NkyLaw

NkyLaw A human rights lawyer | Gender Advocate | Marriage & Relationship Advisor | Food skills | Fun life
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06/06/2026

Babes and guys are everywhere like salt of life. It's when you are ready for marriage you will understand that there is scarcity of good choices for a life partner.

Childhood dream vs. Reality: What did you want to be in life, and what are you now? As for me, NkyLaw, I wanted to be a ...
06/06/2026

Childhood dream vs. Reality: What did you want to be in life, and what are you now?

As for me, NkyLaw, I wanted to be a teacher, writer and human rights lawyer.

I chose the teaching part from time immemorial. I started writing when I was 9 years and the legal aspect when I was 8 years old.

Today, by God's grace, I am all that I aspired for.

Instead of being a secondary school teacher, I stand in a University classroom to teach Master's students and support their academic journey at an international University outside Nigeria. 🥰

I am an academic scholar/researcher with publications in internationally accredited publishing houses and journals.

I am a human rights lawyer, with specialty in women's rights and family law. I run an NGO through which I bring to fulfilment my passion for being the voice of the voiceless women.

At times, our desired path become a reality. In some cases, they remain mere wishes and aspirations because of many factors.

Whether you are there or not, be grateful for where you are.

If it's not too late, you can still be where you want to be to have fulfillment.

Believe me, it doesn't come easy. It comes with many challenges and limiting factors like funds and support systems.

Believe in yourself, pull down all walls limiting you, and see yourself be who you want to be.

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The owner of the mouth wey súck prîck last night like Hollilop and the one wey lick vagíñá like say e dey lick dripping ...
06/06/2026

The owner of the mouth wey súck prîck last night like Hollilop and the one wey lick vagíñá like say e dey lick dripping ogbono soup, don dey iron clothes now to go use am praise God for church tomorrow.

Na dem go speak in tongue pass and dey shout, "Abbah Father, answer me! I will never let you go unless you bless me. Father say my problems are over."

Their noise no go allow you concentrate to pray your own. Out of pity sef you go forget your prayer point begin beg God to answer their prayers.

Some go even use that mouth collect Holy Communion.

Oh, Abba Father is indeed a good God. Slow to anger and rich in mercy.

Continue to iron the clothes, e no go burn.

After all, Jesus say "I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance".

He say him no come for the 99 good people, na that one wey miss Him dey find.

Somebody should tell Jesus say na two people wey miss him dey find no be one.

One na woman wey dey súck and the other na man wey dey líck.

Make him find them go Emeka house, him go see something.

By the time he see wetin Emeka and Amaka mouth dey do, him sef go scream, "My Father, if it is possible, let this cup pass from me..."

That shortest Bible verse, "Jesus wept" no supposed be for Lazarus.

Jesus sef know say na suckimus and lickidemus him supposed weep for.

Enjoy your weekend!

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© NkyLaw, Mummy G.O of the one and only Take it or Leave it - I no send you Ministry.

Have you heard of an "Act of God" as a legal defence? An act of God is a legal defence that saves a party from liability...
06/06/2026

Have you heard of an "Act of God" as a legal defence?

An act of God is a legal defence that saves a party from liability for damage or contract failure caused by extraordinary and unforeseen forces.

Let's make it clear!

Emeka engaged Obinna a building engineer to build a bungalow for him. Obinna spent ₦3million for the German floor of the foundation (DPC) during raining season.

Same day, there was an heavy rain and it washed off the casting because the cement was still very wet. Obinna is asking Emeka for another money to redo the German floor but Emeka is claiming he had already paid for that stage and Obinna must get it done.

Obinna said he cannot use his money to redo it because he did not deliberately cause the damage and there was nothing he could have done to prevent the rain from falling and damaging the work. That it's an Act of God.

Emeka takes Obinna to court for the damage and for refund of the money spent for that stage of work.

Obinna's defence of an Act of God will not save him from liability. This is because the natural event was foreseeable as it's raining season.

Standard seasonal rains in Nigeria are generally not considered unforeseeable Acts of God in law.

To claim an Act of God as a legal defence, three major criteria must be met:

👉The event must come purely from natural forces (e.g., unusually severe floods, earthquakes, or lightning) without any human intervention or negligence.

👉The event must be so extraordinary and unexpected that it could not be reasonably foreseen by human foresight or skill.

👉It must be practically impossible to prevent the consequences or damage, even if you had exercised all reasonable care and preparation.

Once an Act of God is proven, you won't be liable for the damage.

If an Act of God prevents you from performing an agreement, you cannot be held liable for breach of contract.

