boundaries. You lose rhythm. You lose respect — both from yourself and from others.
And before you start typing “body shaming” in the comments, read this:
Fat is not just size. It’s a symptom.
A symptom of stress.
A symptom of inflammation.
A symptom of deep-rooted pain masked by swallow, soda, and late-night yam frying.
But what makes it worse?
When fat meets entitlement.
When someone is battling weight issues and still believes they don’t have to adjust anything — not food, not sleep, not lifestyle.
Now flip it.
When someone loves you enough to point out that your body is in distress, and your first response is defensiveness instead of reflection, that’s not confidence. That’s coping.
Because let’s be real:
• Waking up to fry potatoes alone isn’t love. It’s loss of control.
• Eating swallow at midnight isn’t freedom. It’s a flag.
• Ignoring your health and dragging others with you? That’s not “body positivity.” That’s metabolic sabotage.
But here’s where I draw the line:
Disrespect is not correction.
Cruelty is not communication.
Yes, fat can dull your mind.
But verbal violence can rot your home.
Yes, you should watch your weight.
But you should also watch your mouth.
Especially if you’re a husband weaponizing shame instead of offering support.
Because guess what?
Fat doesn’t make people walk like pigs.
Your trauma does. Your lack of empathy does. Your ignorance does.
If you’re living with someone battling food addiction, trauma, or hormonal collapse —
And all you do is mock her, compare her to your mother, and cheat on her…
You’re not strong. You’re spineless.
Your solution to a sick partner was to get another woman?
Not help her heal? Not support her discipline?
You wanted a s*x doll, not a wife.
To everyone reading this:
Don’t be the one who lets yourself go and calls it “enjoyment.”
Don’t be the one who mocks your partner’s downfall and calls it “honesty.”
And don’t be the one who confuses love with control.
Heal your body.
Heal your home.
Heal your habits.
If you want to unfat yourself — start with food.
If you want to fix your marriage — start with truth and structure.
Not shame. Not shouting. Not cheating.
It’s not just a stomach.
It’s a signal.
Don’t forget to reach out for a diet plan. Share and tag your friends.