11/11/2025
Story by a Nigerian Man
'I met her when she was 6 months pregnant. She told me the baby's father was married & he dumped her when she refused to terminate the pregnancy.
I took care of her until she gave birth. I paid thousands for her to give birth at a private hospital, cuz there were complications. I even had to borrow more money cuz what I had at the moment wasn't enough, as we had emergencies twice. The first was for her to give birth when complications occurred. Normally, I was prepared for that one, just in case, but what I wasn't prepared for was the one where we needed to save the baby. I rushed around & borrowed from good friends.
I paid that debt gradually for almost 8 months since my provision shop business hadn't been doing well. She has been staying with me since then & I take care of her & the baby. Since her grandmother, whom she lived with, isn't that strong & vibrant anymore & she's an orphan, I thought it wise to have her come to my place. My plan was to save enough money so we could open a small tomato business for her in order for her to start earning something & helping herself & the child, while I saved up for her bride price so we could start building our lives together.
The baby is now one & a half years old. & Eery weekend i try as much as possible to take us to a shoprite or any nice restaurant to have fun even though i make very little from my business but i do just to please her so she catches fun. Now, out of the blue, the baby's father wants to be part of the baby's life. I was not comfortable with it, but I understand he's the father. But shockingly, last month she told me she still loves the guy & she's leaving me for him. Even before telling me this, she's been seeing him, & worse, she's currently carrying a second child for him, even though she's been very protective & avoiding me getting her pregnant.
I've knelt, I've cried, I've pleaded for her to stay with me. I love this girl so much. I believe we all make mistakes cuz no one is perfect. I was willing to forgive her & accept the second child as mine without the biological father knowing of its existence, but she had told him about the pregnancy already even before she told me.
Basically, she dumped me—a guy who took care of her and was busy saving money for bride price—to be a side chick again to someone who dumped her when she needed him the most, cuz the guy has promised her marriage. I don't want to lie, I'm more disappointed than hurt. We made so many plans for the future & I was looking forward to spending the rest of my life with her. I'm 38 years old. At this stage, I doubt I'll ever be with another woman.'