If Obinna can prove that he advised Emeka to suspend the work until dry season but Emeka insisted on having it done during raining season, Obinna can rely on that to avoid liability.

In summary, a person cannot be held liable for a breach of contract or damage caused by natural forces beyond their control.

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Madam, I know you have many chores to get done and you don't have a maid or a supportive husband. Please, one at a time....
06/06/2026

Madam, I know you have many chores to get done and you don't have a maid or a supportive husband.

Please, one at a time. Do as much as your strength can carry.

Whichever you cannot do today can wait till tomorrow or till whenever you can.

No go dey do pass yourself because them no dey give award for the most hardworking woman.

Stress ki||s! We are all built differently and there is a limit to what your body can carry.

Know your limit and know when your body is saying, "I am tired. I need rest."

If you don't pay attention to your body's warnings because you want to please a man, if you collapse, na you lose.

If you use housework ki|| yourself, that's when you will know that your husband can afford a maid.

It's only one minute silence that you will receive. The next minute, he is looking for someone to replace you.

A good and supportive husband will not sit, cross his legs, be watching TV and be pressing his phone all day while you díé doing all the chores in the house and still managing the children alone.

If he says making money for the family is more stressful and he cannot assist in running his home, swap roles.

Be making the money while he does what you do that he sees as nothing.

If he cannot support you, he should get you someone to support you. Either a live-in maid or a visiting maid.

Don't lose yourself and your life trying to please anyone. A true husband is meant to be a life partner and support system, and not a slave driver.

Happy sanitation day!

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NkyLaw, he is a married man but we love each other so much. Good morning ma, sorry to disturb you without your permissio...
05/06/2026

NkyLaw, he is a married man but we love each other so much.

Good morning ma, sorry to disturb you without your permission.

I am 24 years and I have a man that I am in a serious relationship with but he is a married man. We love each other and he provides anything that I want.

My man has asked me to marry him because his wife gave him only girls and they are 5 girls. He wants me to bear male children for him but he doesn't want to have children outside marriage and that he will always take care of anything I want.

The problem is that he has told his first wife and she is kicking against the marriage that there shall be no second wife or any other wife after her.

My guy said he will rent another apartment for me to stay but she is really making trouble and my man is saying I should follow her gently because she needs to be in support of the marriage.

I told him to divorce her for peace to reign but he said that can never happen that I should just corporate.

Do you know this woman came to my father's house today and I thought she was coming to show support but she came to warn me to stay away. She said if I choose to marry her husband that no problem that I will be getting pregnant but all I will ever see is the blóôd of the children and not the children themselves.

I feel thréátened and I don't know what to do and my man doesn't seen to be doing anything about it.

Please ma what do I do to end this tension so he can marry me? Does she have a right to decide whether he will marry a second wife or not and it's just traditional marriage they have? Should I arrest her for thréàt and that she will be responsible if anything happens to me? I love my guy ma and I don't want to lose him.

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NkyLaw, can DNA test be done through a father's brother if the child shows up in the family when the alleged father is l...
05/06/2026

NkyLaw, can DNA test be done through a father's brother if the child shows up in the family when the alleged father is late to confirm the paternity?

👉Yes, a father's brother/sister can be used for DNA test sample.

The result will not read 99.9% but it will read about 60-70% to show close blóôd ties.

However, it's important to be sure the child's uncle/aunty is truly the biological brother of the late father.

If he is not the biological brother of the late father, the result will show no connection and that will result in denying the child his true paternity.

This means that the family history needs to be traced to be sure the late father and the person to be used as sample were born by the same parent for accurate result.

If there is no living blóôd relation to use as sample, the child's mother and the child will need to really prove hard that the child was fathered by the late man.

In specific legal disputes, a court can order the exhumation of the deceased's remains from the grave to collect a DNA sample.

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Simple facts you should know about carrying out a DNA paternity test:I will share based on my personal involvement in pa...
05/06/2026

Simple facts you should know about carrying out a DNA paternity test:

I will share based on my personal involvement in paternity sagas in Nigeria.

👉You need to identify a DNA testing facility to use.

👉You need the tested individuals (usually the alleged father and the child) to be present.

👉Have a budget of about ₦200,000 for DNA test for 1 father and 1 child. For an extra child, budget additional ₦100,000 and keep adding ₦100,000 depending on the number of children to be tested.

👉The DNA test can be for personal use, immigration or legal proceedings.

👉For immigration and legal proceedings, you will need the following documents:

📍Two passport photographs for parent and child.
📍 Valid ID for parent and child
📍Birth certificate of the child.
📍Paternity consent form duly filled by parent and child above 18 years.
📍Consent of the other parent or legal guardian(s) for persons below 18 years.

