07/07/2025
5 Things You Should NEVER Be Confused About in a Relationship
Because love isn’t trial and error — it’s purpose and clarity.
1. WHAT ARE WE? (IDENTITY)
You’ve been calling him “baby”, “my king”, “the sugar in my tea” for 6 months straight…
Meanwhile, you don’t even know if you’re in a relationship or just vibing on vibes.
Sis, if you still need Google Maps to understand what you’re doing with him, it’s time for a clarity meeting.
🚩 Unclear status = potential heartbreak loading.
2. WHY ARE WE DOING THIS? (MOTIVE)
Let’s get real. Why are you both here?
Is it love… lust… pity… boredom… or just pressure from church aunties asking, “When will you marry?”
Ask yourself:
Do I love this person?
Do they love me — for real, or for convenience?
If love isn’t the foundation, the building will collapse.
🚫 Don’t enter a relationship with confusion — that’s how people enter marriages with regret.
3. WHERE IS THIS GOING? (DESTINATION)
It’s been 2 years and you still don’t know whether this thing is headed to marriage or Moriah camp revival meeting.
Relationships are meant to go somewhere — and no, “Let’s just flow” is not a direction.
🎯 Ask:
“Where do we see this ending?”
If nobody knows, one of you is just a pitstop on the other’s emotional road trip.
4. WHEN IS THIS HAPPENING? (TIMING)
Sis: Every time you ask “When are we moving forward?”, he says:
– “Don’t rush me.”
– “I want to make money first.”
– “I’m still trying to figure things out.”
But when he wanted your number, he figured that out FAST!
Time doesn’t pause for relationship confusion.
⏳ Set timelines. Plan ahead. Love with a purpose.
5. AM I SURE I WANT FOREVER WITH THIS PERSON? (CONVICTION)
Let’s not fake it — some of us are dating people we can’t even imagine marrying.
So… why are you still there?
If he proposes today, will your answer be YES… or “Holy Spirit, please say something before I faint”?
Relationships aren’t placeholders — they’re investments.
Be sure before you stay.
Final Words:
Clarity is godly. Confusion is costly.
As Apostle Joshua Selman wisely said:
“Confusion in a relationship is a sign that there is no clarity.”
💬 Stop guessing. Ask questions. Define it. Seek God.
Because when love is real and clear, peace follows.
Apostle Abraham Drisu
Apst Abraham Drisu