👉Samples must be collected by an authorized third party (like a medical doctor or lab technician) directly at the DNA facility to ensure the results can be used in a court of law.

👉DNA can be conducted on a pregnant woman to determine the paternity of the child she is carrying.

👉No official identification is usually required for a purely personal test.

👉Results are usually ready in about 1 to 2 weeks.

👉Biological samples for DNA testing includes:

📍 Buccal (cheek) swab. The inside of the mouth is gently rubbed with a sterile cotton swab to collect cheek cells.

📍Blóôd samples (often collected by a healthcare professional at the clinic).

📍Maternal blóôd (for testing on a pregnant woman to determine child's paternity).

📍Follicles, nails, and toothbrushes (for forensic or personal testing).

Therefore, before you ask for DNA, be ready to follow these process.

If you carried out a private DNA test on a child and discover you are not the father, the Court may not rely on that result to declare paternity fràúd.

This is because the procedure may not have followed legal requirements for documentation and consent. You will have to process another DNA based on court's order.

Are you ready to clear your doubt about the paternity of your child that you are not sure of?

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12 facts to note when you discover that the child you have been raising is not yours. The stories of men discovering tha...
05/06/2026

12 facts to note when you discover that the child you have been raising is not yours.

The stories of men discovering that the children they raised are not theirs are becoming rampant.

These are key points you should know:

👉The law believes that every child born during a valid marriage is the child of the woman's husband.

👉If you doubt the paternity of your child, you must go for Deoxyribonucleic Acid (DNA) test to confirm it. Mere suspicion is not evidence and the court will continue to treat the child as yours until DNA is done.

👉The cost of DNA test is borne by the person who is denying paternity because the law says, "He who asserts must prove."

👉If DNA test shows that the child is not yours, then you can say that your child's mother committed PATERNITY FRÀÚD.

👉Paternity fràúd is the act of deceitfully leading a spouse or sexúàl partner to assume or believe that he is the biological father of a child which in real sense does not belong to him.

👉To claim paternity fràúd, you have to prove that the woman knew the child is not yours but kept deceiving you.

👉Nigerian law did not expressly provide for paternity fràúd as a crimiñàl offéñce. This means that there is nothing like paternity fràúd in the law.

👉Even though Nigerian crimiñàl laws did not consider paternity fràúd as an offéñce, victims reserves a right of action in damages/compensation under the civil laws.

👉 A victim of paternity fràúd can sue the woman for damages/compensation through a civil case to recover every financial loss and psychological pàín incurred as a result of such deceit.

👉Not every case of paternity fràúd entitles you to compensation. The Courts have held that:

📍Where no loss was incurred from a wrong you are not entitled to damages. If you did not spend on the child, nothing for you.

Even when you have spent money on the child, the court will decide how much you should get as compensation.

📍If the wrong is excused under a legal defence, the person who brought the case is not entitled to damages. That is, if the mother sincerely did not know that the child is not yours, no compensation for you.

👉In the case of a married couple, you can rely on it to file for divorce on grounds of adultery.

👉You can have the woman arrested and charged for fràúd and crimiñàl deceit if you can prove she is aware of the true paternity.

In summary, mere suspicion is not proof of adultery. Evidence is required!

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Who says children don't know a thing? I was speaking to my son and he said I should come back home. I explained to him t...
04/06/2026

Who says children don't know a thing?

I was speaking to my son and he said I should come back home.

I explained to him that I will but not yet. He said I have stayed enough that I should come back home now.

He added that I should get a flight ticket and go to the airport that he is watching me and I should not end the call until I get to the airport.

In my mind, I said, "See 4 years pikin dey give me order."

I told him, "Okay, I have heard you. Let me pack my things and come back home."

With a loud voice he said, "Now!" 😲

I responded, "Yes boss but if I come back now, just know that you are not allowed to say mummy I want fried gizzard, ice cream, meat pie, Pringles, milkshake and all the things you always demand from me. You will face your father 100%."

He asked why and I said, "Because you asked me to leave money and come back earlier than I am supposed to. So I won't have money to spend on you."

The next thing I heard was, "Mummy, don't come back. Stay there okay? Come back in one thousand and fifty years time." 🤣🤣🤣

See this boy o. I asked, "I thought you want me to head straight to the airport?"

He said, "I don't want you to come back again because I want you to buy me meatpie and ice cream and anything that I want."

In life, there are consequences for choices and decisions and my boy got the point. 🤣🤣

The sad part is that I will receive tasking and if I say no, he will demand for my return. When it happens, I will come up with something else to avoid his demands.

See you all in one thousand and fifty years time. Who will be here with me then? 🥰

Always choose wisely!

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